Foreplay Tips

Still trying hard to get access to her “backdoor?”

Anal sex is no doubt on top of the sexual bucket lists of men around the world.

Aside from promising sensations that a lot of guys have never felt before, sexually penetrating your lover in the anus also has a forbidden charm to it that makes it really tempting to give a try at least once.

Sure you may be very eager to give anal sex a shot, but chances are your lover won’t be that crazy to try it. There’s no need to worry just yet though. Here are a few simple tricks that you can use to boost your chances of convincing her to give it a try sooner or later:

 Remember, she won’t get fired up if you badger her to do it.

Sure this may sound counter-productive, but pressuring your wife, girlfriend or lover to have anal sex with you is one of the biggest mistakes that you’ll ever make.

Anal sex can be a bit taboo to women and your lover may look at it as something she needs to be comfortable with before she wants to get in on the action. Don’t get frustrated or angry at her if she won’t consent to the idea of doing it in the backdoor immediately. Never make your lover feel that you’re already forcing her to do it.

If you get rejected once or twice, don’t worry. You’ll have lots of time to try again. And the extra time waiting will also make the experience even more amazing.

Include her anus and the areas around it when you’re heating her up in bed.

The breasts and the clitoris are usually the first things that come to your mind when foreplay is mentioned, right?

Your lover is sure to only feel awkward if you just stimulate her anus all of a sudden during your sex session. Make it a point to integrate it in your list of erogenous zones to stimulate during foreplay. This will condition her mind bit by bit that she won’t feel the least freaked out when you do it.

Keep in mind to use this time to tease your partner, too. Tickle the areas around her anus. Kiss her butt cheeks lovingly. Make her feel that you’re simply in love with her anus every time things get spicy in the bedroom, but promptly cut it when you feel that she is slowly reciprocating.

There’s even a good chance that she’ll be the one initiating anal sex if you play your cards right. Just keep in mind that hygiene is king, so make her wash the whole thing before you get busy.

Make her feel her ideas about anal sex are very important to you.

One of the easiest ways to convince your lover to try anal sex is by talking about it. However, I would just like to point out that this should be done out of the bedroom, in a non-sexual setting to avoid overwhelming her one way or another.

You can break it to your partner gently while watching TV or perhaps when you are having a nice lunch together. Tell her you’d like to try anal sex at least once and ask her what she thinks about it. Keep in mind not to sound desperate while at it as well to avoid turning her off.

Do you know that these erogenous zones even exist?

If you’re anything like most men, chances are you’ve already got a few foreplay tricks up your sleeve to really heat your lover up for action between the sheets.

And it’s really important to properly get your partner going for lovemaking or else she won’t be that sexually aroused.

Besides not being ideally wet down there, she also won’t experience the pleasurable sensations that she wants while at it, even if you’re already bringing your A-game into play.

However, I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female sexuality that there are a few commonly overlooked erogenous zones that are sure to take your lover’s sexual arousal to a whole new level when you give them the TLC they deserve.

Let’s have a quick rundown on what these are…

Overlooked Erogenous Zone #1: Inner Thighs

At its simplest, the inner thighs are very near the clitoris and vagina, which your lover assumes that you’re going to stimulate when you explore south of her border.

Surprise your partner by pleasuring her inner thighs first. She’ll feel teased because it’s satisfying and mysterious at the same time because she doesn’t know where you will go next.

And that just means her sexual arousal will be off the charts even more.

Overlooked Erogenous Zone #2: Back of the Neck

I’m sure you find this one surprising being on this list, but the back of the neck or nape can easily give her a lot of pleasurable sensations when properly stimulated.

This is because apart from being located somewhere on her body that she can’t see you working your magic on, which gets her mind going and intensifying the sensations that she’s going to feel, it’s also got a lot of sensitive nerve endings that are just waiting to be activated.

A bit of fondling, kissing and licking will easily do the trick when you pleasure the back of her neck as well.

Overlooked Erogenous Zone #3: Areolas

Chances are you go straight to the nipples when you and your partner are already at it in the bedroom. But the thing is that making a beeline to the nipples as soon as you get the chance can either be rather uncomfortable or plainly painful for your lover.

And if you keep on doing it, chances are she won’t enjoy the experience and may even ruin her mood for lovemaking in the process.

Make it a point to start things off by stimulating her areolas or the sides of her nipples. Now while they may not have the same amount of sensitive nerve endings as their nipple counterparts, areolas still have got enough to electrify her as you go along.

Find out more about commonly overlooked erogenous zones right here.

Keep an eye on these signs to know if she’s really sexually aroused.

How sexually aroused a woman is plays a key role in giving her a lovemaking session that she won’t forget anytime soon.

Apart from having a significant effect on the pleasurable sensations that your partner will experience during the action, the chances that she’ll achieve orgasm while at it is also on the line.

But the thing is how do you really know if a woman is already – and genuinely – sexually aroused? Unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly think, it’s not that tricky to do.

Make sure you read on to learn 3 key signs that she’s fired up for action between the sheets…

Keep an eye on her breathing.

Perhaps the most prominent sign that your partner is already prepped up for lovemaking is her breathing will become heavier and shallower than usual.

This is one of the effects of the positive hormones that get churned out when her brain detects a certain stimulus that gets her turned on. It could be a smell, a sound or perhaps some sexy eye candy.

It is also not uncommon that her breath will become quite warm when this takes place.

Keep an eye on her body temperature.

I’m pretty sure that you’ve already heard of the phrase “hot for sex.” This isn’t just wordplay, though. A woman’s body temperature will actually rise when she gets sexually aroused.

This is because the positive hormones that get released during sexual arousal direct a more than usual amount of blood all over the body. A part of this boosted circulation will go to her pelvic region to get her lady bits down there to start getting in action.

Make it a point to feel her skin while you’re stimulating her body to get an idea if she’s already ready to take things to a whole new level or you still need to fire her up more.

Keep an eye on her lips and body language.

What’s really interesting is I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female sexuality that women tend to show subtle signs that they’re already sexually aroused.

Besides licking or biting her lips, your partner will also blush, arch their head and back as well as get more touchy-feely in the process.

There are a lot of other gestures that she can exhibit, too. Keep in mind to be more conscious of them while you’re heating her up in the bedroom.

(Make sure you keep an eye on your water intake as well to ensure that you’ll get rock hard on demand each and every time!)

Is her sex drive not what it used to be these days?

If you’re anything like most men, getting your partner in the mood for sex is the very first item in your bedroom checklist. Besides getting her ready for action, your chances of making her get an orgasm are also multiplied when you pull this off properly.

Sure you may have got a lot of awesome foreplay and sexual tricks up your sleeve, but your lover won’t be getting in the mood to jump between the sheets with you anytime soon if you keep on making these mistakes that will stop her from becoming full on sexually aroused.

Make sure you follow along to find out what these mistakes are and even learn a few pointers that will have her want to make things spicy in the bedroom again.

Pay closer attention to your hygiene.

Women are very particular with visual and nasal cues to get sexually aroused. In simpler terms, you won’t betting getting lucky with your partner if you smell and look bad. Make it a point to be more conscious of your overall hygiene to really make her want to get in action in bed…and maintain the quality of your erections as well.

Apart from taking regular showers, dressing appropriately and using deodorant, it’s also smart to brush your teeth as well as get rid of unruly nose and ear hairs while you’re at it. Top it off with a pleasant cologne or perfume and you’re sure to get her going if you play your cards right.

Be more sensitive with her feelings.

Perhaps the biggest mistake you’ll ever make that will immediately ruin your chances of having sex with your partner is being indifferent to her emotions. Interestingly, women can’t get in the mood no matter how hard you try if they’re feeling a bit under the sun.

Make sure you ask your lover if she’s angry, frustrated or anxious and do your best to fix them before you start making your moves on her. These negative emotions only prevent her hormones from sending messages to her brain that get her sexually aroused.

Are you doing the same stuff over and over?

Repetitiveness is one significant reason why she’s not having sex with you. Although you may already know how to make her squirm and moan between the sheets, doing the same stuff over and over will make her somewhat immune to the sensations that she’ll get along the way.

Now while I am not saying that you should reinvent the wheel on this one, make sure you come up with new ways to stimulate her pleasure zones differently. Take on a new style when you sizzle up her clitoris, breasts and similar erogenous hot spots and you’re definitely back in business.