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You should definitely keep clear from these dating mistakes!

You should definitely keep clear from these dating mistakes!

If you’re anything like most men, acing a first date is definitely the top item in your checklist when you go out with a woman.

However, unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying these days, pulling off just that isn’t a walk in the park.

And just imagine how the whole thing will turn out if you follow their advice and “act like the alpha male” and wearing loud clothes.

So if you’re looking to really dazzle a woman the next time you’re going out on a first date, here are a few no-no’s that you should keep in mind to avoid…

Don’t pick a noisy place.

Sure the idea of going for a hip and fun venue for your date is absolutely a smart idea, but overdoing the whole “hip” and “fun” thing is going to lead to disaster even before you really got started.

Make it a point to choose a place that you can talk properly and not say “what” every time you say something.

Apart from being annoying, you can’t also listen to your date intently and exchange meaningful ideas with her while at it, which is one of the biggest deal-breakers in dating.

Don’t slouch and bow your head.

I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that women tend to think of guys who don’t have proper posture and won’t look them in the eye as not being very self-confident. And you can already have an idea of how your date will go when this happens, right?

Don’t talk about serious stuff.

Some guys mistakenly believe that if they really want to make an impression on a woman during a first date, talking about serious and complicated stuff should be on their checklist.

They think that women will see them as perceptive and intelligent, which will make it easier for them to convince them to say yes to a second date.

But the thing is it will only make your date think that you’re just pompous and a blowhard. Go for trivial topics instead. That’s a surefire way to engage her in a meaningful conversation as you go along.

Don’t touch your phone.

If you’re on a date, always make it a point to give your complete attention to the woman you are out with. Keep your hands off your mobile phone, tablet or any other gadget that you have along. Those tweets and status updates can wait.

So you'd like her to enjoy foreplay more...

So you’d like her to enjoy foreplay more…

So things are already heating up between the sheets…

And if you’re really looking to give your lover a sex session that she won’t forget anytime soon, bringing your A-game into play during foreplay is definitely a priority.

But the thing is you’re simply noticing that your best foreplay techniques aren’t hitting their mark anymore nowadays and it’s already affecting your confidence levels in the bedroom big time.

There’s no need to worry just yet though. Here are a few simple foreplay tricks that will definitely help you get the job done…

Make it a point to clean and organize your bedroom.

I know this sounds rather surprising right now, but the hormones that make a woman feel sexually aroused and make her feel happy are generally the same. The more of these hormones are produced and released in her body, the more she’s going to enjoy foreplay.

And if your lover is anything like most women, chances are she’s going to feel happy when she sees that your bedroom is in apple pie order. Now that’s going to boost your chances of really giving her a foreplay experience she will love.

Go as slow as you can easy.

Sure you may be tempted to get fast and furious during foreplay to pick up the pace when it comes to already sexually penetrating your lover, but making her wait for a long time will help stimulate her body produce and release more feel-good hormones.

Just imagine how explosive things will turn out when you do this.

Don’t go straight to the clitoris.

A lot of men mistakenly think that they should make a beeline to the clitoris as soon as they get the chance during foreplay. Sure this erogenous zone may provide a lot of pleasurable sensations when properly stimulated, but it needs to be allowed to prep up first to do so.

Keep in mind not to touch, caress or do anything to your partner’s clitoris unless she is completely sexually aroused.

Apart from the possibility of making her feel awkward or really uncomfortable to the point of pain, she won’t enjoy oral sex altogether even if you’re already bringing your A-game into play, too.

Let her call the shots.

Asking your partner what she likes during foreplay may not sound like a good idea (and may hit your ego a bit), but it will definitely make it easier for her to come during the action. Come to think of it. Who know your lover’s body better than she does?

Here are a few simple pointers to engage her in a conversation...

Here are a few simple pointers to engage her in a conversation…

One of the most important factors that can make or break your chances of acing a date is how you engage the woman you’re out with in a meaningful conversation.

Sure you already look and smell like a million bucks and got a reservation at most extravagant restaurant in town, but it’s still not enough to really get her talking anytime soon.

So if you’re looking to brush up on your dating conversational skills, here are a few simple topics that will help boost your chances of encouraging your date to join you in a meaningful conversation as you go along…

Ask her something trivial at the top of your head.

A lot of men mistakenly believe that a woman will be more encouraged to get in on a conversation if they go for the most complicated topic that they can think of.

But the thing is it will just lead to disaster even before you really got started. Go for trivial stuff instead.

You can easily ask your date what the name of her first pet was or what her favorite book is. And there’s no shortage of trivial stuff that you can ask her, too.

Simplistic, yes, but you’ll be surprised how much she will want to get her inputs in while at it.

Ask her about her clothes, shoes or accessories.

Women tend to give a lot of thought in terms of how they look during a date and you can use this to your advantage to get her talking when you two go out.

You can simply ask her where she got the necklace, bracelet, ring or brooch she’s wearing and its significance. Apart from making the woman you’re out with feel that you’re really interested in her, this also gives you extra brownie points for being quite observant.

Ask her where she last traveled to.

During my extensive research into the female psychology, I discovered that going to dream destinations and holiday hot spots are two of the things that stimulate a woman’s body to produce and release feel good hormones like dopamine and oxytocin.

Besides making your date feel more comfortable and relaxed around you, she’ll also associate being with you with nice feelings. How’s that for a very nice two for two?

Share a little secret.

Based on the results of a study conducted by the psychology department of the State University of New York at Stony Brook, women tend to build an emotional connection with men who share little secrets with them on a date.

This is because apart from getting a thrill of knowing a secret, they also get the notion that they are trustworthy and reliable leading to a spike in feel good hormones.

Make it a point to only share little secrets though since overdoing the whole thing may lead her to think that you’re already creepy and rather desperate.

 

Keep clear from these first date no-no's!

Keep clear from these first date no-no’s!

Unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying these days, there are no magic words or gestures that can instantly make you ace a date.

And you can easily blow your chances of convincing a woman to go out with you again if you follow their whole “dress in loud colors” and “act like the alpha male” routine as well.

However, I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that there are a few key mistakes that can prevent your date from really getting comfortable and establishing a connection with you.

Let me explain what I mean…

Don’t plan the whole thing yourself.

If you’re anything like most guys, you probably want to put together all the details of your first date yourself. Besides picking the venue, you’d also like to take charge of the food and drinks as well as the activities that the both of you will do while at it.

However, you are actually missing out on a lot when you do this.

Making it a point to get your date’s perspective on things won’t just give her the notion that you really care about her, but it’s also a way of ensuring that she will like the fruits of your efforts.

And it’s a simple strategy to have a clue of the things the woman you’re going on a date with also likes, which means more extra brownie points for you.

Don’t forget to wear clean shoes.

Women simply have a fascination with footwear in general, especially shoes. And showing up on your first date with a dirty pair is surely going to affect your chances of scoring a second one almost instantly.

This is because you won’t just make her think that you’re irresponsible, but also not that conscious with your grooming, which is also a key factor when it comes to wowing a woman on a first date.

Sure you may think that you already look and smell like a million bucks, but if your shoes don’t cut it, you’ll lose that second date.

Don’t be touchy feely.

Now while you can easily make a point across or emphasize an idea by doing a gesture or lightly touching your date, overdoing the whole thing is just going to lead to disaster.

Remember to keep your hands to yourself while at it. You’ll know that she’s already relaxed with you when she’s doing the touching herself.