how to last longer in bed

Having a successful one isn't just pure luck; it's a form of art. Learn how to get the job done.

Having a successful date isn’t just pure luck; it’s a form of art. Learn how to get the job done.

So you’ve finally got the chance to go on a first date with the girl of your dreams. Now what? Having a successful one isn’t just pure luck; it’s a form of art. If you’re still wracking your brains on how you’re going to get the job done on the ever-intimidating first date, I’ll show you the tips and tricks that are guaranteed to sweep your date off her feet and earn you a second romantic rendezvous – or even more – in no time at all.

Hold your head up high. When it comes to first dates, having enough confidence (or the lack of it) can instantly make or break your chances of taking her out again soon. Sure a first date can be very intimidating but keep in mind that she agreed to go out with you in the first place. Isn’t that something to be proud of already?

Have a plan. Women hate going out with wimpy men who always ask them what to do. Make sure you’ve got your first date all figured out right to the smallest details to avoid giving her the impression that you don’t have the initiative. Keep it as relaxed as possible, too, so stay away from four-course dinners and similar options that could feel very committal. While staying gentle and courteous with your date is a priority at all times, it is also a must that you show her that you’re always in control of the situation.

Take time to prep up. Visual and nasal cues are the strongest stimuli in the opposite sex. This means that how you look and smell during your first date can be either your ticket to another night out with her some other time or the end of the line. Remember to take a shower, shave off that rather unkempt stubble, splash on some deodorant as well as put on real clothes instead of that Metallica-Rules-tee-and-jeans combo you may have been wearing since college days and you’re good to go.

Make her feel special. Your date has just spent a long time getting ready and it’s not enough that you know you’re going out with a beautiful woman. Instead, you have to tell her how amazing she looks. Sincerely complimenting her on the things that she obviously took time and effort with like her hair, clothes and shoes won’t just make her feel appreciated but eases a lot of the first date jitters as well. Keep in mind not to butter her up just for the sake of complimenting or else she’ll see through your ruse and take them as lies.

Keep the conversation flowing naturally. You don’t have to lie about your job or the books you’ve read to impress a woman on your first date. Knowing how to listen carefully to what she’s saying and remembering the key details already makes her feel more comfortable spending time with you. Once you are able to successfully change the atmosphere to a “date” rather than an “interview,” you’re definitely in for more exciting possibilities soon.

Don’t expect too much. Having a first date doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re already on your way to a more serious romantic relationship with the girl of your dreams. Avoid rushing things. Do not be overconfident that she’s really into you. Let her initiate the first kiss. Let her be the one inviting you over at her place for a nightcap. Always wait for her lead or else you’ll be sorry. (In case you do get lucky, here are some superb ways to extend your bedroom playing time in one easy read.)

Ending premature ejaculation isn’t as tough as you think.

Having the natural ability to last longer in the bedroom is not an ability that most men possess. Premature ejaculation is considered as one of most common sexual problems for guys across the globe these days and can easily cause significant distress to either the man or his partner. If currently you’re struggling to cope with this rather upsetting issue then make sure you check out the rest of this article to get the lowdown on how to end premature ejaculation in 4 easy steps.

Premature Ejaculation 101

At its simplest, premature ejaculation is basically ejaculating before either partner achieves satisfaction. It is defined by the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV) as reaching the state of orgasm and ejecting semen before a man wants it to occur or too quickly during intercourse to please his partner.

Interestingly, the notion that only a handful of guys suffer from premature ejaculation is a myth. It affects a lot of men at some point in their lives and can happen anywhere from the start of relationships when sexual excitement is for many at its peak to well into long-term relationships.

Quick tips to end premature ejaculation

Sure lasting less than a couple of minutes under the sheets can be quite frustrating and challenging to live with, however, there are ways on how you can effectively curb premature ejaculation. Here are four of the easiest methods you can use to last longer in the bedroom without a hitch:

  • Have the proper mindset. Thinking that you won’t last long enough can lead to reaching orgasm and ejaculating quicker. Instead of worrying about this, just think about satisfying your partner while doing the deed and you’re good to go.
  • Distract yourself. Ejaculating prematurely is your body’s reaction when your arousal level is off the charts. When you feel you’re about to climax quicker than usual, breathe deeply and think about something very drab and uninteresting to take your mind off the edge. You can carry on as soon as you feel your arousal level coming back to a more manageable level.
  • Know your limits. Did you know that having an idea of how much stimulation your penis can take before ejaculating can help you prevent premature ejaculation? You can use the stop-start technique to achieve this. Stimulate your penis to the point that you feel you’re about to reach orgasm and abruptly stop. Repeat as necessary until you’re able to sync your thrusts with the urge to ejaculate.
  • Go solo the first round. As the old maxim goes, practice makes perfect. Masturbating an hour or two before having sexual intercourse can delay orgasm and premature ejaculation. Gaining confidence about not coming too quickly is as easy as knowing your sexual responses and feelings. Just remember not to overdo it though to avoid painful sores and blisters that can ultimately ruin the urge to engage in sexual activity.

Hey, it’s Jack Grave here.

Welcome to my site. It’s great to have you here!

I hope you get a ton of valuable information out of site…

I’ve designed it specifically to share some of the techniques and strategies I’ve learned that have helped me go from lasting less than 10 seconds in bed, to being able to last over 30 minutes in bed…

And TRANSFORM my sex life as a result.

You’ll also find some other great advice on how to improve the quality of your sex life, give your lover more pleasure, and get her wanting a lot more sex too.

So have a look around and I hope you find the solution you’re looking for.

Jack

Filed under Sex Tips by on . Comment#

I was reading a very interesting blog post today on female orgasm secrets that covered what to do if you do orgasm too early (as well as a bunch of cool stuff on how to give a woman an intense orgasm).

As men we’ve all been in that situation where despite our best efforts there’s nothing we can do to prevent premature ejaculation and we’ve just got to accept that it can’t be prevented in that particular situation.

Now most men when something like this happens just give up, go to sleep or beat themselves up about it.

But the truth is this stuff doesn’t and won’t make things better.

So what can you do in this type of situation instead?

Well like was suggested in the blog post I mentioned earlier, a man should instead refocus all his energy and attention back on the woman.

It’s so easy to as soon as you orgasm to lose all your focus and excitement, drift off to sleep and want to take your attention elsewhere…

But this is the time when your woman needs you most.

Your woman needs that connection and love from you…

Especially if you’ve just orgasmed earlier than expected.

And by reinvesting that focus and attention in her not only will you get a positive reaction from her even if you orgasmed early (don’t forget how important connection and love is to a woman) but you’ll find that you’ll regain your erection much quicker than if you just drift off to sleep, start watching TV or forget about her altogether.

All round it’s a very powerful method for recovering from premature ejaculation and being able to give her a powerful orgasm…

And to be honest it’s kinda similar to the “how to last longer in bed naturally” methods I’ve talked about before, because the fact is that a lot of premature ejaculation problems are all in your head.

But what do YOU think about all this stuff?

Do you really think it’s all in your head?

Drop me a comment below with your answer…