Attracting Women

 

So you'd like to make a good impression on a first date...

So you’d like to make a good impression on a first date…

Acing a first date isn’t something that you can pull off at the drop of a hat like a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying. But the thing is I’ve a few useful pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that may just help you boost your chances of making a good first impression during a first date. Make sure you follow along to find out more…

 

Arrive early.

Making it a point to arrive earlier than the woman you’re going out with during a first date not only helps you ensure that your preparations are all set, but also give her the notion that you have good time management skills. Arriving at least 10 minutes ahead of her is a nice benchmark to keep in mind.

Plan your getup well.

How you look is one of the biggest factors that can make or break the outcome of your first date. Keeping in mind to plan your outfit ready at least a couple of days ahead of your date not just helps you gauge if it suits your right, but also prevents a fashion disaster from happening before you know it. Remember not to underdress or overdress while we’re on the subject as well.

Ask for her inputs.

Sure you may already have a few first date pointers in mind, but making sure to ask the woman you’re going out with what her preferences are for the same gives her the idea that you’re really into her. Besides making you earn some brownie points, you’ll also have a few ideas here and there how you can dazzle her as you go along.

Go for trivial conversational topics.

Although smart is sexy for women, going for topics that are technical and complicated can easily turn your date in no time at all. Choose very simple topics instead to talk about. Apart from asking her what her favorite cartoon character or perhaps preferred book genre is, you can also ask her what TV series she’s following these days. The simpler, the better.

Don’t be touchy-feely.

Most men tend to go all out with their gestures when emphasizing something during a conversation. Now while this isn’t an issue when you’re gabbing with your friends, doing this on a first date can give her the wrong idea. If you’d like to stress an idea, just pat or touch her on the shoulder or the forearm.

First date tips you should always keep in mind.

First date tips you should always keep in mind.

Making the whole thing as successful as you can is no doubt the top priority in your checklist when you’re going out with a woman on a first date.

Besides boosting your chances of convincing her to go on a date with you again, giving her a positive experience also makes it easier to establish an emotional connection with her as you go along.

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are suggesting, pulling it off doesn’t involve super-secret fashion techniques or perhaps saying words or phrases that instantly make a woman feel closer to you as soon as you utter them.

I’ve picked up a few simple pointers during my extensive research into the female psychology that will help you get on your way to a successful first date. Why don’t we start the ball rolling right now?

Plan your getup ahead of time.

Perhaps the most important thing that you should keep in mind when you’re looking to make a first date successful is your grooming.

See, how you look and smell is the very first thing that a woman will check out.

And if she thinks that your grooming isn’t up to par, you’ll just end up making her feel that you’re sloppy and irresponsible.

I know that sounds a bit harsh, but it’s the truth.

You should arrive before she does.

Women are very particular with time management and if you show up after her on a first date, you’re simply going to send her the wrong message.

Make it a point to get there at least 10 to 15 minutes ahead of her.

Apart from giving her the notion that you don’t have an issue with punctuality, you can also spare a few minutes checking how you look and smell as well as have a quick rundown of your plans for the big day (or night).

Don’t spend most of your time checking out your phone.

Acing a first date primarily involves giving the woman you’re going out with the idea that you’re really interested in her.

And if you’re just going to spend most your first date checking your phone for status updates, tweets, texts or perhaps what Pokemon are lurking about, you are simply in for a lot of disappointment before you know it.

This also applies to other gadgets that you may have with you, including your watch.

Make it a point to focus all of your attention on her the whole time.

So you'd like to make your first date as successful as possible...

So you’d like to make your first date as successful as possible…

Chances are making the woman you’re on a first date with feel as comfortable and relaxed around you as possible is your ultimate goal.

Apart from helping you easily engage and keep her in a meaningful exchange of ideas as you go along, pulling this off also gets you on your way to convincing her to have another date with you.

But here’s the thing…

Unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” are saying these days, making a woman as comfortable and relaxed as she can during your first date isn’t about saying particular words or perhaps doing specific gestures.

Why not follow along to find out the mistakes I learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that can make a woman feel awkward and uncomfortable when you’re on a first date?

You show up late.

I know this sounds a bit simplistic right now, but arriving late for a first date gives the woman you’re out with the notion that you either have time management issues or you’re really not that interested in her.

This promotes the release of negative hormones that make her feel awkward and uncomfortable almost at once.

You didn’t plan your getup.

Women are very particular with your grooming on a first date and you can find yourself in a tricky situation if you just hastily grab whatever you can find in your closet on the big day (or night).

Plan your getup meticulously at least a couple of days before your first date to really make a good impression.

You assume rapport with her.

Although showing your date that you’re confident and friendly is a good way to give her the notion that she won’t have a tough time connecting with you, overdoing the whole is just going to lead to disaster.

Start slow and subtle as you can. Don’t get touchy-feely while you’re at it, too.

You break the ice with technical topics.

Now while we’ve previously discussed that women find intelligent men sexy, opening a conversation with something complicated and intricate will simply make her think that you’re trying too hard to give her the notion that you’re smart.

You’ll just end up looking like a blowhard in front of her. Ask open-ended questions instead and you will be surprised with the results.

You keep looking at your watch.

First, this makes her think that you’re bored and want to be somewhere else than being with her. Second, she’ll also assume that you’re not really interested in her right off the bat.

Come to think of it. Isn’t this going to end up in a very bad first date?

So you'd like her to open up to you on your first date...

So you’d like her to open up to you on your first date…

Exchanging meaningful ideas is perhaps the most crucial step when it comes to establishing a connection with a woman during a first date.

Besides getting to know her better, you’re also going to find out a few bits and pieces that you can use to your advantage when it comes to dazzling her as you go along.

Unlike what a lot of men mistakenly think, though, getting a conversation going with your date isn’t that tricky to pull off.

I’ve picked up a few useful pointers here and there that can help boost your chances of really making her open up to you during your first date.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

Ask a very simple question.

Most guys believe that starting the ball rolling with something difficult and technical gives the woman they’re going out with the notion that they’re intelligent.

However, this move is just going to backfire before you know it.

Although it is true that women find smart as sexy, she’ll just think that you’re trying too hard when you do this.

Ask her a very simple question instead like what her favorite dessert is. You’ll be surprised with how much eager she’ll be to respond.

Go for trivial topics.

Like the previous pointer I shared, make it a point to go for the trivial stuff when you’re looking to make her open up to you.

There are actually countless ways to do this.

Besides asking her what the name of her first pet is, you can also ask her what TV series she’s following these days.

Maintain appropriate eye contact.

Not getting and maintaining appropriate eye contact with a woman when you’re looking to get a conversation going is a big no-no.

This is because she will just think you’re creepy.

If you’re like some guys who can’t get proper eye contact going, you can simply focus on the bridge of her nose to help you start things off.

Switch your phone to silent.

Doing this every few minutes will simply give the woman you’re out with the idea that you’re bored and not really into her.

And this can easily make her feel anxious, uncomfortable and awkward. Well, you already get the idea on how your first date will turn out.

Keep in mind to save those texts, tweets, status updates and similar stuff for later or else she’ll go mum on you.

This applies to your watch as well.