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If you’ve ever felt flustered, inadequate and simply not up to par when the opportunity for intercourse presents itself, then you have definitely experienced sexual performance anxiety. If you’re dreading the thought of going through it again there’s no need to worry just yet. You’ll get the complete lowdown on how to eliminate sexual performance anxiety as soon as you finish giving this article a thorough read-through.

There are natural ways that you can use to easily eliminate sexual performance anxiety.

What really is sexual performance anxiety?

Sexual performance anxiety is basically a form of negative emotion in which a person thinks that the consequences of a sexual encounter are going to be disastrous. The most common example among men is the thought that they may have an insufficient penile length and girth or sexual stamina that won’t possibly satisfy a willing partner and as for women, the lack of performance under the sheets that could lead to the displeasure of the opposite sex.

There is no specific gender, personality type, age, race and educational attainment when sexual performance anxiety is concerned. Those who are struggling to cope with this disorder are generally afraid of losing the affection and respect that they receive from their partners due to their supposed shortcomings in the bedroom. If not addressed right away, it can lead to even more severe sexual issues sooner or later.

How to eliminate sexual performance anxiety

Although it may not sound as dramatic as other anxiety disorders, sexual performance anxiety can cause a variety of problems ranging from the development of low self-esteem, the deterioration of romantic relationships, coital dysfunction like premature ejaculation, lack of desire for sex and difficulty maintaining an erection, as well the fear of having future sexual experiences.

Now that may sound a bit scary but there are ways you can easily eliminate sexual performance anxiety. Here are just some of the most practical methods you can use to bring back your sexual vigor and confidence:

  • Assess your life outside the bedroom. Have you recently reflected whether or not you are living a stressful life? Stress can come in different forms, particularly in the guise of too much work, too much caffeine, too much tobacco and too much alcohol. Moreover, stress can warp your mindset when it comes to sexual pleasure and you might just view it as another item on your day’s to-do list. Try to remove as much stress factors in your life and you’ll be soon seeing positive changes.
  • Get more exercise. Did you know that exercising regularly not only makes you healthier but also promotes a significant lessening of tension in your body, including sexual performance anxiety? Make it a point to start an exercise routine that suits you as soon as possible to get the results you’ve always wanted. As a bonus, if you’re single you’ll increase your chances with the opposite sex as soon as they see your sexy new physique.
  • Think positive. The human mind is so awesome that you can program it to make your future sexual experiences either award-winning or rather horrible. If you pre-condition your mind that you’re going to perform poorly the next time you get intimate with your partner in the bedroom, chances are you’re going to do just that. Just remember to relax and think positive when doing the deed and you’re sure to take sexual pleasure up a notch.

Foreplay Doesn't Have To Just Happen In The Bedroom

Not a fan of foreplay? Here’s a great method to use so you don’t have to spend the first 30 minutes under the sheets waiting for sex…

Now if you’re a guy who doesn’t really enjoy foreplay that much (or at least loves sex 1000x more than foreplay) then that’s OK.

But one fact you will have to face is that turning on a woman doesn’t happen instantly.

Men can be aroused in a matter of seconds, but for women this just isn’t the case.

So the trick here is to be wise about HOW and WHEN you arouse your women.

You see, the “old-school” thinking behind foreplay is that when you’re in bed with a woman you need to start turning her on, therefore you engage in foreplay.

And if you subscribe to this way of thinking then unfortunately foreplay in bed is pretty much unavoidable, because like I said earlier women need at least some time to be turned on.

Now if as soon as you get into bed you want to start having sex then you’re going to need a different approach.

And this is what I recommend…

Perform foreplay THROUGHOUT THE DAY.

Whenever you interact with your woman during the day, whether it be via text, phone, e-mail or in person – start turning her on.

Be sexual.

And just like you would in foreplay slowly raise the intensity and intimacy of the stimulation.

So start by talking about stroking her hair and kissing her neck first, and then later move on to talking about her more intimate areas and what you’re going to do to them.

If you sprinkle this kind of interaction throughout the day with your woman, then by the time it comes to sex she will so horny you won’t believe it.

Remember a woman’s mind is INCREDIBLY active and she’ll be fantasising all day about you if you stimulate her well with your conversation.

And what you’ll find is that all this conversation IS YOUR FOREPLAY.

The purpose of foreplay is to turn a woman on and to prepare her for sex… And this is exactly what you’re doing by communicating with her sexually and teasing her all day long.

So when you finally meet in bed she’ll be so horny that you won’t need the “traditional” foreplay before having sex… She’ll be ready for it.

Seriously… The power of this approach when done right is AMAZING.

And, if you so wish, eliminates the need for foreplay in the bedroom.

(Of course, if you do decide to add some “traditional” foreplay then the results will be even more powerful)

So now you know how to skip foreplay you better be sure you can last long in bed!  Check out this article on Premature Ejaculation to make sure you avoid it from happening.

There are a lot of misconceptions and myths about sex floating around in the world and here’s how to avoid succumbing to them…

Now what inspired this blog post was an article I just read called 9 Sex ‘Rules’ To Break Tonight.

And the fact is that as we grow up and learn more about sex we tend to pick up and believe things about sex that are just plain wrong.

women keeping quiet

The truth about sex is often hard to figure out

And when we let these misconceptions and myths about sex run our sex lives they can cause some serious damage…

We can end up not enjoying sex or not being able to make our partner happy just because we have a false belief that doing a certain thing is wrong.

Let me give you a specific example…

One of the 9 sex myths featured in the article I mentioned was “porn is the enemy”.

Now I have mentioned in the past that I think when men copy the actions of male porn stars it doesn’t help their sex life.

But just watching it on the other hand I don’t personally think is a bad thing.

Especially if you do it as a couple during sex to make things more interesting.

In fact it’s a great way to add some variety and some excitement to the bedroom.

And most women will probably enjoy it if it’s presented to them in the right way.

The bottom line of what I’m trying to get across is to challenge your assumptions about sex.

Write down some of the beliefs you have about sex and take a moment to think about where they came from and if they’re really helping support you in having an incredible sex life.

It’ll make a world of difference.

But before you go watching a ton of porn during sex, take a moment to read this article on how to Prevent Premature Ejaculation, because it’ll give you some important warnings of how to NOT let porn influence you in a negative way.

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I’ve just come across what is probably THE easiest sex tip ever to apply.  Want to know what it is?…

Couple being intimate

This guy obviously knows a few sex tips

So the sex tip I’m talking about is this…

Hold your partners hands while having sex.

You don’t have to do it for the whole time you have sex, but if you do it for a few minutes you’ll find that it really improves the intimacy of sex…

Which, by the way, women LOVE.

Now, to be honest, I can’t take credit for this sex tip.  I discovered it while reading this article called Sex Tips: A Handy Way to Increase Intimacy.

But how easy is that?

Now you might be thinking…  “Jack, but this is hardly going to help me become the best lover she has ever had overnight…”

And my response would be…

You’re right.

This ALONE will not transform your love life overnight.

But what really leads to massive change in life and getting the BIG goals we want (like becoming an extraordinary lover or lasting over 30 minutes in bed)…

Is the grouping of MANY small changes.

Sure, this sex tip in itself won’t make you into a truly unforgettable lover, but what if you learned 10 different sex tips like this one and applied ALL OF THEM in one love making session.

Now my betting is that would make one HELL of a difference.

So keep up the learning, because it’s the accumulation of many small distinctions that helps you breakthrough to achieve the massive goals you want.

Oh, and here’s another VERY important sex tip you need to know, both if you want to be a better lover and last longer in bed…

It’s how to perform something known as Kegels For Men. Check it out now.