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Is she still saying no to blowjobs?

Ah, blowjobs. I’m pretty sure that they’re definitely in your checklist when things get extra steamy between the sheets.

Besides making you experience a lot of pleasurable sensations, getting head from your lover is no doubt one of your biggest bedroom fantasies.

However, the problem is you’re still not convincing her to go down on you until now. This doesn’t mean that you won’t be getting a bout of oral sex from your partner, though.

Chances are the following reasons are keeping her from exploring south of your border during lovemaking…

No BJ Action Reason #1: She isn’t as sexually aroused as she should.

A woman’s sexual arousal directly affects the things she will be eager to take part in when things get hot in bed. If she’s not that fired up for action, she won’t be that enthusiastic to give the south of your border the TLC it deserves.

No BJ Action Reason #2: Your bedroom needs a bit of cleaning and organizing.

Like I’ve emphasized in an earlier post, your bedroom’s cleanliness can easily make or break her sexual arousal, which plays a key role in terms of convincing her to go down on you.

No BJ Action Reason #3: Your hygiene has to be taken up a notch.

Now here’s the thing…

If you’re looking to convince your partner to take things orally down there, you’ve got to look and smell really nice. Keep in mind to be very conscious of your hygiene (especially in your nether region) and your chances of getting a BJ are sure to become higher.

We’ve discussed this yesterday and you can check out the post here.

No BJ Action Reason #4: You’re not knocking her socks off when you give her oral sex.

Oral sex is basically a two-way street.

If you don’t make it a point to knock her socks off with an amazing round of cunnilingus when the two of you get busy in bed yourself, she won’t realize that the experience is both exciting and pleasurable.

So if you’d like your partner to give you oral action, take the lead and give her an experience she won’t forget anytime soon.

No BJ Action Reason #5: You beg her for head when you’re in the middle of sex.

A lot of guys mistakenly believe that asking for a blowjob from a woman simply involves pausing in the middle of lovemaking and gently nudging her head in the direction of your penis.

Now while this move may work in porn movies, it’s rather tricky to pull the whole thing off in real life. See, this just makes her feel rushed and awkward.

Make it a point to discuss it way before the action to prep her up properly.

So you’re still having a tough time getting rid of sexual performance anxiety…

Are you going through sexual performance anxiety blues? There’s no need to worry just yet, though.

There are a lot of guys who are experiencing the same thing the world over. And the thing is this issue can be completely get rid of.

Why not follow along to start getting rid of sexual performance anxiety so you can really wow your wife, girlfriend or lover the next time things steamy in the bedroom?

Now while this may sound surprising, a lot of guys don’t last long in bed than they’d like to because they simply think too much.

Overthinking before or during lovemaking only leads to one thing…sexual performance anxiety. And it can easily ruin your chances of giving your lover the sexual satisfaction she wants between the sheets.

Medical researchers in Michigan discovered that thinking too much can disrupt the flow of hormones that are responsible for orgasm. The brain normally receives ideal amounts of hormones from sexual arousal all the way through orgasm.

When a guy is experiencing sexual performance anxiety, the brain is flooded with an overload of hormones that instantly makes it go into overdrive. Instead of making you last longer during lovemaking and giving your partner an unforgettable time, you’ll only see yourself reaching orgasm prematurely and eventually ejaculating quicker than you’d like to.

Now that we’ve set that straight, there’s no need to worry just yet if you go through sexual performance anxiety now and then when things get hot in the bedroom. There are actually simple ways to fix it.

Here are a few useful pointers to help you get started in no time…

Remember that her pleasure is your top priority.

A lot of men get so affected with sexual performance anxiety that they forget that the easiest way to fix it is by concentrating more on their partners’ pleasure during lovemaking. The next time you get panicky during sex, just think about how you can give her the best sex ever and you’re sure to last longer while at it.

Limit your breathing to slow, long and spaced intervals.

Normal breathing is supposed to be slow, deep and spaced at regular intervals. When you experience sexual performance anxiety, your breathing becomes quicker and shallower. Although you will feel sexual tension when things get hot in bed, things will be different when sexual performance anxiety gets into the picture. Besides jacking up your blood pressure level a bit too high, your pulse rate will also surge higher than usual. This will result to an unexpected adrenaline rush, which can lead to premature ejaculation.

Think about baseball. Yes, you read it right.

The biggest mistake you’ll ever make when sexual performance anxiety creeps up on you is to let it get hold of you completely. The moment you feel anxious even a bit, distract yourself…like thinking about baseball.

There are a lot of ways to do this. For starters, you can pull this off by either thinking about a happy memory or mentally transporting yourself to a favorite place. Thinking about your favorite meal or TV show helps, too.

She’s sure to have her mind blown with these massaging tips…

Unlike what most guys mistakenly think, massages aren’t just for relieving stress and getting rid of knots in aching muscles.

You can also use them to warm up a woman for lovemaking if you just know how to pull it off. And the good news is it isn’t as complicated as you may have previously thought.

So if you’re looking to take your lover’s sexual arousal levels off the charts the next time you do magic with your fingertips, here are a few pointers that you should keep in mind…

Get her mood going with the right playlist.

Music can easily improve your lover’s mood during a massage. Choose tunes that are slow, easy and provocative. Besides allowing her to feel totally relaxed and tranquil, hearing sexy music will also make her think about erotic things between the sheets – making it even easier for you to get the job done.

Grab some scented candles to make her feel more comfortable.

Having scented candles on your checklist the next time you give your partner a massage is definitely a priority. Apart from adding a touch of daintiness that women love, scented candles also come with amazing aromas that make her feel calmer during the whole experience.

If you still can’t make up your mind which scented candles to go for, choose jasmine and chamomile. They don’t just have a soothing effect, but also smell awesome. Fruity variants like apple, cherry and peach are also available, too.

Go the extra mile and clean and organize your bedroom while at it, too.

Go for areas near her sexy zones.

Just to give her an idea that you’d like more than giving her a massage, make sure you stroke the muscles near her pelvis, thighs and lower back. Apart from occasionally brushing on your lover’s erotic parts, you can also easily gauge where you need to focus more simply by observing her reaction while doing so.

Look and smell like you’re a snack.

How you look and smell when you’re giving your lover a massage can easily make or break your chances of getting her sexually excited no matter how hard you try. Make it a point to prep up meticulously before getting into action.

Besides taking a shower and having a spritz of deodorant and cologne, it’s also a good idea to trim your fingernails while at it so your lover won’t be feeling any unintentional painful pinches and nips when she’s already getting all relaxed and cozy.

And the snack part? She might just forego the massage and get straight to the action.

Boost your chances of making her like you with these pointers.

A lot of guys mistakenly think that the best way of making a woman to like them is by showering her with lots of gifts and attention right from the beginning.

Now while this may sound like the most rational way to pull it off, you will only make her think that you just want something from her in return.

Like simply getting her in bed.

So if you’re looking to make a woman you’ve got your eyes on to like you soon, here are a few pointers that will help you do just that easily…

Respect should be your top priority.

Respect is a very important element if you’d like to connect with a woman on an emotional level. Show her that you respect her at all times and she’ll see you an adorable and likable guy. Just don’t overdo it or else she might think you’re only fit for the friend zone.

Make her feel that you always listen to her ideas.

If you’re following my posts for a long time now, you probably know that women have a soft spot for men who are great listeners. Apart from feeling that you really value their time, women also think that they can talk to you for very long without feeling bored or awkward in any way.

Moreover, no matter how dull her topics may be, never try to interrupt or manipulate the conversation your way. You’ll be surprised how much she’ll enjoy talking to you more.

Get to know the things that she is interested in or she loves doing.

Making a woman connect with you emotionally involves having to share a common ground with her, which makes establishing an emotional connection with her much easier. Make it a point to learn the things that spark her interest, match them up with the stuff you like and work from there.

Whether it’s books, movies or sports, letting her know that you complement the things that hold a special place in her heart can easily earn you a lot of brownie points with her. Just remember not to lie or pretend even a bit while you’re at it because she won’t have a problem seeing through your ruse and then it’s game over.

Make her feel that you want to be a friend.

Instantly hitting it off with a woman is only something you see on TV or in the movies. Before you can successfully make her like you, building a personal relationship with her should be a priority.

Start off by making her your friend. Introduce yourself to her properly so she won’t just see you as some creepy stranger. Make her see you as someone likable. Keep in mind to avoid acting like somebody you aren’t since she’ll only see you as a pretentious creep while at it as well.