Is she still saying no to blowjobs?

Ah, blowjobs. I’m pretty sure that they’re definitely in your checklist when things get extra steamy between the sheets.

Besides making you experience a lot of pleasurable sensations, getting head from your lover is no doubt one of your biggest bedroom fantasies.

However, the problem is you’re still not convincing her to go down on you until now. This doesn’t mean that you won’t be getting a bout of oral sex from your partner, though.

Chances are the following reasons are keeping her from exploring south of your border during lovemaking…

No BJ Action Reason #1: She isn’t as sexually aroused as she should.

A woman’s sexual arousal directly affects the things she will be eager to take part in when things get hot in bed. If she’s not that fired up for action, she won’t be that enthusiastic to give the south of your border the TLC it deserves.

No BJ Action Reason #2: Your bedroom needs a bit of cleaning and organizing.

Like I’ve emphasized in an earlier post, your bedroom’s cleanliness can easily make or break her sexual arousal, which plays a key role in terms of convincing her to go down on you.

No BJ Action Reason #3: Your hygiene has to be taken up a notch.

Now here’s the thing…

If you’re looking to convince your partner to take things orally down there, you’ve got to look and smell really nice. Keep in mind to be very conscious of your hygiene (especially in your nether region) and your chances of getting a BJ are sure to become higher.

We’ve discussed this yesterday and you can check out the post here.

No BJ Action Reason #4: You’re not knocking her socks off when you give her oral sex.

Oral sex is basically a two-way street.

If you don’t make it a point to knock her socks off with an amazing round of cunnilingus when the two of you get busy in bed yourself, she won’t realize that the experience is both exciting and pleasurable.

So if you’d like your partner to give you oral action, take the lead and give her an experience she won’t forget anytime soon.

No BJ Action Reason #5: You beg her for head when you’re in the middle of sex.

A lot of guys mistakenly believe that asking for a blowjob from a woman simply involves pausing in the middle of lovemaking and gently nudging her head in the direction of your penis.

Now while this move may work in porn movies, it’s rather tricky to pull the whole thing off in real life. See, this just makes her feel rushed and awkward.

Make it a point to discuss it way before the action to prep her up properly.

So does she really like you? Let’s find out!

I’ll kick things off by pointing out that unlike what a lot of self-proclaimed “pickup artists” and “dating gurus” are saying, you won’t make a woman like you in an instant by putting some “techniques” into play.

Now we’ve got that out of the bag, let’s move on to a thing that a lot of guys tend to mistakenly believe. And there’s a chance that you believe in it, too.

A lot of men think that women are extremely tough to decode when it comes to knowing if they’re interested romance-wise.

However, this isn’t true.

Sure this may sound surprising, but women actually send out somewhat obvious cues when they’re really into a guy. So if you’re still having a tough time determining if a woman you like feels the same way about you, here are a few signs that you should keep in mind…

She is comfortable about stripping.

Now don’t get too excited over this. What I mean to say is that women tend to become a bit more outgoing than usual when they’re with a guy they like.

Some don’t even mind taking off articles of clothing like jackets and coats in front of a man they’re interested in. If this happens to you, just imagine the other things she won’t mind taking off for you if you play your cards right…

She mimics what you’re doing.

“Mirroring” is an activity seen among primates and mammals when they’re trying to attract another of their species as a mate. This is also something demonstrated by humans when they’re with someone they like. The next time you see a woman copying your mannerisms and movements, you can safely assume that she’s interested in you.

She seems to want to give your drink or food a try.

Asking another person to give your drink or food a taste is an unconscious sign that you have a certain affinity with him or her. The next time she invites you rather enthusiastically to give her glass of wine or pasta a try, this already gives you an idea how she feels about you.

She touches you intentionally.

Touching is an unconscious way of telling a person that you care. So if you’re getting a casual pat here and a caress there from her, chances are she is attracted to you. Make sure you don’t take advantage of this by trying to touch her all over or else she’ll have a change of heart sooner than you think.

She easily laughs at your antics or jokes.

Now while getting humor into play is a surefire technique to attract a woman, seeing one laughing at almost everything you say is a clear indication that she likes you. Just make sure not to overdo it though like popping an off-color joke or something similar since it can instantly ruin the mood.

She has a pronounced lean when you share something.

This is perhaps the most obvious sign that she likes you. Women unknowingly become more outgoing when they are attracted to a guy. Besides sitting or standing closer to you than usual, they also appear to be very interested about the subject being discussed.

However, I would just like to emphasize that it is still important to keep these crucial grooming tips in mind so you can really wow a woman.

Is it time to give your bedroom a thorough cleaning and organizing?

When was the last time you cleaned and organized your bedroom?

Sure that question may seem out of line now, but you’ll want to check out this post why it is crucial that you clean and organize your bedroom before we go on…

Now while this may sound surprising, research shows that women find it easier to become sexually aroused if they think that the bedroom they’re in is clean and organized when it comes to lovemaking.

Instead of successfully turning her on the next time you get frisky, neurological scientists from Atlanta discovered that a lot of women are more likely to feel stressed and uncomfortable if the bedroom they’re going to make love in is a mess.

This simply means that no matter how good you are at foreplay to make your lover hot and ready for action between the sheets, there is a very big chance that you won’t fully arouse her sexually if your bedroom is cluttered and just plain chaotic.

Now while it’s not uncommon for men to be less than devoted to cleaning and organizing their bedrooms, not doing just that can take a toll on your sex life sooner or later.

So if you’re still not convinced why you need to spend more time keeping your bedroom tidy and organized, here are a few good reasons why you should have it on your regular schedule immediately…

You’ll have a tough time warming her up.

As I have pointed out earlier, women are not wired to get completely sexually aroused when they feel stressed or anxious even a bit. Unlike guys that can rise to the occasion at the drop of a hat, women simply need to feel extremely relaxed during lovemaking.

Although there is a possibility that sex can still happen between the two of you, you will easily notice that she won’t be as lubricated or responsive while you’re at it.

You will end up making her feel trashy.

Women are very critical with nasal and visual cues. In short, how you exert effort to look and smell good around them can either make or break your chances of actually getting them between the sheets.

The more you look and smell awesome, the more valuable they feel to you. The same logic goes for your bedroom. Sure she may be your lover, but how do you think she will feel if you try to have sex with her in a messy place?

You will just inadvertently spike her anxiety levels.

Let’s start with the most important reason of all. Women can’t fully become sexually aroused if they feel anxious or uncomfortable. As long as your lover feels that something isn’t right, like the dirty clothes you have on the floor or the dusty drapes, you won’t be getting her wet and wild anytime soon.

Blow her mind during sex when you remember these tips.

Making her reach the Big O should be the top priority when you’re going at it in bed. Just think of the good things that you’ll be in for if her mind gets blown every time you make love.

Apart from knocking her socks off as you go along between the sheets, convincing her to have a go at it in bed again won’t be that tricky.

Sure you may already have a few tricks up your sleeve when it comes to making your partner cum in the bedroom, but I’ve come across some useful pointers during my extensive research into the female sexuality that you’ll surely find interesting.

So if you’re looking to really knock her socks off the next time the both of you are at it, make sure you follow along…

Make her initiate where the action goes.

Although you may be the one initiating the action in the bedroom, make it a point to have her call the shots once in a while. Apart from making her more sexually adventurous, she’ll also lead you to the spots that she wants to be stimulated while at it.

Don’t just go for the breasts and clitoris.

Sure a woman’s erogenous zones can produce pleasurable sensations when stimulated, but having a go at them every time you have a sex session will simply take away the excitement that they can set off.

Keep in mind to always go for a new erogenous zone or two when you’re looking to make her cum during sex. Besides keeping her on her toes, the pleasurable sensations she will feel are also going to be explosive.

Mix it up.

Although you may already have an arsenal of stimulation techniques to keep your lover on her toes during lovemaking, doing the same things over and over will just make the whole experience dull and flat for her in the long run.

Make it a point to always update your sexual playbook each time you’re at it to make it easier for her to have an orgasm.

Take her sexual arousal through the roof.

I know this sounds rather simplistic, but making your lover as sexually aroused as she can bolsters the amount of the positive hormones and neurotransmitters that are going to be released during lovemaking.

And the more positive hormones and neurotransmitters are released during the same, the easier it will be for your partner to reach the Big O during lovemaking.

Just to make things even more interesting, her erogenous zones like the breasts, clitoris and “treasure trail” will also become more sensitive in the process.