Sex Tips

Are these the reasons why she doesn’t go down on you?

If you’re anything like most guys, you probably think that getting a blowjob from your lover is definitely one of the hottest things that can happen during sex.

However, making your partner want to go south of the border on you can be a bit of a challenge if you don’t know a few useful pointers. Unlike in porn movies, successfully pulling it off is more than just making a beeline to your crotch the next time you feel a bit frisky.

But here’s the catch. There are actually mistakes that stop you from raising your chances of getting a blowjob from your lover and they’re not as tough to keep clear of as you think.

So if you’re looking to convince your lover to give you, let’s say, a bit of “oral attention” the next time you get between the sheets, here are the possible mistakes that are hindering you from getting it…

Are you warming her up the right way?

No matter how hard you try, you can never convince your lover to give you a blowjob if she’s not properly warmed up for sex. Women basically become more adventurous in bed if you push their buttons appropriately.

Although it would be really nice if you can get her to give you oral action at the drop of a hat, it’s just plain impossible to do that. Get her as sexually aroused as you can first and you may get extremely lucky sooner or later.

You don’t give her the proper attention down there.

Keeping the Golden Rule in mind is very useful if you’d like to get a blowjob from your lover. You can’t just expect her to give you some if you’re not going down on her yourself. Treat her like you want to be treated in bed and she might just return back the favor the least you expect it.

Always remember to stimulate her vagina and clitoris like you want your penis to be pleasured. No matter what you do, never rush things while you’re at it or else she will just only feel that she doesn’t have to give you the same treatment down there when it’s her turn either.

You don’t ask her what she wants in the bedroom.

Now while you may already have an idea of the things that give your lover the most sexual satisfaction, it’s still smart to ask her just to make sure. Besides making her feel that you want to give her an unforgettable time in bed each time you make love, you’ll also know how to give her orgasm after mind-blowing orgasm while at it. Plus, she’s likely to “blow” your mind as well if she’s satisfied enough. How’s that for two for two?

Stimulate these erogenous zones on your next sex session and you’ll be surprised with her reaction.

Sexually arousing your lover isn’t something that you can do instantly. Warming her up for a lovemaking session significantly involves knowing how to stimulate her erogenous zones properly.

Now while a lot of guys think that the breasts, inner thighs and clitoris are the usual body parts to focus on during foreplay to really get their lovers going, there are actually uncommon erogenous zones in a woman’s body that can help you take her sexual excitement up a notch.

Give the following body parts the attention they deserve the next time things get hot in the bedroom and you’re sure to fire up your lover sexually quicker than you think…

Firstly, make it a point to lightly massage her scalp.

Although this may sound surprising, the scalp is one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s body and is as receptive to stimulation as the clitoris and the breasts. The scalp is so packed with nerve endings that your lover can easily feel a pleasurable sensation with the slightest of caresses and strokes.

The next time you get frisky in the bedroom, stimulate your partner’s scalp as if you were shampooing her hair. Try to cover as much area as possible with your fingertips by caressing it gently. Vary the pressure and movements you make to give her as much different sensations as you can.

Secondly, have her feet on the erogenous zone checklist.

Medical researchers claim that there are pressure points along women’s feet that can possibly make them become sexually aroused if stimulated the right way. So if you’re planning to successfully warm up your lover for sex, make sure that you give her feet a royal treatment.

There are many ways you can pull this off. Besides giving her an unforgettable foot massage, you can also wash her feet like they do in a spa. Interestingly, lightly tickling your lover’s soles not only makes her feel playful but can also trigger her sexual arousal.

Thirdly, give her mons a good stimulation.

Now while the term may sound a bit complicated at first, the mons is actually the mound of flesh over the vagina where pubic hair grows. And like its neighbors, the vagina and clitoris, the mons is also loaded with nerve endings that makes it one of the most sensitive erogenous zones in a woman’s body.

Give the mons a proper licking and caressing the next time you go down on your lover. Just remember to be extra gentle as you go along since you can potentially hurt your partner unexpectedly when you go too hard.

Your chances of getting her wet down there are going to be really low if you make these mistakes.

Having trouble getting her wet down there?

Women don’t just get sexually aroused in an instant. Unlike men who can get in the mood for lovemaking at the drop of a hat, they need to be eased into it slowly or else they won’t be able to get ready for a sex session at all.

It really doesn’t matter if you know all the best sexual positions in the book. What’s really important is that you know a few useful pointers that will really make her wet down there. And chances are you won’t be warming up your lover between the sheets if you make the following mistakes…

Your bedroom looks like a dump.

Tidying up your bedroom should be the very first thing on your checklist if you’re planning to sexually arouse your lover. Most women are very particular with neatness and organization. If your bedroom looks more like a dump instead of a place for lovemaking, she won’t be getting in the mood for sex anytime soon.

Make sure you clean your bedroom carefully and get rid of the clutter. Put on fresh sheets and drapes regularly. Don’t use your bedroom for storage. Place all used clothes in a bin so they won’t be all over the place. Make it a point to vacuum or sweep at least twice a week to keep clear from dust and grime.

Your hygiene is not that good.

Looking and smelling good is a priority if you’re planning to get your lover excited in bed. Now while there are some women who like their sexual partners a bit grungy, majority of them prefer guys who have proper grooming and hygiene.

Have regular showers. Use deodorant daily. Only wear clean clothes. Make sure you shave at least twice a week to avoid looking unkempt and scraggly. Trim your fingernails. Let your lover have the impression that you always try to look and smell like a million bucks for her.

You hurry her up to get to the main event.

Sexual arousal for women is a process. It just doesn’t happen instantly. You need to get your lover in the zone or else she won’t be warmed up for sex no matter how hard you try. The biggest mistake you will ever make when you want her to get wet is by forcing her to get ready.

Don’t hesitate to give her all the foreplay techniques you have up your sleeve. Stimulate all of her erogenous zones like the breasts, clitoris, inner thighs and other super sensitive areas properly. And don’t forget to keep on going when she’s moaning and groaning like crazy. It just means you are doing a good job.

Exercise isn’t a mainstay on your schedule.

Exercise is a major factor when it comes to lasting long enough in bed to satisfy your lover. When you sweat it out at least half an hour daily, you aren’t simply making your body healthier but also boosting your sexual stamina in the process.

Just imagine the orgasms you can give her if you have the right amount of sexual stamina. Compare that to lasting only a few minutes in bed and you’ll surely have exercise as a mainstay in your schedule as soon as you can.

These tricks can help boost your sexual confidence.

These tricks can help boost your sexual confidence.

There will come a time in a man’s life when his performance in bed isn’t going be as spectacular as it used to. Now while you may think that you’re at your sexual peak and this won’t happen to you anytime soon, think again…

Your sexual confidence levels are sure to dwindle if you don’t have the slightest clue how to keep them up.

So if you’re looking to keep on giving your lover mind-blowing orgasms every time you get between the sheets, here are a few pointers that will definitely help you maintain your sexual confidence easily…

Don’t think you’re not good enough in the bedroom.

A lot of guys unexpectedly find their sexual confidence levels diminishing over time because they tend to compare themselves to other men when it comes to making love. They think that they aren’t as skillful between the sheets or their size and girth won’t match up to other guys.

It’s important that you get rid of these negative thoughts if you’re planning to boost your sexual confidence and keep it that way. Make yourself the star of your sex life. Apart from making you enjoy lovemaking more, you’ll also find it easier to please your lover when things get hot in the bedroom.

Keep your overall health in tiptop shape.

Now while this may sound surprising, your sexual confidence is strongly connected to your overall fitness. This simply means that your state of health can either boost your sexual confidence levels or pull it down drastically. Being too fat or extremely underweight can lead to various sexual problems like erectile dysfunction and lack of stamina during lovemaking.

Make it a point to have a proper diet. Load up on fruits and vegetables as much as you can. Keep clear from consuming too much alcohol and drink an average of eight glasses of water daily. Kick your smoking habit as soon as possible. Sweat it out at least half an hour each day and you’ll soon see positive changes when you get between the sheets with your lover.

Get rid of negative stress as regularly as you can.

Although all men go through stress all the time, experiencing too much of it at once is enough to ruin your sex life sooner than you think. Make sure you identify your stressors so you can easily find ways how to manage them properly. Allowing stress to accumulate over time won’t just affect your sex life but will also cause health issues that can snowball into major problems in the long run like anxiety, depression and hypertension.