Man worrying about premature ejaculation

Premature ejaculation bothers a lot of men

If you’ve ever experienced premature ejaculation I’m sure you’ve wondered “why the heck is this happening?!”  Well, here’s why…

Premature ejaculation happens any time you go to have sex and you orgasm quicker than you would like to.

Some people like to put a specific time to it and say that 5 minutes or less is premature. But the fact is that it’s really down to what you (and the woman you’re with) feel is premature, and it just so happens the UK’s NHS agree with me on this in their article on Ejaculation Problems.

But the real question is – why does it happen?

Well there are many theories, but the bottom line is that premature ejaculation happens when you get too excited and over­-stimulated during sex.

Enjoying sex is amazing and I’m 100% for that, but if you get so mega-excited that you lose all physical control, then there’s little you can do to avoid blowing early.

So you’ve got to find the balance between excitement and control.

And the truth is you can have both in massive amounts.

It’s all about learning when to pull back your excitement so you can the long-term satisfaction and enjoyment of long lasting sex.

So to answer the original question “what is premature ejaculation?”

It’s really your body’s response to intense over-stimulation and excitement.

It happens when your body (and mind) experience so much physical pleasure that the only reasonable way for it to respond is with orgasm.

So if you want to last longer in bed you’ve got to learn to take control of the stimulation you experience during sex so you can enjoy fulfilling long lasting love making.

And if you want some dead simple strategies on how to do this, then check out this article on How To Last Longer In Bed.

Ever wished you could figure out what women REALLY thought about premature ejaculation?  Then read on…

I’ve written about this before in my post called Women’s Perspective On Premature Ejaculation, but today I want to take a different look at it.

And before I tell you what women truly think of premature ejaculation I want you to think about the answer to the age old question “what do women want?”

You see, as men we walk around all day living life through our own perspective and interpreting the actions of women through our own logic.

But the fact is that if you want to understand women then you can’t possibly hope to do that by projecting yourself onto them.

You have to get INSIDE their head.

And until then you’ll never be able to answer the question “what do women truly think of premature ejaculation?”

So how do you get inside their head?

Easy.

Go through some information written by women for women.

For example, go check out the Cosmopolitan website and read all the advice targeted for women.

After reading at least 10 of those articles or so your whole perspective of women will TRANSFORM.

You’ll never think about what “she’s thinking” the same way again.

But more importantly…

How does this relate to what women truly think of premature ejaculation?

Well, after you’ve really taken the time to understand women you’ll get this when I say this…

“Women don’t care about premature ejaculation as long as they feel 100% loved”

As dumb and as simple as it sounds if you can cut through all the B.S. and just express love and caring for her then she couldn’t care less if you don’t last long, because all she really wants is to feel loved.

But you have to mean it 100%.

(By the way – if you’re not at that stage in a relationship yet where you love each other then just focus on showing appreciation for her on a deep level)

You see, when a woman really feels loved (or appreciated) you’ll get an incredible reaction out of her.  And when you know you’re getting this great positive reaction out of her not only will she not care if you don’t last long, but chances are you’ll suddenly find yourself lasting longer anyway because you’ll feel a lot more confident and a lot less nervous (which are ESSENTIAL for lasting longer).

So if you want to make your woman happy then a great place to start is by showing her unconditional love and appreciation.

But if while showing her this love you ALSO want to last longer in bed then come check out this article now containing 3 premature ejaculation cures.

And drop me a comment below to show me you’re alive!

If you don’t already understand the impact of the way you masturbate on how long you last then you’ll want to watch this free video…

Because the fact is that how you masturbate can have a DRAMATIC effect on how long you last in bed.  And if you DON’T do what I highly recommend, then no matter how many other tricks, techniques or sex position you learn, premature ejaculation could be with you for life.

So check out this short video I just posted to youtube…

There are a lot of misconceptions and myths about sex floating around in the world and here’s how to avoid succumbing to them…

Now what inspired this blog post was an article I just read called 9 Sex ‘Rules’ To Break Tonight.

And the fact is that as we grow up and learn more about sex we tend to pick up and believe things about sex that are just plain wrong.

women keeping quiet

The truth about sex is often hard to figure out

And when we let these misconceptions and myths about sex run our sex lives they can cause some serious damage…

We can end up not enjoying sex or not being able to make our partner happy just because we have a false belief that doing a certain thing is wrong.

Let me give you a specific example…

One of the 9 sex myths featured in the article I mentioned was “porn is the enemy”.

Now I have mentioned in the past that I think when men copy the actions of male porn stars it doesn’t help their sex life.

But just watching it on the other hand I don’t personally think is a bad thing.

Especially if you do it as a couple during sex to make things more interesting.

In fact it’s a great way to add some variety and some excitement to the bedroom.

And most women will probably enjoy it if it’s presented to them in the right way.

The bottom line of what I’m trying to get across is to challenge your assumptions about sex.

Write down some of the beliefs you have about sex and take a moment to think about where they came from and if they’re really helping support you in having an incredible sex life.

It’ll make a world of difference.

But before you go watching a ton of porn during sex, take a moment to read this article on how to Prevent Premature Ejaculation, because it’ll give you some important warnings of how to NOT let porn influence you in a negative way.

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