why you come too soon

Premature ejaculation affecting your sex life? Check this out.

Premature ejaculation affecting your sex life? Check this out.

A long-time HowToLastLongInBed.com reader emailed me this morning asking why he seems to be coming too quickly whenever he and his lover get busy between the sheets these days.

He shares that he didn’t have this problem earlier and besides being rather embarrassing for his partner, it is also quite frustrating for the both of them since he couldn’t seem to give her the sexual satisfaction she wants.

The sender also added that he is on the brink of getting his hands on creams, pills and other stuff that claim to fix the problem.

However, there’s no need to grab those things that will most likely result to more negative effects than positive ones sooner or later. Let me key you in on a few simple (and very natural) pointers that can help you keep clear of premature ejaculation…


I know this sounds rather simplistic, but making it a point to relax as much as you can when you and your partner are already getting frisky in the bedroom is one technique that can help you extend your bedroom playing time.

Overdoing it on the whole sexual excitement only forces your brain to churn out mood-altering hormones in the body. And when this happens, the entire sexual process speeds up and you’ll just find yourself reaching the point of no return much earlier than expected.

Have foreplay breaks.

Keeping in mind to have a foreplay break from time to time when you’re already in action is one way to prevent coming too quickly during lovemaking. It’s a simple as pausing to tease her with a bit of foreplay after a few thrusts.

You can either go down on your lover or stimulate her erogenous zones with tickles, kisses and caresses. It’s totally up to you which technique you’ll go for.

This gives your body a chance to “reset” the process that is in motion when you’re already sexually penetrating your partner, which easily means you won’t be in for a case of premature ejaculation out of the blue.

Keep a close eye on your sexual peak.

Your body is naturally wired to kick off orgasm and make you ejaculate as soon as your sexual peak reaches its limit. If you just have a way of controlling your sexual peak, then it won’t be that tough to steer clear from premature ejaculation.

And one easy method to pull off this one is to focus on your partner’s pleasure as you go along. Allowing yourself to simply get carried away and let your sexual peak go through the roof will surely lead to disaster sooner or later.

Coming too soon during sex? Here are the possible reasons...

Not lasting long enough during sex? Here are the possible reasons…

Lasting long in bed is a priority if you’re looking to give your lover an unforgettable time in bed.

Besides making sure that she’ll achieve orgasm after explosive orgasm, you’re also guaranteed that your partner is going to look forward to your next lovemaking session.

However, a lot of guys think that lasting long in bed is a tall order because they don’t have the right amount of sexual stamina to hang in there like they should.

So if you think your sexual stamina needs a bit of a boost, here are a few simple pointers that will definitely help you get the job done in no time…

You are not exercising regularly.

Most men mistakenly think that exercise is exclusively for staunch fitness buffs, but it should definitely be on your schedule if you’re planning to really take her sexual pleasure levels off the charts by lasting longer between the sheets.

Apart from conditioning your body to have more endurance when things get spicy in the bedroom, sweating it out at least half an hour a day also optimizes your blood flow, which means that you won’t be having trouble getting rock hard on demand each and every time.

You are smoking and drinking too much.

Now while it isn’t bad to indulge once in a while with your favorite brew, consuming too much alcohol can easily damage your liver sooner or later, which can eventually lead to rather reduced energy levels in the sack.

Studies even show that drinking a glass of wine or beer daily can have its health benefits, but simply guzzling lots and lots of it is just plain harmful to your body. Sticking to a single serving is the way to go.

However, smoking doesn’t have any health benefits at all. It’s important that you quit the habit as soon as you can. Besides damaging your lungs and encouraging plaque to invade the lining of your blood vessels, you’ll also have a tough time lasting long in bed and getting a stable erection in the long run.

You are not dealing with stress properly.

Sure you may think that this sounds surprising, but stress can eventually get the best of you when it comes to sexual stamina. Extreme stress from too much work or strained relationships force you to become anxious all the time and you can’t focus on anything you’d like to set your mind to…and that includes sex.

As long as you’re not dealing with stress the right way, there’s a good chance that you won’t be lasting long enough between the sheets.