first date mistakes

You may be unknowingly making these first date mistakes.

You may be unknowingly making these first date mistakes.

Unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying, acing a first date can’t be achieved by simply following some supposedly proven tips.

Each first date you have is going to be a different experience every time. Chances are they’re not going to be as successful as you think they will be.

There is even a big possibility that they’ll have the opposite effect on the woman you’re going out with.

And while we’re on the subject, I’m going to share some first date mistakes I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that you’re probably unknowingly making.

Find out what these are when you follow along…

You plan the whole thing alone.

If you’re anything like most men, chances are you have the principle of planning and organizing a first date by yourself.

Although it may feel like the right thing to do as a guy, it is actually one of the biggest first date no-no’s that you can make. See, you’re basically missing out on your date’s inputs when you do this.

Besides failing to take advantage of knowing the things she likes, you’re also losing your chances to make her feel that you have a high regard for her feedback and participation with the whole thing.

You can easily get on the right track to a successful first date if you let her in on the planning and organizing.

You kick things off with a complicated subject.

Getting a meaningful conversation going during a first date is one of the key factors of making it successful.

You’re not just making her feel more relaxed and comfortable around you, but you’ll also get to know her better in the process. How’s that for two for two?

However, you’re just going to ruin her mood to exchange meaningful ideas if you start things off with subjects that are complicated and difficult. Now while women think smart is sexy, she’s just going to think that you’re a blowhard if you do this.

You’re better off asking trivial questions if you are looking to have a gab fest with her.

You don’t keep a close eye on your grooming.

Sure this may sound really simplistic, but not pulling out all the stops on your grooming easily prevents you from acing a first date.

Women are very particular with how guys look and smell. And if you show up on your first date not quite up to par in this department, you’re sure going to be disappointed with how it will turn out.

(Here are some useful grooming pointers that will help you get on your way.)

 

So you're still not acing that first date...

So you’re still not acing that first date…

It’s either you make a good impression on the woman you’re on the first date with or blow your chances to go out with her again.

And unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly think, doing just that isn’t something that you can pull off by following the stuff that self-proclaimed “pickup artists” are saying these days.

You can’t ace a first date by acting like the alpha male or perhaps putting on loud clothes. Come to think of it and put yourself in your date’s shoes for a minute.

If the man you’re on a first date with acts like a jerk and dresses funny, would you ever think about going out with him again anytime soon? Well, there’s your answer.

Moreover, while researching extensively into the female psychology, I’ve learned a few things that can easily blow your chances of convincing a woman to go on a second date with you.

Make sure you read on to find out what these are…

You immediately put on the moves on her.

Women think of first dates as friendly situations where they can meet new people.

And you will just end up creeping her out if you start putting on the moves on her as soon as your date starts, which means that your date won’t turn out like you’d expected.

Keep things as friendly as you can to make her feel relaxed and comfortable around you, which gets you on the right track to getting that second date.

You bash previous first dates.

Although it’s important that you get to know your date better, simply doing a tell-all about the bad first dates that you had is one of the worst things that you can do.

This is because it will just make her feel that you’ve got a lot of emotional baggage to get rid of.

It will also give her the notion that if your date will turn out bad, she will also think that you’re going to gossip about her on your next first date.

You don’t ask trivial questions.

Encouraging a woman to talk to you is not about trying to impress her about the complicated stuff that you know.

You’ll be surprised with the results if you ask her simple and trivial questions.

Put yourself in your date’s shoes for a bit. Would you rather talk about a subject that you don’t have even the slightest inkling about or something you can easily relate to?

Avoid these mistakes!

Avoid these first date mistakes!

Acing a first date is tough. There’s no more straightforward way of saying this.

Unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying though, pulling the whole thing off is more than just looking and smelling good as well as choosing a posh restaurant to take her to on the big night (or day).

Boosting your chances of really wowing a woman on a first date also involves keeping clear from mistakes that can easily ruin the whole thing in no time. Interestingly, a lot of men seem to overlook these things as well.

So if you’d like to increase your odds of convincing her to say yes to another date with you, here are a few things that should avoid when you take a woman out for the first time…

Don’t forget to let her in on the planning.

Most guys mistakenly think that planning and organizing a first date is solely their job. Sure this may give a woman the notion that you’re a take charge guy with initiative, but you won’t know if the details you put in will be to her liking.

Make it a point to ask her where she’s like to go on your date. This also includes the food and drink you will order while at it. Doing this makes her feel that you’re really into her, too, which earns you extra brownie points in the process.

The conversation should be trivial.

Discussing complicated stuff will only give her the notion that she’s in a job interview instead of a first date. She’d want to bolt out of there when you do this. Keep things trivial and you’ll be alright.

Keep your mobile phone in silent mode.

Nothing irks a woman more during a first date than a man who seems to check his phone every minute or two. Sure the temptation to check if you’ve received a text or a voice message, you will just make her feel that you’re bored and wishing you’re anywhere else at the moment.

Make it a point to post those tweets and updates later as well because they will just annoy her. This also applies to other gadgets that you may have like tablets and mp3 players.

No alcohol allowed.

Unlike what a lot of men think, alcohol may give you a boost of courage, but it will also affect the way you think and act on a first date. Save your favorite brew for later even if it’s your date that made the first move to order one.

Always keep clear of these first date mistakes!

Always keep clear of these first date mistakes!

Chances are convincing a woman to go on a second date with you is the top item in your checklist when you go out with her for the very first time.

But the thing is you’re simply noticing that your success rate of successfully getting a second date is not like what it used to these days.

This doesn’t mean that you’ve already lost your touch when it comes to convincing women to go out with you a second time though. There’s a big possibility that you’re just making a few first date no-no’s.

Make sure you follow along to find out what these are…

You take her to an extra posh place.

Now while you may think that picking out the most expensive and most extravagant restaurant in town is one way of impressing a woman on your first date, this is actually a misconception.

This is because she will have the notion that she’s going to something rather serious and unfriendly like a job interview instead of a date.

Instead of picking some ultra posh place, make it a point to let your date decide where she wants to have it. Besides making her feel more relaxed around you, she also won’t be that reserved when you’re having a conversation.

You don’t switch off your mobile phone.

The next time you go out on a first date, keep in mind to switch off your mobile phone or perhaps toggle it on silent mode. This also applies to other gadgets like mp3 players and tablets that you may have with you.

This is because neglecting to do so will simply make your date feel that you’re not really into her and will become quite anxious and impatient while at it.

Sure the temptation to post a new tweet or status update may be great, but come to think of it. Is it really worth it that you’re putting your chances of scoring a second date at risk?

You talk about serious and complicated stuff.

Now while we’ve previously discussed the importance of stimulating a woman’s brain when it comes to dating (as well as prepping her up for action in between the sheets), overdoing the whole thing will only lead to disaster.

And while we’re on the subject, keep in mind not to talk about complicated computer programs, religion, past relationships as well as you biological clock to prevent her from feeling crept out in the process.