foreplay mistakes

These mistakes can easily ruin her sexual mood.

These mistakes can easily ruin her sexual mood.

When it comes to giving a woman a sex session that will really knock her socks off, getting her ideally prepped up for lovemaking is definitely a priority.

Apart from making her really wet for sexual penetration, getting her really going for lovemaking also boosts the production and release of positive neurotransmitters and hormones in her body that will take her chances of reaching the Big O during the action up a notch.

But the thing is I discovered during my extensive research into the female sexuality that a lot of guys tend to overlook a few mistakes that can keep women from really getting in the mood for a sex session.

There’s even a possibility that you’re making some of them, too. Why not follow along to find out what these are?

Making a beeline to her erogenous zones.

Let’s kick things off with perhaps the biggest mistake that can easily ruin your partner’s sexual arousal…

Now while physically stimulating a woman’s erogenous zones like the breasts and clitoris when you’re looking to get her sexual mood in gear is one of the ways to do it, zeroing in on them as soon as you get the chance will just make her feel awkward and uncomfortable.

(Start the ball rolling with a kissing session that will blow her mind and you’ll be on the right track.)

You move too fast.

Slow and easy should be your mantra when you’re working your magic on your partner to get her prepped up for lovemaking.

Besides promoting a surge in positive hormones and neurotransmitters that set off the necessary changes to make sex pleasurable for her, taking things slow and easy also keeps her on her toes while you’re at it, boosting her sexual excitement levels.

Getting fast and furious will just give your lover the notion that you’re rushing her, which will just make her feel more anxious than horny.

Saying she’s “hot” during sex talk.

Although it’s a good strategy to reassure your partner that you find her sexually attractive when things are getting hot in the bedroom, there’s a possibility that things will go the other way around when you use the words “hot” and “sexy” to describe her.

This is because she will just have the idea that you only see her as a sex object.

Keep in mind to use the words “beautiful” and “gorgeous” since they convey sincerity and respect in a woman’s perspective even during lovemaking.


Are you doing these during foreplay? Stop!

Are you doing these during foreplay? Stop!

When it comes to giving your lover an experience in the bedroom that she won’t be forgetting anytime soon, getting an amazing foreplay session going is definitely a priority.

Giving your partner awesome foreplay makes her more sexually excited. The more fired up for sex she is, the easier it will be for you to make her reach the Big O as you go along.

But the thing is a lot of guys mistakenly think that foreplay is all about reaching for a woman’s erogenous zones like the breasts and clitoris to stimulate them.

This move will just make your lover feel awkward and uncomfortable, which can ruin her sexual mood before you know it believe me.

And speaking of things that can sap her sexual mood, here are a few more foreplay mistakes that I’ve come across during my extensive research into the female psychology…

Not jazzing up the bedroom.

Women are very particular with cleanliness and organization. And if she finds your bedroom messy and dirty, her sexual arousal could take a nosedive.

This is because her stress levels will rise, which cancel out the effects of the positive hormones that are needed to get her sexual arousal in gear.

Make it a point to give your bedroom the organizing and cleaning it deserves before you get the action going.

Not putting on some nice tunes.

Music basically helps your partner get relaxed.

And if you’ve been following my posts for a while now, it won’t be that tricky to make her fired up for lovemaking if she feels really comfortable.

Besides getting her mind at ease, nice tunes also have a sexy feel to them.

Can’t decide which ones to pick? For starters, slow jazz, instrumentals and ballads can get you on your way.

Not varying your techniques.

Sure you may already have a general idea of the things your lover likes during foreplay, but simply doing the same stuff over and over will just make them flat and boring in the long run.

Keep in mind to always have new techniques up your sleeve when you and your partner are already at it in the bedroom.

She’ll also become more excited because you will keep her on her toes in the process.

Not keeping an eye on your grooming.

Remember the pointer I’ve emphasized about women and cleaning and organizing? It also involves your overall grooming, too.

Make it a point to always keep an eye on how you look and smell before you sizzle things up with her and you’ll be surprised with the results.

You may be guilty of making these foreplay mistakes...

You may be guilty of making these foreplay mistakes!

Properly firing up a woman for lovemaking is a must if you’re looking to give her a sex session that she won’t forget anytime soon.

Apart from boosting your partner’s chances of making her achieve orgasm as you go along, it will also intensify the pleasurable sensations that she will experience in the process.

And just imagine the good things that you’ll be in for if you pull the whole thing off, right?

Now here’s the thing…

Sure you may already have an idea of the things that your lover likes when you’re already getting a foreplay session going, but did you know that you may be making a few mistakes while doing so?

Make sure you read on to learn more…

Not starting outside the bedroom.

Unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly think, foreplay doesn’t start when you’re already heating things up in bed. You can actually start it up outside of the bedroom.

See, one of the key factors of foreplay that a lot of men tend to overlook is mental stimulation. I know this sounds surprising right now, but getting her mind going should definitely be on your foreplay checklist.

One simple way of getting the job done is texting her about the sexy things you’ll do to her the moment you two get alone.

You don’t ask her what she wants.

Most guys mistakenly believe that there is a pattern in foreplay. They think that they simply take note of the stuff that their partners like, do the same thing over and over and they’re good to go.

But the thing is foreplay doesn’t work like that. She’ll just end up feeling annoyed or uncomfortable. Or perhaps a combination of the two.

A woman will have different urges and desires each time you do it. So make it a point to ask your lover how she’d like to get things done to really make the experience awesome for her.

You make a beeline for the clitoris and breasts.

Sure a woman’s breasts and clitoris are no doubt two of the most sensitive erogenous zones that she has, but immediately zeroing in on them as soon as foreplay begins isn’t a good idea.

This is because you need to fire them up the right way or else they won’t produce the pleasurable sensations that they are capable of. She will simply feel uncomfortable in the process.

She'll enjoy foreplay even more if you avoid these mistakes...

She’ll enjoy foreplay even more if you avoid these mistakes…

I’m pretty sure that giving your lover an awesome foreplay session is one of the top items in your sexual checklist when things get extra steamy between the sheets.

This is because it basically takes her sexual arousal up a notch.

The more sexually aroused your partner is, she won’t just enjoy your lovemaking session even more, but your chances of giving her a mind-blowing orgasm while you’re at it are also going to be much higher.

Sure you may already have an idea of the stuff that your lover likes when it comes to foreplay, but I’ve learned a few things during my extensive research into the female sexuality that can easily ruin the whole thing.

Let me explain what I mean…

You get fast and furious as soon as you get the chance.

Now while the temptation of going full speed ahead with foreplay as soon as the action starts is rather overwhelming, always keep in mind that it will be much better if you take things down a notch.

See, a woman’s brain tends to stimulate her hormone-producing glands to churn out more positive hormones this way, which means she won’t just be fired up for sex sooner, but she will also enjoy your foreplay session a lot more.

You only focus on one or two erogenous zones.

When the term “erogenous zone” pops up, I’m betting that you immediately think of the clitoris and the breasts.

But what’s really interesting is a woman’s body has a lot of other erogenous zones like the mons pubis, inner thighs, back of the ears, wrists and the back of the neck that will give her lots of pleasurable sensations if you give them the same amount of TLC.

You will also make foreplay even more amazing for your lover if you keep in mind to explore her body to search for more erogenous hotspots when you’re already getting busy with foreplay.

Come to think of it. Just stimulating one erogenous zone during foreplay is going to feel boring for her, too.

You do the same techniques over and over.

So here’s the thing…

You find out that your partner loves it when you lick and suck her clitoris. Now while it’s alright to integrate this when you’re having foreplay, simply making it a routine will just take away all the fun out of it.

Keep in mind to always mix things up when you two are at it. Experimenting with the whole thing isn’t just going to make foreplay even more exciting for the both of you, but can also take her pleasure levels off the charts.