why she isn’t giving you a blowjob

So she's not giving you blowjobs these days...

So she’s not giving you blowjobs these days…

If you’re a guy, getting head from your lover when things get extra steamy between the sheets is absolutely one of the highlights you’re always waiting for.

However, there is just one problem that you’re experiencing these days: your partner seems to have lost her interest in oral sex.

There’s no need to feel alarmed or worry just yet though.

Perhaps you’re simply making the following mistakes that can ruin your lover’s mood when it comes to giving you some oral attention…

You don’t give her oral sex yourself.

First things first.

Oral sex is basically a two-way street. You have to give it (and you’d have to make it an awesome experience each and every time as well) to receive it.

If you notice that your lover isn’t that eager to go down on you these days, there is a big possibility that you’re not giving her adequate oral TLC yourself. Sloppy ones don’t count, too.

When you give your lover the notion that she’ll have an experience she won’t forget anytime soon each time you explore south of her border, you’ll be surprised how much effort she will put in when it’s her turn to go down under.

You boss her to do it.

During my extensive research into the female psychology, I’ve learned that being overly forceful in bed can stimulate a woman’s brain to release a lot of stress hormones.

Sure some women have a penchant for being shown initiative when it comes to lovemaking, but overdoing the whole thing is already going to be an issue.

Now back to the stress hormones I was telling you about…

When they get loose, your lover will feel annoyed, impatient and uncooperative in the bedroom. Just imagine what will ensue when this happens.

Your hygiene down there needs improvement.

Come to think of it. Hygiene is a very big deal for women.

Interestingly, not keeping a close eye on your hygiene can also keep your lover from giving you a blowjob.

And if your hygiene down there doesn’t quite cut it for your lover, it’s safe to say that she won’t be going anywhere near your genitals no matter how much sweet-talking you’ll do.

Keep in mind to trim the shrubbery in a regular basis and don’t crimp on the soap when you’re lathering your genital area while showering. The cleaner you are, the higher the chances that she won’t hesitate to get the oral action going.

Are you finding it tough  to make her go down on you?

Are you finding it tough to make her go down on you these days?

If you’re anything like most guys, I’m pretty sure that getting a blowjob from your lover is one of the things that you look forward to during sex.

However, you’re noticing that your partner is not that eager to go down on you like she used to nowadays.

This doesn’t mean that you should forever cross off blowjobs from your sexual checklist though. Chances are you’re just making a few simple mistakes that keep your lover from going south of your border.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

You don’t give her oral sex.

One of the biggest reasons why a lot of women tend to steer clear of oral sex is they tend to feel that they are on the losing end of the deal…just because you’re not giving them adequate attention down there.

This gives her the notion that you’re only in it for your own satisfaction, which can somewhat ruin her sexual mood one way or another.

Make it a point to pleasure your lover down there when things get hot between the sheets to make her feel that oral sex is a two-way street. Don’t do a sloppy job while you’re at it, too, since this can significantly affect the pleasure levels that you will give her.

You don’t keep an eye on your grooming.

If you’ve been following HowToLastLongInBed.com for a while now, I’m sure you already came across my posts on the importance of grooming.

However, making sure that your grooming is in tiptop shape isn’t just reserved for dates and other social events. Not keeping a close eye on it also has an effect on your lover’s willingness to give you oral sex.

Come to think of it. If it looks like a jungle down there or perhaps things smell funky, do you think she’ll be happy to pleasure you with her mouth? Well, you already know the answer.

Making sure that you give your private area a careful trim from time to time and a nice scrubbing when you take a shower will already do the trick.

You think of oral sex as a burden.

I know this sounds surprising, but how you view oral sex has a very big effect on the way you do it.

If you think that it’s one of the most pleasurable techniques that can give your lover the sexual satisfaction she wants, then you’ll do it nicely. However, when you think it’s a burden, you’ll only botch the whole thing up.

Now imagine if that’s your mindset. Do you think you’re going to give her oral sex pleasure when you go down on her? That will easily make her say “pass” when you ask her to explore your nether regions.

Here are a few key factors why she isn't going down on you.

Here are a few key factors why she isn’t going down on you.

A lot of guys consider blowjobs as one of the things that should be always on their sexual checklist when they get in action between the sheets.

However, what makes things a bit interesting is that most women aren’t that too excited to give oral sex when things get hot in the bedroom because of a few simple factors.

So if you’re looking to improve your chances of getting more action downtown from your lover, here are the key factors that can easily break your chances of getting a blowjob almost instantly…

You are not perking up your personal hygiene.

Women are very inherently particular with visual and nasal cues when it comes to oral sex. In simpler terms, you have to smell and look good to them or else you won’t be able to convince her to go down on you anytime soon.

Make it a point to shower regularly and give your privates a really good scrubbing if you’re planning to make your lover give you oral sex. Trimming your pubic hair is also a smart idea while you’re at it.

You don’t give her oral sex.

Now while this may sound surprising, it takes your initiative to go down on your lover before she will be eager to give you the same treatment. However, you shouldn’t consider this as a favor or else you won’t change her mindset about blowjobs successfully.

Make sure you always pleasure your partner orally every time things get hot in the bedroom. Always stimulate her vagina, clitoris and other erogenous hot spots in and around her groin area during sex to give her the impression that you really like going down on her. You’ll be just surprised how fast she’ll want go down on you sooner or later.

You pressure her into it.

Although women like to have sex as much as men do, they need a bit of time to adjust when it comes to trying new stuff in bed. Sure encouraging your lover to give your oral sex is nice, but pestering her about it just every time you get frisky is a different story.

Don’t feel bad if she isn’t up for oral sex the first or second try. Wait until you think she’s ready to handle it. Patience is a virtue when oral sex is concerned and you’ll be nicely rewarded if you just hang on. Make sure you beef up your efforts at stimulating her mentally while you’re at it to speed the whole thing up, too.

(And here’s a neat trick to get your lover ready for sex fast.)