how to convince her to try anal sex

Why she's still not convinced to try anal sex.

Why she’s still not convinced to try anal sex.

So here’s the situation…

I’m pretty sure that having anal sex with your lover is no doubt one of the things that are in your bedroom bucket list.

Besides the promise of experiencing sensations that you’ve never felt during lovemaking before, simply thinking about having your partner in the backdoor takes your sexual excitement up a notch.

However, you’re still not getting her nod no matter how much you try to convince her to give it a go. Now while this may be a bit frustrating, chances are she’s not saying yes because of a few psychological reasons that you need to work around first.

So if you still can’t convince your lover to get her anal sex mood going, here are some of the reasons that I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology…

She thinks it’s going to hurt.

Women think that anal sex is just going to be an experience that is either uncomfortable or just plain painful because the anus doesn’t have the ability to produce natural lubrication.

You’ve got to explain that using the right amount and type of lube during the action will make things smoother and more pleasurable for her.

One more thing, though. It’s really important that you discuss anal sex with your lover outside of the bedroom. Doing it while you’re already heating things up in bed will only make her feel ambushed and defensive.

She thinks it’s dirty.

Well, technically your partner is correct when she says that anal sex has an element of being dirty. You go Number 2 with your anus, right?

However, the area where fecal matter is stored is far from the place where you’re going to sexually penetrate her. It even has a natural flap that prevents the contents of either one from contaminating the same.

She thinks it’s only pleasurable for you.

The anus actually has some areas that feel rather ticklish when stimulated and you’re going to graze them with your penis when you sexually penetrate her in there.

Keep in mind to explain to her that with enough lube and the proper way of stimulation, she’ll find the experience quite pleasurable, too.

She thinks it’s taboo.

Sure anal sex is not something that’s new these days, but a lot of women still think that it’s unnatural.

This thought basically makes them believe all the negative things said about anal sex, including the myths as well.

Make it a point to explain anal sex properly to her to get her on track to giving it a shot. Although it can take a long time, you’re at least making a bit of progress in the process.

Still not convincing her to try anal sex?

Still not convincing her to try anal sex?

I’m pretty sure that getting your lover to give anal sex a go is one of the key items in your lovemaking checklist.

But the thing is you’re still having a tough time making her say yes to the whole thing until now.

There’s no need to think that you should give up on your goal to convince your lover to try anal sex, though.

Now while pulling off just that isn’t something that can be achieved at the drop of a hat, here are a few pointers that you should keep in mind to boost your chances of convincing your partner to try anal sex…

Discuss it with her outside the bedroom.

A lot of guys make the mistake of trying to convince their lover to try anal sex while they’re already heating things up between the sheets.

Besides possibly ruining her mood for sex, you’ll end up being frustrated because she will just say no in the process.

Make it a point to talk it over with her outside the bedroom to prep her mind up and keep clear from instant rejection.

Patience is a virtue.

When she says no, it means no.

You’re just running the risk of making your partner swear off anal sex in her bucket list when you pester her each time you get the chance to bring up the subject.

If she declines to give anal sex a shot when you ask her, don’t feel bad. You can ask her again sometime. There’s always another chance.

Just remember to properly space out your timing so you won’t appear obnoxious to her.

Slow and easy does it.

And when you do convince her to try anal sex, keep in mind that it’s going to be an entirely new experience for her, so do it as slow and easy as you can.

Unlike what you see in porn movies, getting fast and furious during anal sex – especially when it’s your first time – will just lead to disaster.

Let her run the show.

I’m sure that you’d like to give her as much pleasurable sensations when you do it in the backdoor so she will try anal sex again on your next lovemaking session.

Ask her show she feels as you go along to find out what makes her feel good and what doesn’t. And once you know your way around her backside during anal sex, you’re sure to hear her moaning and groaning in pleasure before long.

These tips will help you convince her to try anal sex...

These tips will help you convince her to try anal sex…

I’m pretty sure that anal sex is one of the things that’s in your lovemaking bucket list.

However, the only thing that’s keeping you from actually trying it the next time things are heating up between the sheets is your lover.

No matter what you do, you just can’t convince her to give it a go.

This doesn’t mean that you should already give up on your efforts though. Here are a few simple pointers that can boost your chances of making her say yes to anal sex…

Talk to your lover about anal sex outside of the bedroom.

A lot of guys make the mistake of trying to sweet talk their partners into trying anal sex when they are already in bed.

If you’re still finding it tricky to convince your lover to give anal action a try, change up your tactics and talk about anal sex with her when you’re having a casual conversation.

Apart from helping take away the pressure off the whole thing, she won’t feel as anxious or worried when you do it in bed.

Let her call the shots.

Sure you may be the one directing the action when you and your lover are already at it in the bedroom, but it’s important that you give her full bedroom authority if you want her to try anal sex.

This is because when your partner is calling the shots during lovemaking, she will feel more empowered.

And when she’s more empowered, she will feel more adventurous in trying new stuff when you’re at it. This includes anal sex.

Just think about how this can take your lovemaking sessions to a whole new level.

Don’t be bossy about it.

Convincing your lover to try anal sex is just like bargaining for a great deal.

You sure won’t pull the whole thing off if you are making your partner feel that trying it would just be for your pleasure.

Talk to her about anal sex as gently as you can or else you will botch it up even before you really got started.

If she says no, don’t feel bad about it. There’s always a next time to do it again.

Remind her that it’s not going to be a bad experience.

If your partner is anything like most women, chances are she thinks anal sex is taboo.

When you’re trying to convince her about trying anal sex, always remind her that it’s going to be a positive experience to condition her mentally that everything is alright when you do try it.

Still having trouble convincing her to try anal sex?

Still having trouble convincing her to try anal sex?

I’m pretty sure you’ve fantasized about having anal sex with your lover once or twice.

However, you’re still not getting any backdoor action because you’re finding it really tricky to convince her to give it a try.

The thing is you don’t have to keep fantasizing all the time. Here are a few simple tips that may just help you make your lover say yes to anal sex if you play your cards right…

Stop worrying that she will say no.

I know this sounds crazy, but your mindset can actually affect the outcome of whatever you’re trying to accomplish right off the bat.

This is because the brain stimulates the endocrine glands to produce and release specific mood-altering hormones depending on how you think things will play out.

If you think you can pull it off, you will tend to feel more inspired, fired up and really positive. If you think you’re going to fail, you will become very anxious and impatient.

Now think which of these two mindsets will help you raise your chances of getting the job done?

Talk to her about anal sex out of the bedroom.

A lot of guys make the mistake of only discussing anal sex with their lovers when they are already getting it on between the sheets.

You will only end up ruining your partner’s sexual mood when you do this because anal sex is still rather taboo to a lot of women and talking about it right then and there will sound really weird to her.

Make it a point to discuss it with your lover the next time you’re having a casual conversation.

Remember to break it to her gently, too, or else she will have negative ideas about anal sex.

Let her call the shots during lovemaking.

One thing that prevents women from becoming more adventurous in the bedroom is not giving her full control between the sheets.

And if you’re not letting your lover call the shots in bed, there’s a big chance that you will find it difficult to say yes to anal sex.

See, your lover will feel more empowered when she runs the show during sex. When she feels more empowered, she becomes more adventurous in the bedroom.

And when your partner becomes more adventurous in bed, making her say yes to backdoor action won’t be that challenging.

Don’t be desperate.

If she says no the first time, there’s no need to repeat it again and again because this will only annoy her.

Always remember that there’s always a next time to work your magic.