Attracting Women

Still having tricky scoring a second date? Check this out.

Still having a tricky time scoring a second date? Check this out.

If you’re anything like most guys, I’m betting that your top priority when you go out with a woman for the very first time is convincing her to have another date with her anytime soon.

However, unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are suggesting, though, pulling off just that isn’t about doing a super-secret technique or perhaps saying words that activate a woman’s desire to say yes to Date Number 2 with you.

I’ve picked up a few useful pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that can help boost your chances of landing that second date with her as you go along…

Let her in on the planning and organizing.

Sure the norm would be taking the initiative when it comes to planning and organizing a first date, but you’re definitely missing out on a lot of brownie points when you don’t ask her for her inputs when you’re putting the details of the whole thing together.

Besides making her feel that you really value her participation and ideas, you’ll also be in the know of the things she likes that you can use to dazzle her on the big day (or night).

Be punctual.

Showing up late on your first date is one of the worst mistakes that you can ever make. See, this just makes the woman you’re out with feel that you’re either not that into her or perhaps simply straight-up negligent with your management of time.

And this will just promote a surge in stress hormones in her body that will make her feel awkward, impatient and anxious. How’s that to start the ball rolling on your first date?

Arriving at least 10 minutes earlier is a nice benchmark to keep in mind.

Switch your phone to silent.

Now while phones are necessities these days, spending more time checking it out than interacting with your date will just give her the notion that you’re not really interested in her. Make it a point to switch it to silent and never stare at it unless you’ve got an important call to answer.

Or she’d like to take a picture with you.

Remember that those tweets, status updates and other stuff can wait.

Maintain appropriate eye contact.

Not having appropriate eye contact with your date gives her the idea that you’re not that confident as a guy or perhaps make her feel that you’re creepy.

You can simply focus on the upper bridge of her nose if you feel embarrassed to do this.

Are you making these mistakes that can get you trapped in the friend zone?

Are you making these mistakes that can get you trapped in the friend zone?

So here’s the situation…

You’ve been friends with a woman you really like and you’re hoping to take your relationship to a whole new level.

But the thing is she sees you more of a friend than a potential romantic interest.

And you’re in danger of getting stuck in the friend zone if you don’t fix this problem as soon as possible.

Now while getting trapped in the friend zone may be one of the most embarrassing and awkward experiences you can ever go through, avoiding the whole thing isn’t that complicated, though.

Make sure you follow along to learn a few useful pointers to keep in mind I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that will help you steer clear of the friend zone…

You don’t tell her of your true feelings.

Unlike what you see in the movies where the female love interest seems to realize at the end that his male counterpart is in love with her, you’ve got to confess your true feelings to her or else nothing will happen.

Unless the woman you’re attracted to is a mind reader, of course.

Now while there’s a bit of risk involved here because it’s possible that she may reject you, it’s better to fess up than forever regretting that you didn’t tell her at all.

What’s even more interesting is there’s a possibility that she likes you, too.

You give in to whatever she wants.

I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that women tend to see guys who easily give in to what they want more as a go-to guy than potential romance.

Sure you can earn a few brownie points when you give her favors, but she’ll just end up seeing you as a reliable friend – or worse, like a brother – when you treat her like this.

You have never asked her out.

Asking a woman on a date basically gives her the notion that you’re interested in her in a romantic way.

Although you may be already giving her cues that you’d like to go out with her, nothing beats asking her straight.

There’s the risk of being rejected here, too, but it’s still much better than staying mum and thinking about the things that could have happened if you just asked her out.

(Here’s a useful pointer to have up your sleeve that will help you ace that first date, too.)

You get discouraged too quickly.

So you’ve already asked her out, you say? And she said no?

Well, don’t give up already!

Give it another try to really make her feel that you’ve got a special place for her in your heart, but make sure you give it time or else she’ll think of you as a creep.

 

Keep these first date tips in mind to really dazzle her.

Keep these first date tips in mind to really dazzle her.

Acing a first isn’t something that you can pull off with some “secret technique” like what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are suggesting.

 

But the thing is I’ve come across a number of useful pointers on how to boost your chances of doing just that during my extensive research into the female psychology.

So if you’re looking to really dazzle the woman you’re going out with on a first date, make sure you read on to learn more…

Keep an eye on your grooming.

I know this sounds simplistic right now, but not making your overall grooming a priority in your first date checklist is just going to lead to disaster before the whole thing even starts.

See, women are very particular with how you look and smell. If you arrive with a hastily prepared getup and a funky odor, she’s just going to feel anxious around you.

Let her in on the planning.

Sure the norm is men should be the ones taking care of a first date’s details, but you’ll have a bigger chance of making it successful if you ask her for her inputs.

Besides making her feel that you’re really into her, you’re also going to get in on some bits and pieces about her that you can use to earn some brownie points along the way.

Punctuality is essential.

I’ve learned during my research into the female psychology that one of the things that women find upsetting when they’re going on a first date is the guy showing up late.

This is because they get the notion that you’re irresponsible and have no time management skills, which get their stress levels going.

And you don’t want that to happen.

Ask trivial stuff.

Never try engaging a woman in a conversation with something that’s complicated just because you’re looking to give her the impression that you are smart.

You’ll be surprised with how much eager she’ll be to exchange ideas with you when you ask her something simple like what’s her favorite cartoon character is or perhaps what TV show she’s following these days.

Keep your hands out in the open.

According to a study, women tend to be more comfortable around guys who give them the notion that they’re open and honest.

One way of doing this is keeping your hands in full view most of the time since this gesture gives their subconscious that you’re not hiding anything from her.

You'll blow your chances at a second date when you do these.

You’ll blow your chances at a second date when you do these.

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are scoring a second date with the woman you’ve got your eye on is the top item in your checklist as soon as she agrees to go out with you.

Sure you may have heard how self-proclaimed “dating gurus” say that pulling off just that is as easy as doing a few almost magical things, but I think that it’s all bull.

Now while I won’t be giving pointers on how to convince a woman to go on a second date with you in the future (because that’s entirely up to you), I’ll just share a few mistakes I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that can keep her from saying yes when you do ask her.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

You don’t let her in on the planning.

Although the norm when it comes to first dates is that the guy should be the one planning the whole thing, you’re definitely missing out on a lot of brownie points when you don’t ask her for some inputs like  where she wants to go or the food and drinks she prefers.

See, besides making your date feel that you’re really into her, you’ll also know a few things about her that you can use to your advantage sooner or later.

You arrive late.

Even showing up 5 minutes late on a date will already make a woman feel that you’re not really interested in her.

And just to top the whole thing off, she’s also going to think that you don’t have the right time management skills, which makes her feel anxious. Just imagine how your first date will turn out when she feels this way.

You don’t plan your outfit.

Dress to impress is the way to go when you’re going out with a woman for the first time. Keep in mind to give her the notion that you’ve got a mature fashion sense and you’re on your way to making her feel comfortable around you.

You know how women are very much into fashion, right?

You don’t ask trivial questions.

Knowing how to break the ice is crucial if you’re looking to engage a woman in a meaningful conversation and eventually convince her to go out again with you.

Starting things off with serious topics like politics and the economy won’t cut it, no matter how intelligent you think you’ll look. Believe me she’ll just think you’re a blowhard.

Go for trivial questions instead. You will be surprised how much eager she’ll open up to you.

You don’t maintain eye contact.

Not having appropriate eye contact with your date will just make you look like a creep. Seriously.

If you’re having a problem getting and maintain proper eye contact, simply focus on the top of the bridge of her nose.