first date mistakes

Avoid these first date mistakes!

Avoid these first date mistakes!

Making a first date successful is no doubt your top priority when you’re taking out a woman for the first time.

But the thing is doing such that isn’t about following the advice of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” these days.

Pulling it off isn’t about acting like the alpha male or perhaps wearing loud clothes to make her think that she has to give you her utmost attention.

Acting like a jerk and having a bad get-up combined? Well, that’s the start of a really bad first date in my book.

However, I’ve compiled a few mistakes that you should avoid to help boost your chances of making her say yes to a second date.

Let me explain what I mean…

Arriving late.

Women are a bit particular with punctuality. If you arrive late on your first date, she might think that you’re irresponsible. And it’s going to have a big effect on your goal to score a second date even if you’re already pulling out all the stops while at it. Keep in mind to arrive at least 15 minutes earlier and you’re good to go.

Not planning your apparel ahead of time.

How you look and smell is a big deal when it comes to women. So you’re sure to elicit the wrong reaction from her when you show up with a hastily grabbed getup. Make it a point to plan your apparel two days before so you can easily see what works and what doesn’t.

Talking about complicated stuff.

Now while intelligence is sexy to women, kicking things off with complicated stuff when you’re trying to engage her in a conversation will just lead to disaster before you know it. This is because she’ll just think you’re trying too hard in the process. Ask trivial things like the name of her favorite cartoon character, the name of her first pet or perhaps the TV show she’s following these days and you’ll be surprised with the results.

Not getting and keeping eye contact.

So here’s the situation…

You’re basically giving her the idea that you’re hiding something when you can’t keep and maintain eye contact with the woman you’re on a first date with. If you’re having difficulty looking at her straight in the eye, try looking at the top of the bridge of her nose. Besides giving her the notion that you’re listening to her intently, it will also make her feel that you’re really into her.

So you'd like to make your first date as successful as possible...

So you’d like to make your first date as successful as possible…

Chances are making the woman you’re on a first date with feel as comfortable and relaxed around you as possible is your ultimate goal.

Apart from helping you easily engage and keep her in a meaningful exchange of ideas as you go along, pulling this off also gets you on your way to convincing her to have another date with you.

But here’s the thing…

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are saying these days, making a woman as comfortable and relaxed as she can during your first date isn’t about saying particular words or perhaps doing specific gestures.

Why not follow along to find out the mistakes I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that can make a woman feel awkward and uncomfortable when you’re on a first date?

You show up late.

I know this sounds a bit simplistic right now, but arriving late for a first date gives the woman you’re out with the notion that you either have time management issues or you’re really not that interested in her.

This promotes the release of negative hormones that make her feel awkward and uncomfortable almost at once.

You didn’t plan your getup.

Women are very particular with your grooming on a first date and you can find yourself in a tricky situation if you just hastily grab whatever you can find in your closet on the big day (or night).

Plan your getup meticulously at least a couple of days before your first date to really make a good impression.

You assume rapport with her.

Although showing your date that you’re confident and friendly is a good way to give her the notion that she won’t have a tough time connecting with you, overdoing the whole is just going to lead to disaster.

Start slow and subtle as you can. Don’t get touchy-feely while you’re at it, too.

You break the ice with technical topics.

Now while we’ve previously discussed that women find intelligent men sexy, opening a conversation with something complicated and intricate will simply make her think that you’re trying too hard to give her the notion that you’re smart.

You’ll just end up looking like a blowhard in front of her. Ask open-ended questions instead and you will be surprised with the results.

You keep looking at your watch.

First, this makes her think that you’re bored and want to be somewhere else than being with her. Second, she’ll also assume that you’re not really interested in her right off the bat.

Come to think of it. Isn’t this going to end up in a very bad first date?

You'll blow your chances at a second date when you do these.

You’ll blow your chances at a second date when you do these.

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are scoring a second date with the woman you’ve got your eye on is the top item in your checklist as soon as she agrees to go out with you.

Sure you may have heard how self-proclaimed “dating gurus” say that pulling off just that is as easy as doing a few almost magical things, but I think that it’s all bull.

Now while I won’t be giving pointers on how to convince a woman to go on a second date with you in the future (because that’s entirely up to you), I’ll just share a few mistakes I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that can keep her from saying yes when you do ask her.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

You don’t let her in on the planning.

Although the norm when it comes to first dates is that the guy should be the one planning the whole thing, you’re definitely missing out on a lot of brownie points when you don’t ask her for some inputs like  where she wants to go or the food and drinks she prefers.

See, besides making your date feel that you’re really into her, you’ll also know a few things about her that you can use to your advantage sooner or later.

You arrive late.

Even showing up 5 minutes late on a date will already make a woman feel that you’re not really interested in her.

And just to top the whole thing off, she’s also going to think that you don’t have the right time management skills, which makes her feel anxious. Just imagine how your first date will turn out when she feels this way.

You don’t plan your outfit.

Dress to impress is the way to go when you’re going out with a woman for the first time. Keep in mind to give her the notion that you’ve got a mature fashion sense and you’re on your way to making her feel comfortable around you.

You know how women are very much into fashion, right?

You don’t ask trivial questions.

Knowing how to break the ice is crucial if you’re looking to engage a woman in a meaningful conversation and eventually convince her to go out again with you.

Starting things off with serious topics like politics and the economy won’t cut it, no matter how intelligent you think you’ll look. Believe me she’ll just think you’re a blowhard.

Go for trivial questions instead. You will be surprised how much eager she’ll open up to you.

You don’t maintain eye contact.

Not having appropriate eye contact with your date will just make you look like a creep. Seriously.

If you’re having a problem getting and maintain proper eye contact, simply focus on the top of the bridge of her nose.

First date mistakes you should keep clear of!

First date mistakes you should keep clear of!

Unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying, acing a first date isn’t something that you pull off by just following a few magic pointers.

During my extensive research into the female psychology, there is no truth behind the tips that these people recommend and may even lead to disaster if they are followed.

Perhaps the most ridiculous of these pointers include wearing loud clothes to give the woman you’re on a date with the notion that you have a “colorful personality” as well as acting like the alpha male to make her think that she should only focus on you.

However, I’ve come across a few mistakes that some men tend to overlook that can ruin their chances of having a successful first date. Make sure you read on to find out what these are and boost your chances of landing Date Number 2…

You show up late.

I’d like to start things off with punctuality. Sure being late for 5 minutes or so isn’t that big of a deal for you, but showing up late on a first date is definitely one of the biggest mistakes that you’ll ever make.

Besides giving the woman you’re going out with the idea that you’re not really interested in her, she’s also going to have doubts about your personality as a guy.

She will think that you’re lazy and irresponsible, which isn’t going to earn you precious first date brownie points anytime soon.

You don’t keep a close eye on your grooming.

How you look and smell are two key factors that women tend to focus on almost immediately during a first date.

If your date thinks that your physical appearance isn’t that good or perhaps you smell a bit off, chances are she’s just going to feel anxious and uncomfortable around you.

You hog the discussion.

Getting your date to exchange meaningful ideas with you is important when it comes to making her feel more relaxed around you.

Make it a point to listen to her intently when she’s giving her inputs or else she will think that you’re monopolizing the discussion and will have a surge of negative hormones in her body.

This just means that she will clam up and you’ll have a tricky time turning the situation around in your favor.

You get too touchy-feely.

Now while it’s alright to use gestures to emphasize a point you’re making when you talk, overdoing the whole thing will just give your date the notion that you’re getting too frisky.

Remember to keep your hands to yourself and you’re good to go.