Dating Tips

A few tips on scoring a second date.

A few tips on scoring a second date.

I’m pretty sure that scoring a second date is your top priority when you’re taking out a woman for the very first time.

But the thing is successfully doing this isn’t about acting the alpha male or wearing loud clothes like self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are saying.

Make sure you read on to learn some simple ways of increasing your chances of convincing the woman you’re going out on a first date with to have a second one with you.

Plan your getup ahead of time.

Women are very particular with how you look and smell. If you show up on a date wearing some hastily thrown getup, you’re in for a lot of disappointment.

Make it a point to plan your apparel beforehand – at least a couple of days beforehand – to find out what works and what doesn’t.

And while we’re on the subject, wear clean shoes. Women are quite meticulous with footwear, too.

Switch off your phone.

Now while phones are necessities in today’s modern world, being distracted by it during a first date will just lead to disaster.

Keep in mind to switch it off during your first date so you can really give your utmost attention to the woman you’re going out with.

The status updates, tweets, funny emails and videos as well as the other stuff you normally check out with your phone can wait.

Ask trivial questions.

Sure intelligence is sexy for women, but starting things off with something difficult and complicated isn’t going to cut it.

This is because it will just give your date the notion that you’re trying too hard to impress her, which will just make her feel awkward and uncomfortable.

One effective way of doing this is asking trivial questions. Besides making it easy for her to relate to, she won’t also have a hard time answering them as you go along.

Examples like the TV show she’s following or the name of her first pet should be your guide, too.

Get and maintain ideal eye contact.

Getting and maintaining ideal eye contact is a must because this gesture gives the woman you’re on a first date with the notion that you’re not someone shady.

Make it a point to establish eye contact when you’re exchanging ideas with her.

If you’re not that comfortable to do so, you can always focus your vision to the upper bridge of her nose.

Avoid these first date mistakes!

Avoid these first date mistakes!

Making a first date successful is no doubt your top priority when you’re taking out a woman for the first time.

But the thing is doing such that isn’t about following the advice of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” these days.

Pulling it off isn’t about acting like the alpha male or perhaps wearing loud clothes to make her think that she has to give you her utmost attention.

Acting like a jerk and having a bad get-up combined? Well, that’s the start of a really bad first date in my book.

However, I’ve compiled a few mistakes that you should avoid to help boost your chances of making her say yes to a second date.

Let me explain what I mean…

Arriving late.

Women are a bit particular with punctuality. If you arrive late on your first date, she might think that you’re irresponsible. And it’s going to have a big effect on your goal to score a second date even if you’re already pulling out all the stops while at it. Keep in mind to arrive at least 15 minutes earlier and you’re good to go.

Not planning your apparel ahead of time.

How you look and smell is a big deal when it comes to women. So you’re sure to elicit the wrong reaction from her when you show up with a hastily grabbed getup. Make it a point to plan your apparel two days before so you can easily see what works and what doesn’t.

Talking about complicated stuff.

Now while intelligence is sexy to women, kicking things off with complicated stuff when you’re trying to engage her in a conversation will just lead to disaster before you know it. This is because she’ll just think you’re trying too hard in the process. Ask trivial things like the name of her favorite cartoon character, the name of her first pet or perhaps the TV show she’s following these days and you’ll be surprised with the results.

Not getting and keeping eye contact.

So here’s the situation…

You’re basically giving her the idea that you’re hiding something when you can’t keep and maintain eye contact with the woman you’re on a first date with. If you’re having difficulty looking at her straight in the eye, try looking at the top of the bridge of her nose. Besides giving her the notion that you’re listening to her intently, it will also make her feel that you’re really into her.

 

So you'd like to make a good impression on a first date...

So you’d like to make a good impression on a first date…

Acing a first date isn’t something that you can pull off at the drop of a hat like a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying. But the thing is I’ve a few useful pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that may just help you boost your chances of making a good first impression during a first date. Make sure you follow along to find out more…

 

Arrive early.

Making it a point to arrive earlier than the woman you’re going out with during a first date not only helps you ensure that your preparations are all set, but also give her the notion that you have good time management skills. Arriving at least 10 minutes ahead of her is a nice benchmark to keep in mind.

Plan your getup well.

How you look is one of the biggest factors that can make or break the outcome of your first date. Keeping in mind to plan your outfit ready at least a couple of days ahead of your date not just helps you gauge if it suits your right, but also prevents a fashion disaster from happening before you know it. Remember not to underdress or overdress while we’re on the subject as well.

Ask for her inputs.

Sure you may already have a few first date pointers in mind, but making sure to ask the woman you’re going out with what her preferences are for the same gives her the idea that you’re really into her. Besides making you earn some brownie points, you’ll also have a few ideas here and there how you can dazzle her as you go along.

Go for trivial conversational topics.

Although smart is sexy for women, going for topics that are technical and complicated can easily turn your date in no time at all. Choose very simple topics instead to talk about. Apart from asking her what her favorite cartoon character or perhaps preferred book genre is, you can also ask her what TV series she’s following these days. The simpler, the better.

Don’t be touchy-feely.

Most men tend to go all out with their gestures when emphasizing something during a conversation. Now while this isn’t an issue when you’re gabbing with your friends, doing this on a first date can give her the wrong idea. If you’d like to stress an idea, just pat or touch her on the shoulder or the forearm.

First date tips you should always keep in mind.

First date tips you should always keep in mind.

Making the whole thing as successful as you can is no doubt the top priority in your checklist when you’re going out with a woman on a first date.

Besides boosting your chances of convincing her to go on a date with you again, giving her a positive experience also makes it easier to establish an emotional connection with her as you go along.

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are suggesting, pulling it off doesn’t involve super-secret fashion techniques or perhaps saying words or phrases that instantly make a woman feel closer to you as soon as you utter them.

I’ve picked up a few simple pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that will help you get on your way to a successful first date. Why don’t we start the ball rolling right now?

Plan your getup ahead of time.

Perhaps the most important thing that you should keep in mind when you’re looking to make a first date successful is your grooming.

See, how you look and smell is the very first thing that a woman will check out.

And if she thinks that your grooming isn’t up to par, you’ll just end up making her feel that you’re sloppy and irresponsible.

I know that sounds a bit harsh, but it’s the truth.

You should arrive before she does.

Women are very particular with time management and if you show up after her on a first date, you’re simply going to send her the wrong message.

Make it a point to get there at least 10 to 15 minutes ahead of her.

Apart from giving her the notion that you don’t have an issue with punctuality, you can also spare a few minutes checking how you look and smell as well as have a quick rundown of your plans for the big day (or night).

Don’t spend most of your time checking out your phone.

Acing a first date primarily involves giving the woman you’re going out with the idea that you’re really interested in her.

And if you’re just going to spend most your first date checking your phone for status updates, tweets, texts or perhaps what Pokemon are lurking about, you are simply in for a lot of disappointment before you know it.

This also applies to other gadgets that you may have with you, including your watch.

Make it a point to focus all of your attention on her the whole time.