Foreplay Tips

Stop worrying and start thinking more positively. You’ll never believe its sexual benefits, too!

If you’re anything like most men, you’ve probably experienced coming rather too soon from time to time during sex.

Now while there may be a lot of possible instances why you ejaculated prematurely, the primary reason why a lot of guys don’t last long in bed is because they don’t think positively.

Sure this may sound surprising, but negative thinking can ruin your chances of actually giving your lover the sexual satisfaction she wants. Make sure you follow along to learn how thinking positively can help you extend your bedroom playing time easily.

Positive Reason#1: You’ll last longer during sex!

For starters, negative thinking won’t just lead to your having trouble getting an erection, but successfully lasting long in bed like you want as well. This is because it basically warps the way your body reacts to sexual stimuli.

Sure you can still get an erection and feel pleasure during sex, but it isn’t as good when your mind is not shrouded in negative thoughts. It’s like forcing yourself to enjoy something you really don’t find enjoyable.

And here’s the thing, if you’re more sensitive to your sexual responses, you can easily gauge your movements to avoid coming too soon. You can easily go faster and slower during lovemaking without worrying about ejaculating prematurely.

Positive Reason#2: It helps you raise her pleasure levels even higher!

Come to think of it, can you really focus on giving a woman the sexual pleasure she’s always wanted if all the things in your head are negative?

Besides having the possibility of doing the wrong things that won’t give her as much sexual pleasure, you can also experience a panic attack in the process if you overload your mind with negative thinking.

Positive thinking not only allows you to properly plan out your sexual strategy, but it can help you carry it out without a fuss as well. Your movements will be more fluid and she won’t feel you’re rushing her in any way, too.

Positive Reason#3: You won’t feel anxious when things get hot in bed!

Now while men and women can be very different when it comes to getting sexually aroused, guys still need to be relaxed with themselves so they won’t ejaculate too quickly during lovemaking.

Anxiety doesn’t just affect a man’s ability to get a stable erection, but can also disrupt his ability to last long between the sheets because he feels he extremely stressed instead of being pleasured.

Moreover, you can also make your lover feel awkward while at it because chances are your movements are going to be somewhat clumsy and uncoordinated.

You won’t give her an amazing massage session unless…

Giving your lover a massage she won’t easily forget anytime soon isn’t just about knowing how and where to knead your fingertips all over her body.

It’s also about having an idea of a few surefire pointers that will definitely take her relaxation levels off the charts even before you start your massage session.

So if you’re still not that confident about giving your lover the relaxing massage she’s always wanted, here are a few tips that will easily help you make her look forward to the next one in no time…

Totally commit yourself to it – or else you’ll just give her a flat experience.

It’s not enough that you want to give your lover a relaxing massage.

You also have to dedicate yourself to the task ahead. Unless you do that, you’ll only make her feel that your touch is a bit hurried and rather uncomfortable – and your chances of getting her in the mood for lovemaking will plummet, too. You’ll also appear impatient and not enjoying what you’re doing.

Quality means a lot more than quantity when it comes to choosing your massage oil.

The oil you choose for your massage can either mean its complete success or the entire opposite.

Besides providing the necessary lubrication to allow you to glide your fingertips easily all over your lover’s body, it can also give off an awesome aroma that will surely take relaxation up a notch even further.

Although there are a lot of oils to choose from, make sure you ask your lover first what her preferences are to really make her feel like royalty.

Your music and her relaxation go hand in hand.

Music doesn’t just help your lover ease her mind to achieve full relaxation and lose her inhibitions to totally enjoy the experience. It also makes her more perceptive to the sensations that you’ll give her as you stimulate her with your fingertips.

Go for songs that are slow and easy like instrumental tracks and ballads. Make sure you take a listen to them first before including them in the playlist to avoid an awkward mix-up. If you think you can get to sleep with a certain song playing, it’s a keeper.

Clean, organize and jazz up your massage venue.

Prepping up the place where you’ll give your lover a good rubdown should be a top priority on your checklist. Make sure you get rid of clutter and give the room a meticulous vacuuming to get it as spotless as you can.

Now while this may sound surprising, a woman can’t fully relax during a massage if she thinks that the environment you’re in is messy or needs a bit of cleaning first. You can even take the whole thing up a notch by making the room smell nice while you’re at it.

She’s sure to have her mind blown with these massaging tips…

Unlike what most guys mistakenly think, massages aren’t just for relieving stress and getting rid of knots in aching muscles.

You can also use them to warm up a woman for lovemaking if you just know how to pull it off. And the good news is it isn’t as complicated as you may have previously thought.

So if you’re looking to take your lover’s sexual arousal levels off the charts the next time you do magic with your fingertips, here are a few pointers that you should keep in mind…

Get her mood going with the right playlist.

Music can easily improve your lover’s mood during a massage. Choose tunes that are slow, easy and provocative. Besides allowing her to feel totally relaxed and tranquil, hearing sexy music will also make her think about erotic things between the sheets – making it even easier for you to get the job done.

Grab some scented candles to make her feel more comfortable.

Having scented candles on your checklist the next time you give your partner a massage is definitely a priority. Apart from adding a touch of daintiness that women love, scented candles also come with amazing aromas that make her feel calmer during the whole experience.

If you still can’t make up your mind which scented candles to go for, choose jasmine and chamomile. They don’t just have a soothing effect, but also smell awesome. Fruity variants like apple, cherry and peach are also available, too.

Go the extra mile and clean and organize your bedroom while at it, too.

Go for areas near her sexy zones.

Just to give her an idea that you’d like more than giving her a massage, make sure you stroke the muscles near her pelvis, thighs and lower back. Apart from occasionally brushing on your lover’s erotic parts, you can also easily gauge where you need to focus more simply by observing her reaction while doing so.

Look and smell like you’re a snack.

How you look and smell when you’re giving your lover a massage can easily make or break your chances of getting her sexually excited no matter how hard you try. Make it a point to prep up meticulously before getting into action.

Besides taking a shower and having a spritz of deodorant and cologne, it’s also a good idea to trim your fingernails while at it so your lover won’t be feeling any unintentional painful pinches and nips when she’s already getting all relaxed and cozy.

And the snack part? She might just forego the massage and get straight to the action.

So you’re still having a tough time getting rid of sexual performance anxiety…

Are you going through sexual performance anxiety blues? There’s no need to worry just yet, though.

There are a lot of guys who are experiencing the same thing the world over. And the thing is this issue can be completely get rid of.

Why not follow along to start getting rid of sexual performance anxiety so you can really wow your wife, girlfriend or lover the next time things steamy in the bedroom?

Now while this may sound surprising, a lot of guys don’t last long in bed than they’d like to because they simply think too much.

Overthinking before or during lovemaking only leads to one thing…sexual performance anxiety. And it can easily ruin your chances of giving your lover the sexual satisfaction she wants between the sheets.

Medical researchers in Michigan discovered that thinking too much can disrupt the flow of hormones that are responsible for orgasm. The brain normally receives ideal amounts of hormones from sexual arousal all the way through orgasm.

When a guy is experiencing sexual performance anxiety, the brain is flooded with an overload of hormones that instantly makes it go into overdrive. Instead of making you last longer during lovemaking and giving your partner an unforgettable time, you’ll only see yourself reaching orgasm prematurely and eventually ejaculating quicker than you’d like to.

Now that we’ve set that straight, there’s no need to worry just yet if you go through sexual performance anxiety now and then when things get hot in the bedroom. There are actually simple ways to fix it.

Here are a few useful pointers to help you get started in no time…

Remember that her pleasure is your top priority.

A lot of men get so affected with sexual performance anxiety that they forget that the easiest way to fix it is by concentrating more on their partners’ pleasure during lovemaking. The next time you get panicky during sex, just think about how you can give her the best sex ever and you’re sure to last longer while at it.

Limit your breathing to slow, long and spaced intervals.

Normal breathing is supposed to be slow, deep and spaced at regular intervals. When you experience sexual performance anxiety, your breathing becomes quicker and shallower. Although you will feel sexual tension when things get hot in bed, things will be different when sexual performance anxiety gets into the picture. Besides jacking up your blood pressure level a bit too high, your pulse rate will also surge higher than usual. This will result to an unexpected adrenaline rush, which can lead to premature ejaculation.

Think about baseball. Yes, you read it right.

The biggest mistake you’ll ever make when sexual performance anxiety creeps up on you is to let it get hold of you completely. The moment you feel anxious even a bit, distract yourself…like thinking about baseball.

There are a lot of ways to do this. For starters, you can pull this off by either thinking about a happy memory or mentally transporting yourself to a favorite place. Thinking about your favorite meal or TV show helps, too.