how to get a second date

Having a successful one isn't just pure luck; it's a form of art. Learn how to get the job done.

Having a successful date isn’t just pure luck; it’s a form of art. Learn how to get the job done.

So you’ve finally got the chance to go on a first date with the girl of your dreams. Now what? Having a successful one isn’t just pure luck; it’s a form of art. If you’re still wracking your brains on how you’re going to get the job done on the ever-intimidating first date, I’ll show you the tips and tricks that are guaranteed to sweep your date off her feet and earn you a second romantic rendezvous – or even more – in no time at all.

Hold your head up high. When it comes to first dates, having enough confidence (or the lack of it) can instantly make or break your chances of taking her out again soon. Sure a first date can be very intimidating but keep in mind that she agreed to go out with you in the first place. Isn’t that something to be proud of already?

Have a plan. Women hate going out with wimpy men who always ask them what to do. Make sure you’ve got your first date all figured out right to the smallest details to avoid giving her the impression that you don’t have the initiative. Keep it as relaxed as possible, too, so stay away from four-course dinners and similar options that could feel very committal. While staying gentle and courteous with your date is a priority at all times, it is also a must that you show her that you’re always in control of the situation.

Take time to prep up. Visual and nasal cues are the strongest stimuli in the opposite sex. This means that how you look and smell during your first date can be either your ticket to another night out with her some other time or the end of the line. Remember to take a shower, shave off that rather unkempt stubble, splash on some deodorant as well as put on real clothes instead of that Metallica-Rules-tee-and-jeans combo you may have been wearing since college days and you’re good to go.

Make her feel special. Your date has just spent a long time getting ready and it’s not enough that you know you’re going out with a beautiful woman. Instead, you have to tell her how amazing she looks. Sincerely complimenting her on the things that she obviously took time and effort with like her hair, clothes and shoes won’t just make her feel appreciated but eases a lot of the first date jitters as well. Keep in mind not to butter her up just for the sake of complimenting or else she’ll see through your ruse and take them as lies.

Keep the conversation flowing naturally. You don’t have to lie about your job or the books you’ve read to impress a woman on your first date. Knowing how to listen carefully to what she’s saying and remembering the key details already makes her feel more comfortable spending time with you. Once you are able to successfully change the atmosphere to a “date” rather than an “interview,” you’re definitely in for more exciting possibilities soon.

Don’t expect too much. Having a first date doesn’t necessarily mean that you’re already on your way to a more serious romantic relationship with the girl of your dreams. Avoid rushing things. Do not be overconfident that she’s really into you. Let her initiate the first kiss. Let her be the one inviting you over at her place for a nightcap. Always wait for her lead or else you’ll be sorry. (In case you do get lucky, here are some superb ways to extend your bedroom playing time in one easy read.)

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Ace that date each and every time when you give these pointers a browse right now.

When it comes to dating, I truly believe in the adage that “you never get a second chance to make a good first impression.” Why? Because being totally prepared to make a great impression on each date you go on can mean the difference between having another exciting night out with the girl of your dreams or just some predictable weekend tryst with Mary Palmer.

If you’re looking to take your dating skills up a notch, you’ve come to the right place. Assuming you know enough not to show up in your boxer shorts and looking like you’ve just finished a large-scale gardening project, here are a few of my dating tips and tricks that are guaranteed to score you Date Number 2 in no time at all:

  • Invite her for a couple of drinks instead of having dinner. Believe it or not, she is as anxious as you on your first date and sitting through a four-course meal can be more of a boring interview than a stepping stone for romance. Take her instead to your favorite bar in town (hers works just as fine as well), grab a drink or two and get to know each other better in a more relaxed fashion.
  • Don’t act like a phony. Nothing beats ruining your chances of scoring another date sooner or later than acting like a pretentious big shot. Trust is a very big issue among women and they can easily discern if you’re the real deal or just putting on a show. Don’t lie about what you do for a living or the books you’ve read. Just tell it like it is and you’re good to go.
  • Be a good conversationalist. Talking is inevitable during a first date and unless the two of you met at a mime convention, knowing a few pointers on how to get the job done is definitely an advantage. The rule of thumb is to keep the conversation as light and friendly as possible. While you’re both aiming to get to know each other better, revealing too much information in the process can be an instant deal breaker. Keep in mind to make your date ask about the more serious stuff so you’ll appear more mysterious to her.
  • Don’t scrimp on the compliments. For the record, women love to hear how pretty they look, especially on first dates. Make sure you notice the things your date obviously took time and effort with like the way her hair and makeup is done, the clothes she’s wearing and her choice of shoes. Avoid mindlessly buttering her up just for the sake of it, though. Next thing you know, she’ll see through your ruse and it’s game over all of a sudden.
  • It’s okay to be nervous. Most men think that being a bit jittery during a first date is taboo. Contrary to popular belief, experiencing a few minutes of anxiety when you’re out with a woman that you’re looking forward to spend time with is all but natural. However, it’s your job to calm yourself down before you go through the more embarrassing signs of nervousness like facial twitching, excessive sweating, uncontrollable stuttering or worse, sexual performance anxiety, if you’re lucky enough to get the chance to sleep with her. Always remember that confidence is an absolute turn on for the opposite sex and chances are you’ll have to your ticket to Date #2 without a hitch if you show it.