Dating Tips

You'll blow your chances at a second date when you do these.

You’ll blow your chances at a second date when you do these.

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are scoring a second date with the woman you’ve got your eye on is the top item in your checklist as soon as she agrees to go out with you.

Sure you may have heard how self-proclaimed “dating gurus” say that pulling off just that is as easy as doing a few almost magical things, but I think that it’s all bull.

Now while I won’t be giving pointers on how to convince a woman to go on a second date with you in the future (because that’s entirely up to you), I’ll just share a few mistakes I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that can keep her from saying yes when you do ask her.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

You don’t let her in on the planning.

Although the norm when it comes to first dates is that the guy should be the one planning the whole thing, you’re definitely missing out on a lot of brownie points when you don’t ask her for some inputs like  where she wants to go or the food and drinks she prefers.

See, besides making your date feel that you’re really into her, you’ll also know a few things about her that you can use to your advantage sooner or later.

You arrive late.

Even showing up 5 minutes late on a date will already make a woman feel that you’re not really interested in her.

And just to top the whole thing off, she’s also going to think that you don’t have the right time management skills, which makes her feel anxious. Just imagine how your first date will turn out when she feels this way.

You don’t plan your outfit.

Dress to impress is the way to go when you’re going out with a woman for the first time. Keep in mind to give her the notion that you’ve got a mature fashion sense and you’re on your way to making her feel comfortable around you.

You know how women are very much into fashion, right?

You don’t ask trivial questions.

Knowing how to break the ice is crucial if you’re looking to engage a woman in a meaningful conversation and eventually convince her to go out again with you.

Starting things off with serious topics like politics and the economy won’t cut it, no matter how intelligent you think you’ll look. Believe me she’ll just think you’re a blowhard.

Go for trivial questions instead. You will be surprised how much eager she’ll open up to you.

You don’t maintain eye contact.

Not having appropriate eye contact with your date will just make you look like a creep. Seriously.

If you’re having a problem getting and maintain proper eye contact, simply focus on the top of the bridge of her nose.

Get your date talking with these simple pointers.

Get your date talking with these simple pointers.

I’m pretty sure that acing the whole thing is your top priority when you’re going out with a woman for the first time.

And one of the key factors that you should take note of to do just that is getting a meaningful conversation going and keep it on a roll.

Sure this is pretty said than done, but I’ve picked up a few useful pointers how to do this during my extensive research into the female psychology.

Make sure you read on to find out what these are and boost your chances of encouraging your date to exchange meaningful ideas with you during the big day (or night).

No gadgets allowed.

I know this sounds surprising right now, but making it a point to switch off your mobile phone as well as any other gadget you may have along is an advantage when it comes to breaking the ice during a first date.

They will just distract you and keep you from giving your complete attention to the woman you’re going out with.

It’s “switch off” and not “put it in silent mode,” alright?

Don’t slouch.

Interestingly, women tend to be rather critical with the posture of the guy they’re on a first date with. She might have the wrong notion about you if slouch the whole time.

Remember to keep an eye on your posture to really get on the right track to making her feel like talking with you.

Eye contact is essential.

It’s possible that you could make your date feel rather awkward – or even stressed – if you don’t get and maintain eye contact with her. And this will just make her clam up.

Prevent this from happening by looking her in the eye when you say something or when it’s her turn to talk.

Scared of looking her in the eye? Start by looking at the topmost part of the bridge of her nose instead and you can go from there.

Keep the questions trivial.

What’s really interesting is a lot of men mistakenly think that engaging a woman in a conversation on a first date involves asking difficult questions.

Kicking things off with them will just make her feel that you’re trying too hard.

You can actually encourage her to open up by asking no-fuss stuff like the TV show she’s following these days or perhaps her favorite band ever.


Sure this sounds really simplistic, but make it a point to really listen intently when she’s talking.

Besides having the opportunity to know more about her, you’re also going to pick up some stuff that you can use to dazzle her as you go along.

Does she think of you as "just a friend?"

Does she think of you as “just a friend?”

Getting trapped in the friend zone is no doubt one of the most awkward experiences that you can go through as a guy.

Besides being very embarrassing, it’s also going to ruin your chances of establishing a romantic relationship with a woman you’ve got your eye on.

But the thing is I’ve come across some key mistakes during my extensive research into the female psychology that will easily make you fall into the friend zone without even knowing it.

Make sure you read on to get the lowdown on them…

Not confessing up to her.

One of the biggest mistakes that a lot of guys tend to overlook is not confessing up to the woman they’re attracted to of their true feelings for them.

Come to think of it. How would she have an idea that you’re looking to take your relationship with her to a new level if she doesn’t even know how you really feel?

Sure there is the possibility that she may reject you, but it’s better to know the bitter truth than not knowing how she feels about you at all.

You don’t ask her out on a date.

A woman will have the mindset that you’re just a friend if you don’t make a move.

One of the smartest ways to start making her think that you’re not just looking to be friends with her is asking her out on a date.

And don’t just settle for “friendly” stuff like hanging out in the park or playing a video game together.

Pull out all the stops on your first date to really get the message across.

You’re her therapist for guy problems.

Although lending an ear when she’s opening up to you earns you brownie points, simply giving her the notion that you’re her shrink when it comes to guy problems and similar issues is another story.

Besides making her think that she can tell you anything she likes, which is basically the job of a friend, you’re also ruining your chances of getting romantic with her because she knows that you already know her secrets when it comes to men.

Giving up immediately.

Most guys tend to get discouraged immediately when they get rejected the first time.

I know getting rejected can be rather frustrating, but perseverance does have its rewards. Remember to regroup and dazzle her using a different strategy all over again.

Avoid these first date no-no's.

Avoid these first date no-no’s.

I’m betting that convincing a woman to go out with you another time is the biggest priority on your first date checklist.

And unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying, doing just that isn’t about making her feel that you’re the alpha male or perhaps wearing loud clothes to give her the notion that she should only focus her attention on you.

Put yourself in a woman’s shoes and think it over for a moment. If the guy you’re having a first date with acts like a jerk and has a bad fashion taste, would you go out with him again?

There you go.

Just to keep you in the know of how to make a first date successful, I’ll point out a few more mistakes that can ruin your chances of convincing a woman to go out with you again that you may be probably making…

First Date Mistake #1: Overthinking.

Now while it’s crucial that you make your first date as perfect as you can, allowing yourself to get too stressed about the whole thing is just going to be counter-productive.

It’s just going to promote a surge of negative hormones in your body that will just make you act and talk awkwardly, which will just lead to disaster sooner or later.

First Date Mistake #2: Not involving her with the planning.

Sure most guys think that the responsibility of planning and organizing a first date solely falls on them, but this is actually a big mistake.

Besides making a woman feel that you really care for what she likes, you’re also going to know some personal things about her that you can use to dazzle her as you go along.

First Date Mistake #3: Being late.

Here’s the thing…

You’re simply setting yourself up for disaster if you arrive late on a first date.

This is because she’ll think that you don’t have time management skills, which will give her the notion that you’re an irresponsible man.

I know this sounds rather harsh, but making it a point to arrive on a first date at least 10 minutes earlier is the smart way to go.

First Date Mistake #4: Not listening intently.

It’s not just about expressing the right ideas when you’re engaging your date in a meaningful discussion.

You also have to listen intently to what she says.

Besides giving her the notion that you’re really interested in her, you’re also going to pick up some personal things about her that you can use to earn some more brownie points in the process.