Foreplay Tips

These are the reasons why she's finding it tricky to get sexually aroused.

These are the reasons why she’s finding it tricky to get sexually aroused.

If you’re anything like most men, chances are you don’t find it tricky to get ready for a lovemaking session.

It only takes a mere peek at your lover’s sexy bits or perhaps a whiff of her perfume to turn you on. But the thing is it’s entirely a whole new different ballgame for your partner.

She needs to be eased into it the right way or else she’ll just end up not getting ideally sexually aroused or not even close to it at all.

And now you’re simply noticing that your lover is taking longer to get ready between the sheets these days. This doesn’t mean that you’ve already lost your touch when it comes to getting her going for lovemaking, though.

Chances are you’re just making the following mistakes that keep her sexual arousal levels from really taking off…

You’re not keeping an eye on your hygiene.

Your smell and appearance are two of the most important factors that can make or break your chances of getting a woman sexually aroused.

If they’re not kept up to par as they should, there’s a big possibility that your lover won’t be bumping headboards with you anytime soon because she’s just going to have a surge of stress hormones in her body even when you’re already bringing your best moves into play.

And if you’ve been following my posts for a while now, you probably already know that stress hormones only make women feel impatient and awkward.

Make it a point to always keep your hygiene in check to get on the right track.

You’re not keeping your bedroom in apple pie order.

Women are very particular with cleanliness and organization.

And if your bedroom isn’t kept as clean and organized as can be, your partner will have a problem getting ready for action in bed because she’ll just be preoccupied with the mess.

Keep in mind to give your bedroom the TLC it deserves and you’re sure to boost your chances of getting your lover going for a sex session.

You’re doing the same moves again and again.

Sure you may already have an idea of the moves that your partner likes when you’re already getting frisky in the bedroom, but doing it again and again will significantly reduce the pleasure and excitement levels that they can set off.

Make it a point to update your sexual checklist from time to time to prevent this from happening.

She will surely love these massage tips!

She will surely love these massage tips!

Properly getting a woman sexually aroused is essential if you’re looking to give her a lovemaking session that she won’t forget anytime soon.

And I’ve learned that one of the best ways to do just that is giving your partner a sensual massage.

Besides being very relaxing, you can also stimulate some of her erogenous zones like the inner thighs, back of the neck and the “treasure trail” or  lower abdomen while at it to get her going for action between the sheets as you go along.

So if you’re looking to really wow her the next time you give her a massage, here are a few useful tips that you should keep in mind…

Clean your bedroom.

Your primary objective when giving a woman a massage is promoting a surge of feel-good hormones in her body so she can unwind and get really cozy.

One thing that prevents that from happening is a messy bedroom.

See, instead of stimulating her body to release feel-good hormones like dopamine, it’s just going to churn out their negative counterparts, which will only trigger the opposite effects.

Pick the right tunes.

Your choice of music can easily make or break your chances of really getting her in the zone when you’re giving her a massage.

Make it a point to go for tunes that are slow, downbeat and don’t involve any bit of bass drumming at all. I highly suggest instrumentals or ambient sound.

The idea here is to make her feel as comfortable and relaxed as she can and not getting down to the music any moment.

Stock up on massage oils.

She’s going to find your moves rather boring if you don’t get your hands on massage oils.

See, besides making your strokes and caresses smoother and gentler, these massage oils also provide unique scents that will excite her senses even more while you’re working your magic on her.

I suggest picking scents that are easy on the nose like the ones sourced from herbs, fruits and flowers.

Let her guide you.

Sure you may already have an idea of the things you need to do when you’re giving your partner a massage, but it’s still best to let her call the shots while at it.

Make it a point to ask her how much pressure she prefers, the spots she’d like to be stimulated as well as the techniques that she likes during the action.


So you'd like to boost her chances of getting an orgasm...

So you’d like to boost her chances of getting an orgasm…

Giving your lover an explosive orgasm (or two) when you’re getting busy in the bedroom is no doubt the top priority in your sexual checklist.

Unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly believe, though, pulling the whole thing off isn’t just about making a beeline to her clitoris or nipples as soon as the action starts between the sheets.

Besides feeling rather awkward and uncomfortable for your partner, especially when these erogenous zones are stimulated before they are really ready, making it a habit to only go for the clitoris and nipples during sex or foreplay gives the brain the notion that pleasuring them is a routine.

This leads to a significant decrease in the sexual pleasure that your lover will experience during the same before you know it.

However, I’ve learned a few useful pointers during my extensive research into the female sexuality that will help you knock her socks off in the bedroom with an explosive orgasm. Make sure you read on to find out more…

Kissing is a must.

If you’re anything like most men, chances are you’d like to get straight to the action when you and your partner are already at it between the sheets.

But the thing is you’re making her miss out on an orgasm if you neglect to give her an awesome kissing session during the action.

See, smooching basically helps jump start and maintain the amount of positive hormones in her body that play key roles in taking her sexual arousal levels off the charts and activating her orgasmic responses.

Use a pillow.

When you sexually penetrate her using the missionary position, keep in mind to place a pillow under her butt before you start the action.

This helps make your pubic bone graze her clitoris each time you thrust, which intensifies the sensations she experiences while doing so. You’re basically giving her an overload of pleasurable feelings in the process.

You can also experiment with different pillows to find the one that suits you and your partner best.

Switch off your cell phone.

A woman’s orgasm is the result of accumulated sensations that she experiences during a sex session. If these sensations aren’t able to build up properly, then chances are she won’t reach the Big O as you go along.

And one thing that can easily disrupt the buildup of these sensations is a beeping cell phone or some other gadget that you may have around.

Keep these tips in mind before you finger her!

Keep these tips in mind before you finger her!

Fingering your lover is one of the most pleasurable ways that you can mix things up while the two of you are already at it in the bedroom.

But the thing is you’ve got to do the whole thing properly to really knock your partner’s socks off when you’re getting busy with your fingers.

So if you’re looking to give her a fingering session that she won’t forget anytime soon, here are some important pointers that you need to keep in mind…

Cleanliness is key.

Before you even think about fingering your lover when things get extra steamy between the sheets, make it a point to do a very meticulous once-over of your hygiene, especially the state of your hands, fingers and your nails.

Besides ensuring that the experience will be as smooth and comfortable for your partner, you will also prevent the possibility that she’ll get unexpected nicks in her intimate areas in the process.

Make it a point to wash your hands carefully before the action starts or better yet take a long shower.

Fire up her sexual arousal first.

Unlike what a lot of guys wrongly believe, simply fingering a woman as soon as they get the chance is perhaps the biggest mistake that you can ever make when you’re planning to do so.

This is because apart from feeling rather awkward and uncomfortable, she won’t experience as much pleasurable sensations while at it even if you’re already bringing your fingering A-game into play.

Keep in mind to really get her as horny as possible before you get busy south of her border with your fingers. And with the added lubrication, your strokes will surely be smooth in the process.

Don’t zero in on the clitoris.

Now while the clitoris is no doubt the most sensitive of all the erogenous zones in a woman’s body, stimulating it before it’s really ready for action will only lead to disaster.

Apart from making sure that she’s already really sexually aroused, stimulating her clitoris as gently as you can as you go along should be also on your priority list.

Concentrate on the sides of her vagina first before reaching the jackpot.

Let her run the show.

Always keep in mind to ask her how fast or slow you should go as well as the amount of pressure that you ought to apply when pleasuring her with your fingers.

Who would know what really satisfies your partner during fingering except her?