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There are a lot of misconceptions and myths about sex floating around in the world and here’s how to avoid succumbing to them…

Now what inspired this blog post was an article I just read called 9 Sex ‘Rules’ To Break Tonight.

And the fact is that as we grow up and learn more about sex we tend to pick up and believe things about sex that are just plain wrong.

women keeping quiet

The truth about sex is often hard to figure out

And when we let these misconceptions and myths about sex run our sex lives they can cause some serious damage…

We can end up not enjoying sex or not being able to make our partner happy just because we have a false belief that doing a certain thing is wrong.

Let me give you a specific example…

One of the 9 sex myths featured in the article I mentioned was “porn is the enemy”.

Now I have mentioned in the past that I think when men copy the actions of male porn stars it doesn’t help their sex life.

But just watching it on the other hand I don’t personally think is a bad thing.

Especially if you do it as a couple during sex to make things more interesting.

In fact it’s a great way to add some variety and some excitement to the bedroom.

And most women will probably enjoy it if it’s presented to them in the right way.

The bottom line of what I’m trying to get across is to challenge your assumptions about sex.

Write down some of the beliefs you have about sex and take a moment to think about where they came from and if they’re really helping support you in having an incredible sex life.

It’ll make a world of difference.

But before you go watching a ton of porn during sex, take a moment to read this article on how to Prevent Premature Ejaculation, because it’ll give you some important warnings of how to NOT let porn influence you in a negative way.

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I’ve just come across what is probably THE easiest sex tip ever to apply.  Want to know what it is?…

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This guy obviously knows a few sex tips

So the sex tip I’m talking about is this…

Hold your partners hands while having sex.

You don’t have to do it for the whole time you have sex, but if you do it for a few minutes you’ll find that it really improves the intimacy of sex…

Which, by the way, women LOVE.

Now, to be honest, I can’t take credit for this sex tip.  I discovered it while reading this article called Sex Tips: A Handy Way to Increase Intimacy.

But how easy is that?

Now you might be thinking…  “Jack, but this is hardly going to help me become the best lover she has ever had overnight…”

And my response would be…

You’re right.

This ALONE will not transform your love life overnight.

But what really leads to massive change in life and getting the BIG goals we want (like becoming an extraordinary lover or lasting over 30 minutes in bed)…

Is the grouping of MANY small changes.

Sure, this sex tip in itself won’t make you into a truly unforgettable lover, but what if you learned 10 different sex tips like this one and applied ALL OF THEM in one love making session.

Now my betting is that would make one HELL of a difference.

So keep up the learning, because it’s the accumulation of many small distinctions that helps you breakthrough to achieve the massive goals you want.

Oh, and here’s another VERY important sex tip you need to know, both if you want to be a better lover and last longer in bed…

It’s how to perform something known as Kegels For Men. Check it out now.

In case you’ve ever wondered… Condoms definitely DO have an effect on how long you can expect to last during sex.  And here’s how you can use that to your advantage…

But before I get into that let me just cover the fundamentals.

Firstly, if you don’t know how to put on a condom properly then read this article now called Sunday Sex Ed Tips: Condoms.

Secondly, whether or not you practise safe sex is totally down to you.  I am not here to tell you how to live your life or claim that I am a doctor who is making any medical recommendations, but my personal opinion is that you should always wear a condom for health and safety purposes if you are not 100% certain of the person you are with or if you don’t want to risk pregnancy.

With that stuff said… Let me get to the point of this post

The way in which wearing condoms effects premature ejaculation is as follows…

One of the main causes of premature ejaculation is “over-stimulation”.

In other words, when you experience more stimulation than you can handle in a very short period of time that’s when premature ejaculation happens.

So if you can reduce the stimulation you experience down to a more controllable level then naturally you can last longer.

Side note:  I am in NO way saying you should take the pleasure out of sex.  I am just saying that if you orgasm early because of overwhelming pleasure then there’s no harm in reducing the stimulation you experience slightly so you can have the LONG-TERM satisfaction of long-lasting sex, rather than less than a minute’s worth of super-intense pleasure.

And how does this “over-stimulation” concept relate to condoms?

Well when you wear a condom the overall stimulation you experience is reduced.

This is why some men prefer sex without a condom, because they feel more.

But if you struggle with premature ejaculation then wearing a condom can work in your favour.  Since by wearing a condom you reduce the stimulation you experience it’s easier to last longer.

So there you have it.

Not only do condoms keep you safe from disease and unwanted pregnancy, they also help you last longer in bed.

And if you want to last even longer then you can get some thicker condoms to reduce the sensation even more.

But you’ll want to be sure to find the balance between lasting longer and how much pleasure you get, because the goal is not to make it so you feel nothing during sex, but you do want to take your pleasure levels down to a controllable level so you can at least enjoy long-lasting sex.

Alternatively, if you don’t want to use condoms as a “crutch” for lasting longer then you can learn some 100% natural techniques like the ones in this article on How Can I Last Longer In Bed?

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A recent article I read inspired me to write this post.  For anyone thinking of dabbling in sex with an ex here’s my take on the essential precautions you must take…

The first thing I’d recommend if you’re considering “rekindling the flame” with an ex is to read this article called 5 Tips for Sex with the Ex.

It’s a great article, and it’s what inspired me to write this post.

The thing that struck me while reading it was that I noticed an underlying theme that I’ve come across many times before when it comes to dating, relationships, sex, etc.

And that underlying theme is to just take things easy.

Play it cool.

Don’t get overexcited and stress too much too soon.

Don’t make mountains out of molehills.

For example in the article I was just talking about the second tip is “Sex does not equal love”.

What this means is if you go back to have sex with an ex, don’t instantly assume that you’ve suddenly fallen in love again and now you’re going to spend the rest of your lives together.

This is the exact OPPOSITE of playing it cool.

If you were to react like that then you’d probably push your ex away FAST.

Whereas if you play it cool then you probably wouldn’t scare them away and then if you wanted to you could always slowly develop your relationship to take things more seriously again if you wanted to.

Although this is a blog mainly focussed on helping men last longer in bed, I wanted to talk about this because every little thing you do spills over to other areas of your life.

Which means that if you don’t play it cool when you go to have sex with your ex then the chances are that you don’t play it cool when you have sex full stop.

And if you don’t play it cool when you have sex then you’re much more likely to experience premature ejaculation, because being tense and nervous are MASSIVE triggers for premature ejaculation.

The bottom line is play it cool in your relationships and sex, at least at the start (because you can always get more intense later on), and you will be rewarded.

And if you’re looking for some more “tangible” tips for lasting longer in bed, in other words, actual strategies and techniques you can use then you’ll want to check out this article on Premature Ejaculation Cures.

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