first date tips

Going on a first date? Keep these in mind.

Going on a first date? Keep these in mind.

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” say, first dates are always going to be tricky.

Acing one isn’t about wearing loud and gaudy clothes or perhaps using words or phrases that supposedly make a woman fall in love with you.

However, I came across a few interesting bits and pieces during my extensive research into the female psychology that can help boost your chances of dazzling the woman you’re out with during a first date.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

Keep a close eye on your hygiene.

One of the most important things you should keep in mind when it comes to first dates is that you need to make a woman feel comfortable around you.

Unless she has this notion, chances are your first date would become a disaster anytime soon no matter how hard you try. Sure this may sound tricky, but one simple way to pull this off is keeping your hygiene impeccable.

As it turns out, women are very particular with how you smell and look during a first date. If they think you haven’t paid attention to your hygiene, an alarm rings in their brain and activates the endocrine glands to churn out stress hormones.

And when these anxiety-causing hormones get in the picture, it’s going to be game over for your date.

Don’t overdo it on the compliments.

Now while women like to be complimented on a first date, overdoing the whole thing makes her feel that you’re not sincere.

This is because a woman’s brain stimulates the release of feel good hormones when you give her a compliment. However, going off with one compliment after another convinces her sooner or later that perhaps you’re just complimenting her as a devious strategy.

And this strategy’s goal is to trick her into liking you and score enough brownie points so she’ll go out with you again. If she thinks you’re just taking her for a ride with your compliments, then it’s not going to happen.

So don’t compliment her unless you’re really going to tell a sincere one.

Talk about trivial things on a first date.

When you engage a woman in conversation during a first date, make it a point to keep things trivial and simple.

Rather than ask her about her views on complicated stuff like politics and similar topics, know what her favorite book or movie is. Sure this may sound simplistic, but you can start building an emotional connection with her since she’s already sharing personal information with you.

As a bonus, you can even use these bits and pieces to dazzle her even more as you go along.

So you've finally convinced her to go on a date with you...

So you’ve finally convinced her to go on a date with you…

I am really irked with what these so-called “dating gurus” tell a lot of guys these days.

Besides saying there are magic words that mesmerize women instantly during a first date, going for a certain mode of dressing (mind you, supposedly the flashier, the better) also helps you pull off just that.

During my extensive research into the female psychology though, I discovered that there’s no such thing as an instant attraction when you take a woman out on a date for the first time. Making her like you and boosting your chances of scoring a second date is actually a process.

And I also learned a few key things during my research that will help you get this process started and keep it going to really dazzle the woman you’re out with. Make sure you read on to find out more…

Keep a close eye on your hygiene.

Sure this may sound rather simplistic, but looking and smelling nice is a priority if you’d like to impress your date. Not having this on your dating checklist is only going to lead to disaster sooner than you think.

See, women need visual reinforcement to be able to feel comfortable around a guy. This simply means you need to have the appearance (and smell) of someone who she wants to interact with to make her socialize with you.

Plus, showing up looking as fine as can be during a first date also gives her the impression that you’re responsible and trustworthy, which definitely scores you a lot of brownie points.

Make it a point to take a long shower and put on deodorant before your date. Pick an outfit that highlights your assets. Get rid of excess facial hair. Having a spritz of cologne or perfume also helps a lot. And remember not to overdo it on the accessories since they will make you look gaudy.

Engage her in a meaningful conversation.

Choosing the right topics to talk about is the right way to get a meaningful conversation going. There are no magic words or pick-up lines that help you get the job done. And the best way to start one? Ask her something trivial like what her favorite movie or book is and you’re on the right track.

Make it a point to listen to her intently while at it. Apart from helping you build an emotional connection with your date since she will feel you are doing your best to focus on her, you can also pick up a few things that can help you dazzle her more as you go along.

Go easy on the booze.

Sure it’s okay to have a serving or two of your favorite brew on a first date, but simply guzzling the stuff is going to make the whole thing turn sour. Besides making you act rather awkward, your conversational skills will also become horrible if you drink too much.

Here are a few tips to help you score a second date.

Here are a few tips to help you score a second date.

I’m sure that scoring a second date is your top priority when you take out a woman for the first time. However, unlike what so-called “dating gurus” say, there isn’t a magic bullet that can ensure the whole thing off in an instant.

Interestingly, there are actually simple tips you should keep in mind that can help you boost your chances of doing so. No need to do ridiculous things like “peacocking” and other silly stuff. Make sure you read on to find out more.

Take a long shower.

Sure this may sound rather simplistic, but there’s a more scientific reason why you should have a meticulous shower before showing up on a first date. As it turns out, it also stimulated the brain to release positive hormones that made you feel more confident, comfortable to mingle and happier.

And since women are also critical with a guy’s appearance and smell during a first date, this tip is sure to help you get on the right track in no time at all. Make sure you take it up a notch by putting on deodorant, picking a smart outfit as well as getting rid of excess facial hair.

Now while it’s perfectly fine to accessorize, like wearing a watch or jewelry, just remember not to overdo it or else you will look trying too hard to impress her.

Have the right conversation topics.

Engaging your date in a conversation is a key factor when it comes to establishing an emotional connection with her. And the first thing to remember when talking with her is to choose the right topics, since picking out the wrong ones can prematurely end your conversation sooner than you’d like to.

Go for trivial things like her favorite books, movies and cartoon characters. Although these topics may be trivial, they can easily get her talking and be more comfortable sharing personal information with you. (Plus, you can also learn a few things that you can use to dazzle her even more during your date if you just listen to her closely.)

Drink moderately.

Making it a point to keep an eye on the booze you’re downing during your first date is a priority to steer clear of any untoward incidents that can take place if you’ve had one too many. Apart from inadvertently saying or doing something you don’t really mean to.

And when that takes place, it’s definitely going to be game over with your date, which is something you don’t want to happen, do you?

Here are a few tips that will help you ace your first date...

Here are a few tips that will help you ace your first date…

If you’re like most guys, chances are you want your first dates to be as smooth as possible to really make the woman you’re out with eager to do it again anytime soon.

However, unlike what a lot of men mistakenly think though, there is no such thing as an instant connection during a first date. You have to keep a few essential tips in mind to really get the job done.

So if you’re looking to ace your next first date easily, here are the pointers you need to remember that will help you boost your chances of pulling it off:

Prioritize proper grooming.

Looking and smelling good should definitely be on top of your checklist if you’re hoping to impress your date. Besides showing the woman you’re out with that you are taking care of yourself, not mentioning perking up your attractiveness, it also has a positive effect on your body.

Interestingly, knowing that you smell and look nice helps the brain produce mood-altering hormones that make you feel happier, more cordial and sociable, attributes that will definitely give your date the notion that she will have a great time with you.

Choose a place she is comfortable in.

Unlike what most men believe, simply picking out the most expensive restaurant that you can find to have your first date in doesn’t guarantee that the woman you’re out with is going to enjoy the experience.

It’s really smart if you take time to ask your date where she’d like to have it. You’ll be quite surprised with the possible answers you will get, too. Apart from the typical restaurant, some women would rather have a date at their favorite deli, coffee place or even sports bar.

Just make sure the place isn’t too noisy or you will have a hard time listening intently to your date, which plays a key factor in the success of the whole thing.

Keep the booze in moderation.

Now while I am not saying that you should entirely stay clear from alcoholic drinks during a date (wine and beer do make some tasty foods even more scrumptious), overdoing it can lead to disaster sooner or later.

Apart from making it really tough for you to communicate properly with your date, excessive alcohol can also cloud your judgement and actions, which can lead to your saying or doing things that can annoy or make her really uncomfortable.

Just keep in mind to keep things moderate and you’re good to go.