first date pointers

Going on a first date? Take note of these pointers!

Going on a first date? Take note of these pointers!

Unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying these days, acing a first date isn’t just about giving the woman you’re out with that you are the alpha male by acting really obnoxious or perhaps wearing the loudest outfit you can put together.

Come to think of it. If you show up on your date with a really bad fashion sense and act like a jerk, how do you think the whole thing will turn out?

Now while I don’t believe that there are surefire tips when it comes to acing a first date, I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that there are key pointers that you should keep in mind to boost your chances of pulling it off.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

Remember that it’s just a first date.

Most men seem to believe that a failing to ace a first date is already the end of their dating career. If it won’t turn out like you’re hoping it to be, there will be other first dates that you’ll have the opportunity to ace in the near future.

Let her pick the venue.

A lot of guys mistakenly think that simply choosing a really fancy restaurant for a first date will already make them ace it almost immediately.

But the thing is I learned during my research that doing just that will only lead to the opposite since women will feel that they’re going to a job interview instead of a date.

Make it a point to let her in on the planning process of your first date and ask her where she wants to go. You’ll simply be surprised with how sociable and comfortable she will be during your date.

Keep the conversation light and simple.

Women tend to be more open if they can easily relate with the stuff you’re talking about. And making her do just that is talking about the most trivial things you can think about.

I know this sounds rather surprising, but your date will be more eager to exchange meaningful ideas with you if you ask her what her favorite book is or perhaps the TV show she is fan of.

Don’t be touchy-feely.

Now while emphasizing your words with minor gestures is a good idea, overdoing the whole thing by constantly touching your date will only lead to disaster. She will only think that you’re fresh and become more wary of your intentions.

Acing a date isn't something that just happens. Here are a few pointers on how to make it happen.

Acing a first date isn’t something that just happens. Here are a few pointers on how to make it happen.

Acing a first date is something that you work on. Unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” seem to be saying these days, it doesn’t just happen accidentally because of sheer luck.

However, I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that there are a few key factors that can help boost your chances of making a date successful. Make sure you follow along to find out what they are…

Put extra effort in planning your date.

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are your idea of planning a date only involves picking a nice restaurant and you’re already all set. However, you have to do more than that if you’d like to really impress the woman you’re going out with.

Make it a point to go the extra mile and know certain things about your date like her preferences in food and drink, the music she listens to and the activities that she likes doing. Now integrate all these information into the date you’re planning.

Just imagine how much she’ll be impressed the moment you kick things off.

Plan your outfit carefully.

A woman is a basically a visual person. Most of her impression about you will come from what you wear on your date. If you show up in style, she will tend to see you in a positive light. If your getup is horrible, well…you get the idea.

Keep in mind not to simply grab what you wear on a date at the last minute. Make sure you try on a few test outfits to see which one is the best.

Now while there’s nothing wrong with accessorizing, just remember not to overdo it or else you’ll end up giving her the notion that you’re trying too hard to impress her.

Break the ice with trivial subjects

Engaging your date in a meaningful conversation has a key role in acing it. Unlike what a lot of guys think, your chances of impressing her aren’t in how complicated the topics you’ll touch on will be.

It’s rather in how simple they will be. Make sure you break the ice with trivial subjects. Ask her what the name of her first pet is or the title of her favorite movie, instead of outlining the new really technical computer program you just got.

You’ll be surprised how the conversation will go.

Listen intently.

When it comes to acing a date, making a connection with the woman you’re out with is a priority. Unless you make this connection, there’s a risk that you won’t convince her to go on date number two.

Keep in mind to listen to her intently when the conversation is already in swing. This makes her feel that you are really interested in her, releasing positive hormones. As a bonus, you will also pick up a lot of stuff you can use to dazzle her even more while at it.

Here are a few tips to give your dating strategy a boost...

Here are a few tips to give your dating strategy a boost…

I’m pretty sure your ultimate goal during a first date is making an unforgettable impact to the woman you’re out with.

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” say though, pulling off just that isn’t about putting on specific articles of clothing or perhaps using supposedly surefire pickup lines that do the trick.

During my extensive research into the female psychology though, I picked up a few useful pointers that may easily boost your chances of establishing an emotional connection with your date.

Make sure you follow along to find out what they are and really dazzle the woman you’re going out with the next time you have a date…

Listen to her intently.

According to the stuff I stumbled upon during my research, women generally like a guy who is a good listener.

Besides making a woman feel that you’re really into her, listening to your date when you’re engaged in a conversation also gives her the notion that you are eager to know her better. Plus, you can pick up a few things that you can use to impress her even more as you go along.

You’re already missing out on brownie points if you’re more engaged with your mobile phone or tablet than with your date. Keep in mind that it’s really smart to put those tweets and status updates on hold.

Go for trivial topics.

The topics you also talk about during a first date also significantly matter.

A lot of guys mistakenly think that picking complicated topics for discussion makes them look smarter and cooler to the women they’re on a date with. However, according to my research, it will only to the opposite.

Can’t think of a nice topic to break the ice? Try asking your date what her favorite childhood book is or the name of her first pet. Asking her the dessert or comfort food she’d like to tuck into now and then is also a nice idea.

This is also a great way to encourage your date to open up to you.

Don’t be desperate.

No matter how attracted you are to the woman you’re on a date with, never make her feel that you’re too frisky to be with her. Or else you’ll simply scare her off before you even dish out your A-game.

This will only give her the idea that you are desperate. And “being desperate” also means “creepy” in women’s vocabulary. Start things off friendly and keep it that way all through the date.