first date tips

 

Keep these first date tips in mind to really dazzle her.

Keep these first date tips in mind to really dazzle her.

Acing a first isn’t something that you can pull off with some “secret technique” like what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are suggesting.

 

But the thing is I’ve come across a number of useful pointers on how to boost your chances of doing just that during my extensive research into the female psychology.

So if you’re looking to really dazzle the woman you’re going out with on a first date, make sure you read on to learn more…

Keep an eye on your grooming.

I know this sounds simplistic right now, but not making your overall grooming a priority in your first date checklist is just going to lead to disaster before the whole thing even starts.

See, women are very particular with how you look and smell. If you arrive with a hastily prepared getup and a funky odor, she’s just going to feel anxious around you.

Let her in on the planning.

Sure the norm is men should be the ones taking care of a first date’s details, but you’ll have a bigger chance of making it successful if you ask her for her inputs.

Besides making her feel that you’re really into her, you’re also going to get in on some bits and pieces about her that you can use to earn some brownie points along the way.

Punctuality is essential.

I’ve learned during my research into the female psychology that one of the things that women find upsetting when they’re going on a first date is the guy showing up late.

This is because they get the notion that you’re irresponsible and have no time management skills, which get their stress levels going.

And you don’t want that to happen.

Ask trivial stuff.

Never try engaging a woman in a conversation with something that’s complicated just because you’re looking to give her the impression that you are smart.

You’ll be surprised with how much eager she’ll be to exchange ideas with you when you ask her something simple like what’s her favorite cartoon character is or perhaps what TV show she’s following these days.

Keep your hands out in the open.

According to a study, women tend to be more comfortable around guys who give them the notion that they’re open and honest.

One way of doing this is keeping your hands in full view most of the time since this gesture gives their subconscious that you’re not hiding anything from her.

Avoid these first date no-no's.

Avoid these first date no-no’s.

I’m betting that convincing a woman to go out with you another time is the biggest priority on your first date checklist.

And unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying, doing just that isn’t about making her feel that you’re the alpha male or perhaps wearing loud clothes to give her the notion that she should only focus her attention on you.

Put yourself in a woman’s shoes and think it over for a moment. If the guy you’re having a first date with acts like a jerk and has a bad fashion taste, would you go out with him again?

There you go.

Just to keep you in the know of how to make a first date successful, I’ll point out a few more mistakes that can ruin your chances of convincing a woman to go out with you again that you may be probably making…

First Date Mistake #1: Overthinking.

Now while it’s crucial that you make your first date as perfect as you can, allowing yourself to get too stressed about the whole thing is just going to be counter-productive.

It’s just going to promote a surge of negative hormones in your body that will just make you act and talk awkwardly, which will just lead to disaster sooner or later.

First Date Mistake #2: Not involving her with the planning.

Sure most guys think that the responsibility of planning and organizing a first date solely falls on them, but this is actually a big mistake.

Besides making a woman feel that you really care for what she likes, you’re also going to know some personal things about her that you can use to dazzle her as you go along.

First Date Mistake #3: Being late.

Here’s the thing…

You’re simply setting yourself up for disaster if you arrive late on a first date.

This is because she’ll think that you don’t have time management skills, which will give her the notion that you’re an irresponsible man.

I know this sounds rather harsh, but making it a point to arrive on a first date at least 10 minutes earlier is the smart way to go.

First Date Mistake #4: Not listening intently.

It’s not just about expressing the right ideas when you’re engaging your date in a meaningful discussion.

You also have to listen intently to what she says.

Besides giving her the notion that you’re really interested in her, you’re also going to pick up some personal things about her that you can use to earn some more brownie points in the process.

Check out these first date essentials.

Check out these first date essentials.

I’m really disappointed at what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying about first dates these days.

Apart from emphasizing that acing one is all about doing a dating trick that’s aimed at giving a woman the notion that she’s going out with an “alpha male,” they’re also suggesting that convincing her to go out with you again can be pulled off by following some “surefire techniques.”

But the thing is I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that there isn’t a specific dating trick or technique that will ensure your first date is going to be a complete success.

On the other hand, I also discovered some key factors you should take note of to make the woman you’re going out with feel not just safe and comfortable around you, but also excited to go on date number two with you soon.

Here are those key factors…

Let her in on the first date planning and organization.

Unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly believe, planning and organizing a first date aren’t tasks that you should take on alone.

Sure this sounds surprising right now, but you’re actually better off if you let her in on the action.

See, besides giving her the notion that you really care about her, you also won’t have a tough time going for the right venue, the food and drinks she likes as well as the activities she’ll want to engage in on your first date.

Pull out all the stops with your grooming.

Now while this may be something that you don’t need to be reminded about, there are still guys who neglect to give their grooming the TLC it deserves before showing up on a first date.

Besides keeping in mind to get rid of excess facial hair, picking your clothes carefully, having a meticulous shower and slapping on some deodorant, going for appropriate and clean shoes while at it is also a must.

Prioritize talking about trivial stuff.

One of the goals that you should realize during a first date is making a woman feel cozy and relaxed around you.

And one of the ways that you can do this is by establishing an emotional connection with your date, which is primarily done by exchanging meaningful ideas with her.

I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that women tend to be more eager to get in on a conversation if they can easily relate to the subject being discussed.

Try to kick things off with the most trivial topic that you can think of and you’ll be surprised with the results.

Boost your chances of scoring a second date with these tips!

Boost your chances of scoring a second date with these tips!

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are convincing a woman to go out with you on a second date is your top priority when you’re taking her out for the first time.

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “pickup artists” and “dating gurus” are saying, though, pulling it off doesn’t involve acting like the alpha male or perhaps dressing in loud clothes to really get her attention.

Put yourself in a woman’s shoes for a moment. If you were to go out on a first date with a guy who acts like a jerk and has a terrible taste in fashion, would you have the heart to do it a second time?

Well, I think you already know the answer to that one.

However, I learned some pretty useful things that will help boost your chances of acing a first date during my extensive research into the female psychology. Make sure you read on to learn more…

Let her in on the planning and organizing.

Sure you may think that arranging a first date is purely a man’s job, but you’re actually missing out on a lot of brownie points when you go it alone.

Make it a point to consult her when you’re planning and organizing your first date. Besides making her feel that you really care about her and what she likes, you’re also going to learn a lot about her as you go along.

Make sure you look and smell nice.

I know that this sounds rather simplistic and redundant, but this is one factor that can easily make your chances of scoring that second date plummet before you know it.

Keep in mind to take a long, meticulous shower, slap on some deodorant and plan your outfit accordingly. Be very careful with your shoes while at it since women are very particular about footwear.

Don’t overdo it on the accessories as well.

Be on time.

Punctuality is an essential when it comes to first dates. Arriving late only gives her the notion that you’re really not that interested in going out with her.

Make it a point to be at the venue at least 15 minutes ahead of schedule.

Talk about easy stuff.

One piece of advice: trying to break the ice with complicated subjects like politics, science and similar things will only make you look like a blowhard to your date.

Go for trivial stuff instead.