stop premature ejaculation

Stave off premature ejaculation by avoiding these mistakes.

Stave off premature ejaculation by avoiding these mistakes.

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are lasting for as long as you can during sex is one of the top priorities in your checklist when you and your lover are getting frisky between the sheets.

Apart from giving her a constant barrage of pleasurable sensations that will lead to the Big O as you go along, you’re going to have your share of mind-blowing feelings in the process as well.

Sure this sounds a bit surprising right now, but there’s a big possibility that you’re the one sabotaging your body into premature ejaculation with a few mistakes that you are making during sex.

Make sure you read on to find out what these mistakes are so you can last longer the next time you and your partner are at it in bed and boost your chances of knocking her socks off with an orgasm or two as well.

You worry that you’re going to come too soon.

Simply doubting that you’re going to experience premature ejaculation before the sexual action even starts will promote the release of stress hormones that will disrupt the effects of their positive counterparts.

Besides making it tricky for you to get and stay rock hard, it will also mess up your brain’s timing when to activate your body’s orgasmic and ejaculatory responses.

You go too fast.

The brain basically gauges when to set off your body’s orgasmic and ejaculatory responses with the levels of positive hormones released when you’re sexually aroused.

Interestingly, more positive hormones are churned out in your body when your penis experiences constant stimulation in a short period of time. It’s also important to switch from one position to another every few minutes to slow down the release of these hormones.

Make it a point to pace yourself to avoid this from happening.

You don’t pleasure her in other ways.

Unlike what a lot of men mistakenly believe, giving a woman an amazing lovemaking session isn’t just about sexually penetrating her with your penis.

You can also get the job done by knocking her socks off with a bout of awesome oral sex and pleasuring her erogenous zones with your fingers.

(Here’s a useful tip to keep in mind when you’re fingering her, too.)

You don’t keep an eye on your thrusting.

I know we’ve touched this one earlier, but let me reiterate: take it slow and easy when you’re thrusting and you’re sure to last longer during lovemaking.

Are these the reasons why you're coming too soon these days?

Are these the reasons why you’re coming too soon these days?

Lasting for as long as you can when things are already sizzling in the bedroom is definitely one of the most important factors in your sexual checklist to really knock your lover’s socks off.

And it’s not just your partner that gets all the fun, too. The longer you last, the more sexual pleasure you’re going to experience while at it. How’s that for two for two?

But the problem is you’re simply noticing that you come sooner than you’d like to between the sheets these days.

I know it’s frustrating for you and your partner as well, but you don’t need to get your hands on artificial products that claim to extend your bedroom playing time.

Come to think of it. The operative word here is “artificial” so the risk of going through adverse side effects sooner or later is very real.

Chances are you’re just making the following mistakes that boost your chances of coming too soon during lovemaking…

You think that you’re going to prematurely go off.

I’m pretty sure that you’ve already heard the phrase “mind over matter” once or twice now. What’s really interesting is it actually applies to how long you will last in bed, too.

See, when you think that you’re going to come too soon before the action between the sheets even starts, you’re inadvertently sending a subconscious message to your brain that it should activate your orgasmic and ejaculatory responses prematurely.

Just keep things positive and think about how you’re going to give her a mind-blowing sex session and you’re going to be alright.

You don’t masturbate regularly.

Unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly believe, masturbation isn’t just about experiencing sexual pleasure all by yourself. It actually helps you identify when your sexual peak takes place.

At its simplest, your sexual peak is the time when the amount of positive hormones released during sexual arousal reaches their ideal levels. This stimulates your brain to activate your orgasmic and ejaculatory responses.

You can actually have an idea when your sexual peak kicks in when you masturbate in a regular basis. Think of it as a rather sensual and intimate kind of “practice” that will surely be enjoyable.

(And speaking of solo action, here’s a mistake that can make masturbation boring for you.)

You go fast and furious.

Now while the temptation to go full speed ahead when the action starts in bed is great, make it a point to go as slow and easy as you can. You won’t just stave off the risk of coming too soon, but give your lover an amazing time as well.

You'll never believe how significant the mind is when it comes to lasting longer in bed.

You’ll never believe how significant the mind is when it comes to lasting longer in bed.

While this may surprise you, preventing premature ejaculation isn’t just about knowing the right positions or knowing when your arousal levels are off the charts.

If you’re looking to avoid premature ejaculation, knowing how to control the psychological factors that influence stamina in the bedroom is just as important.

Let me key you in on some important details and some misconceptions about preventing premature ejaculation…

#1 – Premature ejaculation is not a physical problem.

Most men tend to think that the reason why they are ejaculating quickly during sex is that their penises are just too sensitive. While there is some scientific evidence to this claim… which has found that the tissues that make up the penis are inherently reactive to the vagina’s interior, sensitivity alone does not control the ejaculation process in any way.

#2 – Premature ejaculation can’t be stopped with over-the-counter creams and pills.

You may have seen online ads about artificial creams and medications that claim to hold off premature ejaculation but chances are they’ll never work like advertised. No matter how magical they may claim to be, you will just end up coming sooner than you like on your next sex session.

#3 – Premature ejaculation can’t be prevented with just a change in the position.

Just changing from missionary to doggy style won’t keep premature ejaculation at bay. Although the slight break in the action will somewhat curb your urge to orgasm, it’s still not a guaranteed method to avoid coming too quickly.

Now that we’ve got the common misconceptions covered, let’s get to the reasons why the right mindset is the best way to stave off premature ejaculation:

Mental conditioning helps you relax more.

Visualizing that you’re going to give your wife or girlfriend the sexual satisfaction she wants before actually making love makes you more comfortable in bed. Thus, helping you last longer while at it.

Take it to the next level by making the experience all about her satisfaction and you will be surprised how resilient you’ll become against premature ejaculation.

Practice makes perfect.

Practicing visualizing yourself lasting longer in the bedroom each day is just like learning how to play the piano. The more you do it, the better you’ll become and the finer the results will be. Why not try this visualizing technique tonight and surprise your partner when you make love?

You’re guaranteed to extend your bedroom playtime with these pointers.

If you’re looking to learn a few useful tips and pointers on how to last longer in the bedroom, you’ve definitely come to the right place. Make sure you read on to learn the best-kept secrets on how to deal with premature ejaculation to get the sexual satisfaction you’ve always wanted in no time at all.

A short primer on premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation is simply the male disorder of reaching orgasm and ejaculating with neither party getting a lot of satisfaction. While some studies have shown that most men normally have orgasms about three to seven minutes after penetration, some guys last much shorter. Besides causing a lot of distress to both partners, premature ejaculation also leads to guilt, embarrassment and anxiety, which brings about even more sexual issues in the long run.

What you ought to know about lasting longer in bed

Here are 6 simple ways to last longer the next time you’re doing the deed. Forget about costly oral pills and anesthetic creams that are only good for stifling your sensations. You only have to remember the following and you’re sure to become the stud you’ve always dreamed of in a snap:

  • Stop thinking about reaching orgasm. From taking your arousal up a notch to reaching the point of no return, the brain is responsible for each and every sexual response your body experiences when you’re making love. The thing is most men tend to focus on their impending orgasm and ejaculation rather than the whole experience of intercourse, which forces the brain to trigger orgasm sooner than expected. Stop thinking about coming and you’ll last longer.
  • Take penetration breaks. While some men consider sexual intercourse as an intimate journey, most guys think it’s a race to the finish line. This is where foreplay comes in. Apart from lowering your arousal level, which is the primary cause for ejaculating all too quickly, taking time to stimulate your partner’s other erogenous zones like the breasts, neck and behind the ears, temporarily stops penile stimulation, allowing you to return to more sex with more stamina.
  • Embrace the Kegel. Have you ever tried stopping mid-flow when urinating and then carrying on? Although this may sound a bit weird, you’re already doing an exercise called the Kegel that makes the muscles responsible for ejaculatory control tighten. Try doing at least 10 repetitions of this daily and you’ll surely notice a few changes when it comes to your lasting ability the next time you’re having sex.
  • Change positions. Whether you’re a missionary man or an enthusiastic fan of doggy style, make it a point that your sex session is promenade of sexual positions rather than a routine humping session. Besides spicing up you and your partner’s sex life, the slight breaks in penetration also reduce the possibility of premature ejaculation.
  • Practice makes perfect. It isn’t true that masturbation takes the fun out of having sex. Interestingly, it helps you know your sexual limits significantly when reaching orgasm and ejaculation are concerned. The next time you take Mary Palmer out for a date, try to pleasure yourself for a longer time than you usually do. This will really bring about wonders for your future sexual encounters by increasing your endurance.
  • Courtesy counts. The phrase “ladies first” should not be only limited to the opening of doors and public transportation. It must be also observed always whenever you’re making love. While it will make her feel better physically and sexually, you’ll also experience a unique ego boost knowing that you’ve just made your woman reach cloud nine.