Attracting Women

Get your date talking with these simple pointers.

Get your date talking with these simple pointers.

I’m pretty sure that acing the whole thing is your top priority when you’re going out with a woman for the first time.

And one of the key factors that you should take note of to do just that is getting a meaningful conversation going and keep it on a roll.

Sure this is pretty said than done, but I’ve picked up a few useful pointers how to do this during my extensive research into the female psychology.

Make sure you read on to find out what these are and boost your chances of encouraging your date to exchange meaningful ideas with you during the big day (or night).

No gadgets allowed.

I know this sounds surprising right now, but making it a point to switch off your mobile phone as well as any other gadget you may have along is an advantage when it comes to breaking the ice during a first date.

They will just distract you and keep you from giving your complete attention to the woman you’re going out with.

It’s “switch off” and not “put it in silent mode,” alright?

Don’t slouch.

Interestingly, women tend to be rather critical with the posture of the guy they’re on a first date with. She might have the wrong notion about you if slouch the whole time.

Remember to keep an eye on your posture to really get on the right track to making her feel like talking with you.

Eye contact is essential.

It’s possible that you could make your date feel rather awkward – or even stressed – if you don’t get and maintain eye contact with her. And this will just make her clam up.

Prevent this from happening by looking her in the eye when you say something or when it’s her turn to talk.

Scared of looking her in the eye? Start by looking at the topmost part of the bridge of her nose instead and you can go from there.

Keep the questions trivial.

What’s really interesting is a lot of men mistakenly think that engaging a woman in a conversation on a first date involves asking difficult questions.

Kicking things off with them will just make her feel that you’re trying too hard.

You can actually encourage her to open up by asking no-fuss stuff like the TV show she’s following these days or perhaps her favorite band ever.

Listen.

Sure this sounds really simplistic, but make it a point to really listen intently when she’s talking.

Besides having the opportunity to know more about her, you’re also going to pick up some stuff that you can use to dazzle her as you go along.

Avoid these first date no-no's.

Avoid these first date no-no’s.

I’m betting that convincing a woman to go out with you another time is the biggest priority on your first date checklist.

And unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying, doing just that isn’t about making her feel that you’re the alpha male or perhaps wearing loud clothes to give her the notion that she should only focus her attention on you.

Put yourself in a woman’s shoes and think it over for a moment. If the guy you’re having a first date with acts like a jerk and has a bad fashion taste, would you go out with him again?

There you go.

Just to keep you in the know of how to make a first date successful, I’ll point out a few more mistakes that can ruin your chances of convincing a woman to go out with you again that you may be probably making…

First Date Mistake #1: Overthinking.

Now while it’s crucial that you make your first date as perfect as you can, allowing yourself to get too stressed about the whole thing is just going to be counter-productive.

It’s just going to promote a surge of negative hormones in your body that will just make you act and talk awkwardly, which will just lead to disaster sooner or later.

First Date Mistake #2: Not involving her with the planning.

Sure most guys think that the responsibility of planning and organizing a first date solely falls on them, but this is actually a big mistake.

Besides making a woman feel that you really care for what she likes, you’re also going to know some personal things about her that you can use to dazzle her as you go along.

First Date Mistake #3: Being late.

Here’s the thing…

You’re simply setting yourself up for disaster if you arrive late on a first date.

This is because she’ll think that you don’t have time management skills, which will give her the notion that you’re an irresponsible man.

I know this sounds rather harsh, but making it a point to arrive on a first date at least 10 minutes earlier is the smart way to go.

First Date Mistake #4: Not listening intently.

It’s not just about expressing the right ideas when you’re engaging your date in a meaningful discussion.

You also have to listen intently to what she says.

Besides giving her the notion that you’re really interested in her, you’re also going to pick up some personal things about her that you can use to earn some more brownie points in the process.

First date mistakes you should keep clear of!

First date mistakes you should keep clear of!

Unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying, acing a first date isn’t something that you pull off by just following a few magic pointers.

During my extensive research into the female psychology, there is no truth behind the tips that these people recommend and may even lead to disaster if they are followed.

Perhaps the most ridiculous of these pointers include wearing loud clothes to give the woman you’re on a date with the notion that you have a “colorful personality” as well as acting like the alpha male to make her think that she should only focus on you.

However, I’ve come across a few mistakes that some men tend to overlook that can ruin their chances of having a successful first date. Make sure you read on to find out what these are and boost your chances of landing Date Number 2…

You show up late.

I’d like to start things off with punctuality. Sure being late for 5 minutes or so isn’t that big of a deal for you, but showing up late on a first date is definitely one of the biggest mistakes that you’ll ever make.

Besides giving the woman you’re going out with the idea that you’re not really interested in her, she’s also going to have doubts about your personality as a guy.

She will think that you’re lazy and irresponsible, which isn’t going to earn you precious first date brownie points anytime soon.

You don’t keep a close eye on your grooming.

How you look and smell are two key factors that women tend to focus on almost immediately during a first date.

If your date thinks that your physical appearance isn’t that good or perhaps you smell a bit off, chances are she’s just going to feel anxious and uncomfortable around you.

You hog the discussion.

Getting your date to exchange meaningful ideas with you is important when it comes to making her feel more relaxed around you.

Make it a point to listen to her intently when she’s giving her inputs or else she will think that you’re monopolizing the discussion and will have a surge of negative hormones in her body.

This just means that she will clam up and you’ll have a tricky time turning the situation around in your favor.

You get too touchy-feely.

Now while it’s alright to use gestures to emphasize a point you’re making when you talk, overdoing the whole thing will just give your date the notion that you’re getting too frisky.

Remember to keep your hands to yourself and you’re good to go.

Boost your self-confidence with these tips.

Boost your self-confidence with these tips.

Your self-confidence levels play a key role in how you deal with everyday life.

Not having them up to par can lead to difficulties making smart decisions, establishing and maintaining relationships with other people, as well as issues coping with problems if not taken care of properly.

If you think that your self-confidence levels are below ideal, there’s no need to worry just yet.

Here are a few useful pointers I’ve learned during my extensive research into the male psychology that will help you get on the right track…

Improve your regular diet.

I know this sounds surprising right now, but what you load up on regularly can have an effect on your self-confidence.

See, healthy stuff like fresh fruits and vegetables don’t just nourish your body with essential vitamins and minerals.

They also contain other beneficial ingredients like flavonoids and antioxidants that help get rid of toxins and similar unwanted substances, which can disrupt the ideal distribution of hormones that can make you feel down and not good enough.

Interestingly, making it a point to eat healthy also helps keep your erections strong and lasting.

Mingle with positive people.

Who you hang out with can have a very big effect on your self-confidence levels.

This is because you basically pick up the habits of the people you regularly socialize with. If you hang out with positive people, you’re going to be more upbeat, optimistic and happier.

Alternatively, if you socialize with negative people, you’re simply going to get the opposite. Chances are you’ll feel left out and apprehensive most of the time when you mingle with naysayers and worryguts as well.

Look and smell like a million bucks.

Sure this sounds a bit cliché, but how you look and smell can have a very big effect on your self-confidence.

How you see (and smell) yourself directly impacts your ability to socialize with others, break the ice and plan out your options well before making a tough decision.

Make it a point to always keep your grooming ideal each day and you’ll be surprised how much confident you will feel.

Manage negative stress properly.

Negative stress makes you unproductive, anxious, grouchy and impatient, which are definitely not the qualities of a confident guy.

Keep in mind to always make time for managing and eliminating negative stress from your life to prevent it from affecting your self-confidence levels.

Besides having a hobby to keep you pleasantly occupied during your downtime, playing sports and reading are also smart picks to pull this off.