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A few tips on scoring a second date.

A few tips on scoring a second date.

I’m pretty sure that scoring a second date is your top priority when you’re taking out a woman for the very first time.

But the thing is successfully doing this isn’t about acting the alpha male or wearing loud clothes like self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are saying.

Make sure you read on to learn some simple ways of increasing your chances of convincing the woman you’re going out on a first date with to have a second one with you.

Plan your getup ahead of time.

Women are very particular with how you look and smell. If you show up on a date wearing some hastily thrown getup, you’re in for a lot of disappointment.

Make it a point to plan your apparel beforehand – at least a couple of days beforehand – to find out what works and what doesn’t.

And while we’re on the subject, wear clean shoes. Women are quite meticulous with footwear, too.

Switch off your phone.

Now while phones are necessities in today’s modern world, being distracted by it during a first date will just lead to disaster.

Keep in mind to switch it off during your first date so you can really give your utmost attention to the woman you’re going out with.

The status updates, tweets, funny emails and videos as well as the other stuff you normally check out with your phone can wait.

Ask trivial questions.

Sure intelligence is sexy for women, but starting things off with something difficult and complicated isn’t going to cut it.

This is because it will just give your date the notion that you’re trying too hard to impress her, which will just make her feel awkward and uncomfortable.

One effective way of doing this is asking trivial questions. Besides making it easy for her to relate to, she won’t also have a hard time answering them as you go along.

Examples like the TV show she’s following or the name of her first pet should be your guide, too.

Get and maintain ideal eye contact.

Getting and maintaining ideal eye contact is a must because this gesture gives the woman you’re on a first date with the notion that you’re not someone shady.

Make it a point to establish eye contact when you’re exchanging ideas with her.

If you’re not that comfortable to do so, you can always focus your vision to the upper bridge of her nose.

 

So you'd like to make a good impression on a first date...

So you’d like to make a good impression on a first date…

Acing a first date isn’t something that you can pull off at the drop of a hat like a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying. But the thing is I’ve a few useful pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that may just help you boost your chances of making a good first impression during a first date. Make sure you follow along to find out more…

 

Arrive early.

Making it a point to arrive earlier than the woman you’re going out with during a first date not only helps you ensure that your preparations are all set, but also give her the notion that you have good time management skills. Arriving at least 10 minutes ahead of her is a nice benchmark to keep in mind.

Plan your getup well.

How you look is one of the biggest factors that can make or break the outcome of your first date. Keeping in mind to plan your outfit ready at least a couple of days ahead of your date not just helps you gauge if it suits your right, but also prevents a fashion disaster from happening before you know it. Remember not to underdress or overdress while we’re on the subject as well.

Ask for her inputs.

Sure you may already have a few first date pointers in mind, but making sure to ask the woman you’re going out with what her preferences are for the same gives her the idea that you’re really into her. Besides making you earn some brownie points, you’ll also have a few ideas here and there how you can dazzle her as you go along.

Go for trivial conversational topics.

Although smart is sexy for women, going for topics that are technical and complicated can easily turn your date in no time at all. Choose very simple topics instead to talk about. Apart from asking her what her favorite cartoon character or perhaps preferred book genre is, you can also ask her what TV series she’s following these days. The simpler, the better.

Don’t be touchy-feely.

Most men tend to go all out with their gestures when emphasizing something during a conversation. Now while this isn’t an issue when you’re gabbing with your friends, doing this on a first date can give her the wrong idea. If you’d like to stress an idea, just pat or touch her on the shoulder or the forearm.

Still having tricky scoring a second date? Check this out.

Still having a tricky time scoring a second date? Check this out.

If you’re anything like most guys, I’m betting that your top priority when you go out with a woman for the very first time is convincing her to have another date with her anytime soon.

However, unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are suggesting, though, pulling off just that isn’t about doing a super-secret technique or perhaps saying words that activate a woman’s desire to say yes to Date Number 2 with you.

I’ve picked up a few useful pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that can help boost your chances of landing that second date with her as you go along…

Let her in on the planning and organizing.

Sure the norm would be taking the initiative when it comes to planning and organizing a first date, but you’re definitely missing out on a lot of brownie points when you don’t ask her for her inputs when you’re putting the details of the whole thing together.

Besides making her feel that you really value her participation and ideas, you’ll also be in the know of the things she likes that you can use to dazzle her on the big day (or night).

Be punctual.

Showing up late on your first date is one of the worst mistakes that you can ever make. See, this just makes the woman you’re out with feel that you’re either not that into her or perhaps simply straight-up negligent with your management of time.

And this will just promote a surge in stress hormones in her body that will make her feel awkward, impatient and anxious. How’s that to start the ball rolling on your first date?

Arriving at least 10 minutes earlier is a nice benchmark to keep in mind.

Switch your phone to silent.

Now while phones are necessities these days, spending more time checking it out than interacting with your date will just give her the notion that you’re not really interested in her. Make it a point to switch it to silent and never stare at it unless you’ve got an important call to answer.

Or she’d like to take a picture with you.

Remember that those tweets, status updates and other stuff can wait.

Maintain appropriate eye contact.

Not having appropriate eye contact with your date gives her the idea that you’re not that confident as a guy or perhaps make her feel that you’re creepy.

You can simply focus on the upper bridge of her nose if you feel embarrassed to do this.

So you're planning a first date...

So you’re planning a first date…

Careful planning plays a very important role in making a first date successful.

Besides helping you prepare the best way you can for the big event to boost your chances of acing the whole thing, you’re also reducing the risks of going through some awkward moments during the same.

Unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying, planning for a first date isn’t just about looking and smelling good.

Now while keeping a close eye on your grooming is something that you shouldn’t overlook in your first date checklist, there are also other very important things you need to keep in mind to really pull it off…

Let her in on the action.

Most guys mistakenly believe that planning a first date is their sole responsibility. This is actually one big misconception.

Planning a first date is supposed to be an activity between you and the woman that you’re going out on a first date.

Apart from making her feel that you really value her inputs, which means extra brownie points for you, my friend, you’re also having a preview of the stuff she likes that you can take note of in your checklist.

You’re sure to gather a lot of meaningful information like the food she likes as well as the activities she enjoys doing.

Don’t choose a very luxurious place.

Sure you may think that going for the most luxurious venue for your first date is the best strategy, it can easily lead to disaster during the big day (or night, which is which).

Although picking a nice place that your date will find comfortable and cozy is an essential, overdoing it will just make her feel that she’s going to a job interview or a similar event.

This will simply promote a surge of stress hormones in her body that will make her feel nervous, anxious and rather impatient, which already gives you an idea of how your first date will go.

List down trivial things to talk about.

Sure opening up a conversation with something tricky and complicated may seem like a good idea, but it will just make her think that you’re trying too hard to impress her.

Make it a point to break the ice with trivial stuff like asking your date what her favorite cartoon character is or perhaps the ice cream flavor she loves.

You’ll be surprised how the conversation will flow meaningfully as you go along.