Sex Tips

So you’re still having a tough time getting rid of sexual performance anxiety…

Are you going through sexual performance anxiety blues? There’s no need to worry just yet, though.

There are a lot of guys who are experiencing the same thing the world over. And the thing is this issue can be completely get rid of.

Why not follow along to start getting rid of sexual performance anxiety so you can really wow your wife, girlfriend or lover the next time things steamy in the bedroom?

Now while this may sound surprising, a lot of guys don’t last long in bed than they’d like to because they simply think too much.

Overthinking before or during lovemaking only leads to one thing…sexual performance anxiety. And it can easily ruin your chances of giving your lover the sexual satisfaction she wants between the sheets.

Medical researchers in Michigan discovered that thinking too much can disrupt the flow of hormones that are responsible for orgasm. The brain normally receives ideal amounts of hormones from sexual arousal all the way through orgasm.

When a guy is experiencing sexual performance anxiety, the brain is flooded with an overload of hormones that instantly makes it go into overdrive. Instead of making you last longer during lovemaking and giving your partner an unforgettable time, you’ll only see yourself reaching orgasm prematurely and eventually ejaculating quicker than you’d like to.

Now that we’ve set that straight, there’s no need to worry just yet if you go through sexual performance anxiety now and then when things get hot in the bedroom. There are actually simple ways to fix it.

Here are a few useful pointers to help you get started in no time…

Remember that her pleasure is your top priority.

A lot of men get so affected with sexual performance anxiety that they forget that the easiest way to fix it is by concentrating more on their partners’ pleasure during lovemaking. The next time you get panicky during sex, just think about how you can give her the best sex ever and you’re sure to last longer while at it.

Limit your breathing to slow, long and spaced intervals.

Normal breathing is supposed to be slow, deep and spaced at regular intervals. When you experience sexual performance anxiety, your breathing becomes quicker and shallower. Although you will feel sexual tension when things get hot in bed, things will be different when sexual performance anxiety gets into the picture. Besides jacking up your blood pressure level a bit too high, your pulse rate will also surge higher than usual. This will result to an unexpected adrenaline rush, which can lead to premature ejaculation.

Think about baseball. Yes, you read it right.

The biggest mistake you’ll ever make when sexual performance anxiety creeps up on you is to let it get hold of you completely. The moment you feel anxious even a bit, distract yourself…like thinking about baseball.

There are a lot of ways to do this. For starters, you can pull this off by either thinking about a happy memory or mentally transporting yourself to a favorite place. Thinking about your favorite meal or TV show helps, too.

Is she still saying no to blowjobs?

Ah, blowjobs. I’m pretty sure that they’re definitely in your checklist when things get extra steamy between the sheets.

Besides making you experience a lot of pleasurable sensations, getting head from your lover is no doubt one of your biggest bedroom fantasies.

However, the problem is you’re still not convincing her to go down on you until now. This doesn’t mean that you won’t be getting a bout of oral sex from your partner, though.

Chances are the following reasons are keeping her from exploring south of your border during lovemaking…

No BJ Action Reason #1: She isn’t as sexually aroused as she should.

A woman’s sexual arousal directly affects the things she will be eager to take part in when things get hot in bed. If she’s not that fired up for action, she won’t be that enthusiastic to give the south of your border the TLC it deserves.

No BJ Action Reason #2: Your bedroom needs a bit of cleaning and organizing.

Like I’ve emphasized in an earlier post, your bedroom’s cleanliness can easily make or break her sexual arousal, which plays a key role in terms of convincing her to go down on you.

No BJ Action Reason #3: Your hygiene has to be taken up a notch.

Now here’s the thing…

If you’re looking to convince your partner to take things orally down there, you’ve got to look and smell really nice. Keep in mind to be very conscious of your hygiene (especially in your nether region) and your chances of getting a BJ are sure to become higher.

We’ve discussed this yesterday and you can check out the post here.

No BJ Action Reason #4: You’re not knocking her socks off when you give her oral sex.

Oral sex is basically a two-way street.

If you don’t make it a point to knock her socks off with an amazing round of cunnilingus when the two of you get busy in bed yourself, she won’t realize that the experience is both exciting and pleasurable.

So if you’d like your partner to give you oral action, take the lead and give her an experience she won’t forget anytime soon.

No BJ Action Reason #5: You beg her for head when you’re in the middle of sex.

A lot of guys mistakenly believe that asking for a blowjob from a woman simply involves pausing in the middle of lovemaking and gently nudging her head in the direction of your penis.

Now while this move may work in porn movies, it’s rather tricky to pull the whole thing off in real life. See, this just makes her feel rushed and awkward.

Make it a point to discuss it way before the action to prep her up properly.

Is it time to give your bedroom a thorough cleaning and organizing?

When was the last time you cleaned and organized your bedroom?

Sure that question may seem out of line now, but you’ll want to check out this post why it is crucial that you clean and organize your bedroom before we go on…

Now while this may sound surprising, research shows that women find it easier to become sexually aroused if they think that the bedroom they’re in is clean and organized when it comes to lovemaking.

Instead of successfully turning her on the next time you get frisky, neurological scientists from Atlanta discovered that a lot of women are more likely to feel stressed and uncomfortable if the bedroom they’re going to make love in is a mess.

This simply means that no matter how good you are at foreplay to make your lover hot and ready for action between the sheets, there is a very big chance that you won’t fully arouse her sexually if your bedroom is cluttered and just plain chaotic.

Now while it’s not uncommon for men to be less than devoted to cleaning and organizing their bedrooms, not doing just that can take a toll on your sex life sooner or later.

So if you’re still not convinced why you need to spend more time keeping your bedroom tidy and organized, here are a few good reasons why you should have it on your regular schedule immediately…

You’ll have a tough time warming her up.

As I have pointed out earlier, women are not wired to get completely sexually aroused when they feel stressed or anxious even a bit. Unlike guys that can rise to the occasion at the drop of a hat, women simply need to feel extremely relaxed during lovemaking.

Although there is a possibility that sex can still happen between the two of you, you will easily notice that she won’t be as lubricated or responsive while you’re at it.

You will end up making her feel trashy.

Women are very critical with nasal and visual cues. In short, how you exert effort to look and smell good around them can either make or break your chances of actually getting them between the sheets.

The more you look and smell awesome, the more valuable they feel to you. The same logic goes for your bedroom. Sure she may be your lover, but how do you think she will feel if you try to have sex with her in a messy place?

You will just inadvertently spike her anxiety levels.

Let’s start with the most important reason of all. Women can’t fully become sexually aroused if they feel anxious or uncomfortable. As long as your lover feels that something isn’t right, like the dirty clothes you have on the floor or the dusty drapes, you won’t be getting her wet and wild anytime soon.

Blow her mind during sex when you remember these tips.

Making her reach the Big O should be the top priority when you’re going at it in bed. Just think of the good things that you’ll be in for if her mind gets blown every time you make love.

Apart from knocking her socks off as you go along between the sheets, convincing her to have a go at it in bed again won’t be that tricky.

Sure you may already have a few tricks up your sleeve when it comes to making your partner cum in the bedroom, but I’ve come across some useful pointers during my extensive research into the female sexuality that you’ll surely find interesting.

So if you’re looking to really knock her socks off the next time the both of you are at it, make sure you follow along…

Make her initiate where the action goes.

Although you may be the one initiating the action in the bedroom, make it a point to have her call the shots once in a while. Apart from making her more sexually adventurous, she’ll also lead you to the spots that she wants to be stimulated while at it.

Don’t just go for the breasts and clitoris.

Sure a woman’s erogenous zones can produce pleasurable sensations when stimulated, but having a go at them every time you have a sex session will simply take away the excitement that they can set off.

Keep in mind to always go for a new erogenous zone or two when you’re looking to make her cum during sex. Besides keeping her on her toes, the pleasurable sensations she will feel are also going to be explosive.

Mix it up.

Although you may already have an arsenal of stimulation techniques to keep your lover on her toes during lovemaking, doing the same things over and over will just make the whole experience dull and flat for her in the long run.

Make it a point to always update your sexual playbook each time you’re at it to make it easier for her to have an orgasm.

Take her sexual arousal through the roof.

I know this sounds rather simplistic, but making your lover as sexually aroused as she can bolsters the amount of the positive hormones and neurotransmitters that are going to be released during lovemaking.

And the more positive hormones and neurotransmitters are released during the same, the easier it will be for your partner to reach the Big O during lovemaking.

Just to make things even more interesting, her erogenous zones like the breasts, clitoris and “treasure trail” will also become more sensitive in the process.