dating mistakes

So you'd like to convince her to go on another date with you...

So you’d like to convince her to go on another date with you…

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are saying, convincing a woman to go on a second date with you isn’t about following some “surefire” tips from them that are supposedly guaranteed to make her say yes sooner or later.

Now while I’ve previously explained that there are some ways to boost your chances of getting a second date with a woman, like keeping in mind to switch off your mobile phone and wearing clean shoes, this time I’m going to walk you through some factors that will only lead you nowhere.

Make sure you read on to find out what these are…

You show up with a lot of jewelry on.

Although accessorizing is a smart way to look and smell like a million bucks, which is definitely a must if you’re looking to make a good first impression on the woman you’re going out with for the first time, overdoing it will simply make her feel that you’re trying too hard.

If you’re having a tough time which accessories to go for, just remember this no-fuss tip: choose two and you’re good to go.

You arrive late.

Now while this may sound cliché, but you should arrive before her on your date or else you’ll just give her the wrong idea about you.

See, women are basically very particular when it comes to punctuality. If you’re late on a date, chances are they’ll just think that you’re not that responsible and will see you in a negative light.

And when this happens, her body will have a surge of negative hormones that will simply make her feel anxious and impatient. Be there at least 15 minutes earlier and you’re good to go.

You try to break the ice with complicated subjects.

Although intelligence is sexy for women, trying to engage her in a conversation with complicated topics isn’t going to cut it.

She’s just going to think that you’re pretentious and won’t be that excited to exchange meaningful ideas with you no matter how hard you try.

Make it a point to keep things light and simple and you’ll be rather surprised how your conversation will go.

You discuss the “future.”

No matter what you do, never try to jump ahead and talk about the possibility of having a future romantic relationship with her.

Sure a first date may be your stepping stone to a more serious connection with her, but talking about the subject the first time you go out with each other is just plain creepy for her.

Avoid these dating mistakes at all times.

Avoid these dating mistakes at all times.

Unlike what you see in the movies, having a successful date isn’t something that you can pull off by just doing something cliché to really get a woman’s attention and hoping for the best.

Now while I think that there are no surefire dating tips that can ensure your date is going to be a success, I’ve learned a few mistakes during my extensive research into the female psychology may just prevent you from getting on the right track.

Let me explain what I mean…

Not having the right mindset.

If you’re anything like most men, you probably have the notion that you’ve finally got a shot at romance with the woman you’ve got your eye on for a long time now because she agreed to go on a first date with you.

Although this is partly true, thinking that you should pull out all the stops in terms of romance when you go out with her for the first time is a very big no-no.

This is because women basically think of first dates as friendly situations where they meet new people.

How do you think she’ll react when she feels that you’re going full Casanova on her when she’s simply looking to make friends?

Not engaging her in the planning process.

Most guys believe that planning and organizing a date should be entirely their responsibility. Now while having initiative is a plus among women, not letting her in on the whole thing can keep you from really getting the brownie points to ace a date.

Make sure you consult her when you figure out key details like the venue, the food and drinks you’ll have as well as the activities that you’ll do together.

Apart from making her feel that you’re really determined to make your date amazing for her, you will also have clues about the things she likes in the process.

Not knowing how to break the ice.

Exchanging meaningful ideas properly with a woman is a priority when it comes to dates. Besides knowing her a lot better, you will also make her feel that she enjoys talking with you.

This boosts your chances of convincing her to go out with you another time.

However, some men seem to not have an idea how to break the ice. Keep in mind to start things off by asking simple and trivial questions and you’re on your way.

Avoid these first date mistakes!

Avoid these first date mistakes!

Acing a first date is no doubt your top priority when you’ve finally convinced a woman to go out with you.

However, unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are saying, getting the job done isn’t about acting like the alpha male or perhaps wearing loud clothes to give her the notion that your confidence levels are simply off the charts.

I’ve learned a few key dating mistakes during my extensive research into the female psychology, though, that you should keep clear of to boost your chances of making the woman you’re on a first date with to go out with you again…

Don’t choose an ultra-posh place.

Sure the idea of going for a very luxurious venue for your date may be a nice idea, but it can actually drag down your chances of acing the whole thing.

This is because doing just that will keep her from completely feeling relaxed and comfortable on your date. It will simply give your first date the atmosphere of a job interview.

Better make it a point to let her get in on the action when choosing your date’s venue to prevent this from happening.

You can also go for her favorite bar or deli since she already feels cozy there.

Don’t neglect your shoes.

If you’re anything like most men, chances are you’re not that particular with your footwear.

However, not choosing the right ones for your date as well as not keeping them in great shape in the process will only lead to disaster.

See, when you show up with dirty shoes, your date will just have the notion that you’re irresponsible and sloppy.

Definitely not a good way to kick things off to your convincing her for a second date, don’t you think?

Don’t talk about complicated stuff.

Now while engaging a woman in a meaningful discussion during a first date is a must, opening with technical subjects like electronics, politics and similar things isn’t the way to do it.

Besides giving her the notion that you’re trying too hard, she also won’t be able to relate with you while at it. You will just make her feel anxious, awkward and impatient.

And she won’t be impressed no matter what, too.

Make it a point to talk about trivial stuff to get her going. Ask her what her favorite movie is or perhaps the cartoon character she really likes.

 

Always keep clear from these dating mistakes!

Always keep clear from these dating mistakes!

No matter how many dates you’ve already had, chances are you are still discovering new things as you go along.

And unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are suggesting, there is no surefire dating strategy as well as words and gestures that you can use to pull the whole thing off.

Come to think of it. Acting pompous to give a woman the notion that you’re the alpha male or perhaps dressing up in loud clothes will only repel her, not bring her closer to you.

However, I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology a few key yet commonly overlooked mistakes that can significantly affect the outcome of a date.

So if you’re looking to ace that next date you’re going to have, make sure you follow along…

Don’t neglect your overall grooming.

Sure this may sound rather simplistic, but not keeping a close eye on your grooming is definitely going to have an effect on your date.

Apart from making her feel that you’re not a responsible man, she’s also going to have a surge of stress hormones in her body that will just increase her anxiety levels in the process – which will make her impatient and wish to be someplace else.

Don’t plan your dates all by yourself.

If you’re anything like most men, chances are you think that organizing a date is a task that you should take on alone.

However, you’ll have a much higher possibility of acing the whole thing if you let the woman you’re going out with in on the action like choosing the venue or perhaps the stuff that you’ll order while at it.

Besides having a preview of the things that she likes, you can also use them to dazzle her during your date.

Don’t order alcohol.

Now while a lot of guys mistakenly think that downing a portion or two of your favorite may help you steady your nerves during a date, it will actually do more harm than good.

See, alcohol can easily cloud your senses and make you act and talk funny. And you already know how that can be an issue during your date.

Don’t do all the talking.

Make it a point to always listen to your date intently when she’s opening up to you.

Apart from making her feel that you’re not that interested in her, she’s also going to have the notion that you’re bored – which will also encourage her to feel that way in the process.