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Here are a few tips to give your dating strategy a boost...

Here are a few tips to give your dating strategy a boost…

I’m pretty sure your ultimate goal during a first date is making an unforgettable impact to the woman you’re out with.

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” say though, pulling off just that isn’t about putting on specific articles of clothing or perhaps using supposedly surefire pickup lines that do the trick.

During my extensive research into the female psychology though, I picked up a few useful pointers that may easily boost your chances of establishing an emotional connection with your date.

Make sure you follow along to find out what they are and really dazzle the woman you’re going out with the next time you have a date…

Listen to her intently.

According to the stuff I stumbled upon during my research, women generally like a guy who is a good listener.

Besides making a woman feel that you’re really into her, listening to your date when you’re engaged in a conversation also gives her the notion that you are eager to know her better. Plus, you can pick up a few things that you can use to impress her even more as you go along.

You’re already missing out on brownie points if you’re more engaged with your mobile phone or tablet than with your date. Keep in mind that it’s really smart to put those tweets and status updates on hold.

Go for trivial topics.

The topics you also talk about during a first date also significantly matter.

A lot of guys mistakenly think that picking complicated topics for discussion makes them look smarter and cooler to the women they’re on a date with. However, according to my research, it will only to the opposite.

Can’t think of a nice topic to break the ice? Try asking your date what her favorite childhood book is or the name of her first pet. Asking her the dessert or comfort food she’d like to tuck into now and then is also a nice idea.

This is also a great way to encourage your date to open up to you.

Don’t be desperate.

No matter how attracted you are to the woman you’re on a date with, never make her feel that you’re too frisky to be with her. Or else you’ll simply scare her off before you even dish out your A-game.

This will only give her the idea that you are desperate. And “being desperate” also means “creepy” in women’s vocabulary. Start things off friendly and keep it that way all through the date.

You definitely have to read this if you're coming too quickly in bed these days...

You definitely have to read this if you’re coming too quickly in bed these days…

When it comes to action between the sheets, lasting for as long as you can is definitely on your sexual checklist.

Aside from giving your lover as much pleasure as possible while you’re at it, it also helps you guarantee that she’ll reach the Big O during the action. One after another, too, if you play your cards right.

However, I’m really disappointed with the stuff so-called “sex gurus” say these days.

They claim that extending your playtime in the bedroom can only be achieved by getting your hands on creams, pills and other artificial stuff that can potentially do more harm than good in my opinion.

I learned a few simple (and natural) pointers that can help you last longer in bed during my extensive research in the male sexuality though that you’re definitely going to find very useful. Make sure you read on to find out what they are…

Don’t get too excited.

Now while it’s inevitable to feel excited when things are getting hot between the sheets, overdoing it easily raises your chances of popping off too soon during sex.

This is because feeling too excited forces your brain to pick up the pace on your sexual arousal, which disrupts the normal flow of things. And when this happens, the body works faster than usual in bed and you’ll finish sooner than you’d like to.

Just stay cool in the middle of the action and you’re good to go.

Focus on her oral sex pleasure.

A lot of guys concentrate on their pleasure more that they get too excited during lovemaking and ejaculate prematurely.

Another simple and natural trick you can go for to steer clear from coming too quickly during sex is making it a point to stop thrusting from time to time and giving her some meticulous oral attention.

When you think you’ve done a couple of minutes of thrusting, go down on her. Only get back in action when she asks you to start pumping again. You’ll be surprised how long you’ll last (and get her coming a lot) while at it.

Don’t think about it.

Perhaps the simplest way to stave off premature ejaculation is don’t ever think about it. It’s just you’re simply programming your brain to do just that when you become preoccupied with the whole thing.

Just think about other things like how to give your lover an amazing time in bed.

Prevent premature ejaculation by keeping clear of these mistakes...

Prevent premature ejaculation by keeping clear of these mistakes…

Going off too soon during lovemaking is perhaps one of the most frustrating things that can happen to you.

Not mentioning the disappointment your partner will go through as well.

However, you don’t have to get your hands on stuff like creams, pills and other artificial stuff that a lot of so-called “sex experts” are recommending nowadays to pull off just that.

There’s a big chance that you’re simply making a few mistakes that trigger premature ejaculation.

Make sure you read on to find out what they are and last longer the next time things get hot between the sheets…

You’re thinking too much about coming quickly.

Unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly think, it’s not just penile stimulation alone that sets off your body to achieve orgasm and make you ejaculate.

Interestingly, the brain also plays a key role in the overall process, particularly what you’re thinking about.

It fires up the endocrine system to let loose hormones during sexual arousal that prep up the body for a lovemaking session. However, something happens when you become preoccupied with coming too soon while you and your partner are at it.

The brain releases stress hormones that only speed things up during sex, which also make you come sooner. So better keep in mind to relax and enjoy the show or else you’ll go off too quickly.

You don’t focus on her pleasure.

The more your erogenous zones are stimulated, the more the brain is inclined to put your body in orgasm mode and make you ejaculate.

One of the reasons why you’re experiencing premature ejaculation these days is you’re not giving enough attention to your lover’s pleasure. If you simply focus on your side of things, chances are you’ll find yourself coming all of a sudden.

The next time you and your partner are getting things extra steamy between the sheets, make it a point to focus on her pleasure.

Apart from preventing yourself from coming too soon, you’re definitely going to give your lover an experience she won’t forget easily in the process.

You don’t take it slow and easy.

One mistake most men make is taking things fast and furious as soon as the action starts.

And if you’re doing that, chances are you will come quicker than you’d like to during lovemaking.

Just remember that no matter how tempted you are to go full speed ahead, keep in mind that doing that will easily ruin the experience because you’ll pop unexpectedly.

Remember these oral sex mistakes when you go down on her...

Remember these oral sex mistakes when you go down on her…

While I was checking out my emails this morning, I received a very interesting message from Vic, a long-time HowToLastLongInBed.com reader.

Vic asks if there’s a way to bring back his lover’s interest in oral sex once more. He noticed that she isn’t that excited any longer when he goes down on her. He’s also having trouble making her reach the Big O while at it these days.

Well, as I see it, perhaps Vic needs a bit of improvement in the oral sex department. And I may have picked up a few useful things during my extensive research into the female sexuality that may help him pull off just that.

Make sure you follow along to find out the oral sex mistakes that you should remember to keep clear of the next time you start exploring south of her border…

Don’t think of it as a burden.

A lot of guys view oral sex as something more of a burden instead of a technique that can knock their lovers’ socks off when things get extra steamy between the sheets.

Sure this may not seem like a lot, but this mindset has a significant effect on how you’re going to get the job done. As it turns out, the brain sees this as something stressful and stimulates the endocrine glands to let loose stress hormones.

And when this happens, you’ll just feel rather anxious and impatient when you do it. Depending on how much stress hormones your body will produce, there’s even a chance that you’ll find it tricky to rise up to the occasion or keep a strong erection while at it.

Just think of it as a way to ensure that your partner is going to have an orgasm. One after another if you do oral sex properly, too.

Don’t make a beeline for the clitoris as soon as you can.

When it comes to oral sex, I’m pretty sure stimulating the clitoris is on top of your checklist. However, simply going straight to the clitoris as soon as you get the chance is the worst way to do it.

This is because it will only make her feel sore down there. You have to give time for this nerve ending-packed organ to prep up first before it can release the pleasurable sensations it is designed to produce.

Pulling this off isn’t that complicated, too. You just have to warm up your lover in bed and you’re sure to be on the right track in no time.