Dating Tips

So you'd like to make your first date as successful as possible...

So you’d like to make your first date as successful as possible…

Chances are making the woman you’re on a first date with feel as comfortable and relaxed around you as possible is your ultimate goal.

Apart from helping you easily engage and keep her in a meaningful exchange of ideas as you go along, pulling this off also gets you on your way to convincing her to have another date with you.

But here’s the thing…

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are saying these days, making a woman as comfortable and relaxed as she can during your first date isn’t about saying particular words or perhaps doing specific gestures.

Why not follow along to find out the mistakes I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that can make a woman feel awkward and uncomfortable when you’re on a first date?

You show up late.

I know this sounds a bit simplistic right now, but arriving late for a first date gives the woman you’re out with the notion that you either have time management issues or you’re really not that interested in her.

This promotes the release of negative hormones that make her feel awkward and uncomfortable almost at once.

You didn’t plan your getup.

Women are very particular with your grooming on a first date and you can find yourself in a tricky situation if you just hastily grab whatever you can find in your closet on the big day (or night).

Plan your getup meticulously at least a couple of days before your first date to really make a good impression.

You assume rapport with her.

Although showing your date that you’re confident and friendly is a good way to give her the notion that she won’t have a tough time connecting with you, overdoing the whole is just going to lead to disaster.

Start slow and subtle as you can. Don’t get touchy-feely while you’re at it, too.

You break the ice with technical topics.

Now while we’ve previously discussed that women find intelligent men sexy, opening a conversation with something complicated and intricate will simply make her think that you’re trying too hard to give her the notion that you’re smart.

You’ll just end up looking like a blowhard in front of her. Ask open-ended questions instead and you will be surprised with the results.

You keep looking at your watch.

First, this makes her think that you’re bored and want to be somewhere else than being with her. Second, she’ll also assume that you’re not really interested in her right off the bat.

Come to think of it. Isn’t this going to end up in a very bad first date?

So you'd like her to open up to you on your first date...

So you’d like her to open up to you on your first date…

Exchanging meaningful ideas is perhaps the most crucial step when it comes to establishing a connection with a woman during a first date.

Besides getting to know her better, you’re also going to find out a few bits and pieces that you can use to your advantage when it comes to dazzling her as you go along.

Unlike what a lot of men mistakenly think, though, getting a conversation going with your date isn’t that tricky to pull off.

I’ve picked up a few useful pointers here and there that can help boost your chances of really making her open up to you during your first date.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

Ask a very simple question.

Most guys believe that starting the ball rolling with something difficult and technical gives the woman they’re going out with the notion that they’re intelligent.

However, this move is just going to backfire before you know it.

Although it is true that women find smart as sexy, she’ll just think that you’re trying too hard when you do this.

Ask her a very simple question instead like what her favorite dessert is. You’ll be surprised with how much eager she’ll be to respond.

Go for trivial topics.

Like the previous pointer I shared, make it a point to go for the trivial stuff when you’re looking to make her open up to you.

There are actually countless ways to do this.

Besides asking her what the name of her first pet is, you can also ask her what TV series she’s following these days.

Maintain appropriate eye contact.

Not getting and maintaining appropriate eye contact with a woman when you’re looking to get a conversation going is a big no-no.

This is because she will just think you’re creepy.

If you’re like some guys who can’t get proper eye contact going, you can simply focus on the bridge of her nose to help you start things off.

Switch your phone to silent.

Doing this every few minutes will simply give the woman you’re out with the idea that you’re bored and not really into her.

And this can easily make her feel anxious, uncomfortable and awkward. Well, you already get the idea on how your first date will turn out.

Keep in mind to save those texts, tweets, status updates and similar stuff for later or else she’ll go mum on you.

This applies to your watch as well.

Still having tricky scoring a second date? Check this out.

Still having a tricky time scoring a second date? Check this out.

If you’re anything like most guys, I’m betting that your top priority when you go out with a woman for the very first time is convincing her to have another date with her anytime soon.

However, unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are suggesting, though, pulling off just that isn’t about doing a super-secret technique or perhaps saying words that activate a woman’s desire to say yes to Date Number 2 with you.

I’ve picked up a few useful pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that can help boost your chances of landing that second date with her as you go along…

Let her in on the planning and organizing.

Sure the norm would be taking the initiative when it comes to planning and organizing a first date, but you’re definitely missing out on a lot of brownie points when you don’t ask her for her inputs when you’re putting the details of the whole thing together.

Besides making her feel that you really value her participation and ideas, you’ll also be in the know of the things she likes that you can use to dazzle her on the big day (or night).

Be punctual.

Showing up late on your first date is one of the worst mistakes that you can ever make. See, this just makes the woman you’re out with feel that you’re either not that into her or perhaps simply straight-up negligent with your management of time.

And this will just promote a surge in stress hormones in her body that will make her feel awkward, impatient and anxious. How’s that to start the ball rolling on your first date?

Arriving at least 10 minutes earlier is a nice benchmark to keep in mind.

Switch your phone to silent.

Now while phones are necessities these days, spending more time checking it out than interacting with your date will just give her the notion that you’re not really interested in her. Make it a point to switch it to silent and never stare at it unless you’ve got an important call to answer.

Or she’d like to take a picture with you.

Remember that those tweets, status updates and other stuff can wait.

Maintain appropriate eye contact.

Not having appropriate eye contact with your date gives her the idea that you’re not that confident as a guy or perhaps make her feel that you’re creepy.

You can simply focus on the upper bridge of her nose if you feel embarrassed to do this.

 

Keep these first date tips in mind to really dazzle her.

Keep these first date tips in mind to really dazzle her.

Acing a first isn’t something that you can pull off with some “secret technique” like what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are suggesting.

 

But the thing is I’ve come across a number of useful pointers on how to boost your chances of doing just that during my extensive research into the female psychology.

So if you’re looking to really dazzle the woman you’re going out with on a first date, make sure you read on to learn more…

Keep an eye on your grooming.

I know this sounds simplistic right now, but not making your overall grooming a priority in your first date checklist is just going to lead to disaster before the whole thing even starts.

See, women are very particular with how you look and smell. If you arrive with a hastily prepared getup and a funky odor, she’s just going to feel anxious around you.

Let her in on the planning.

Sure the norm is men should be the ones taking care of a first date’s details, but you’ll have a bigger chance of making it successful if you ask her for her inputs.

Besides making her feel that you’re really into her, you’re also going to get in on some bits and pieces about her that you can use to earn some brownie points along the way.

Punctuality is essential.

I’ve learned during my research into the female psychology that one of the things that women find upsetting when they’re going on a first date is the guy showing up late.

This is because they get the notion that you’re irresponsible and have no time management skills, which get their stress levels going.

And you don’t want that to happen.

Ask trivial stuff.

Never try engaging a woman in a conversation with something that’s complicated just because you’re looking to give her the impression that you are smart.

You’ll be surprised with how much eager she’ll be to exchange ideas with you when you ask her something simple like what’s her favorite cartoon character is or perhaps what TV show she’s following these days.

Keep your hands out in the open.

According to a study, women tend to be more comfortable around guys who give them the notion that they’re open and honest.

One way of doing this is keeping your hands in full view most of the time since this gesture gives their subconscious that you’re not hiding anything from her.