Unlike what a lot of so-called “pickup artists” are saying, acing a first date isn’t something that you pull off by just following a few magic pointers.
During my extensive research into the female psychology, there is no truth behind the tips that these people recommend and may even lead to disaster if they are followed.
Perhaps the most ridiculous of these pointers include wearing loud clothes to give the woman you’re on a date with the notion that you have a “colorful personality” as well as acting like the alpha male to make her think that she should only focus on you.
However, I’ve come across a few mistakes that some men tend to overlook that can ruin their chances of having a successful first date. Make sure you read on to find out what these are and boost your chances of landing Date Number 2…
You show up late.
I’d like to start things off with punctuality. Sure being late for 5 minutes or so isn’t that big of a deal for you, but showing up late on a first date is definitely one of the biggest mistakes that you’ll ever make.
Besides giving the woman you’re going out with the idea that you’re not really interested in her, she’s also going to have doubts about your personality as a guy.
She will think that you’re lazy and irresponsible, which isn’t going to earn you precious first date brownie points anytime soon.
You don’t keep a close eye on your grooming.
How you look and smell are two key factors that women tend to focus on almost immediately during a first date.
If your date thinks that your physical appearance isn’t that good or perhaps you smell a bit off, chances are she’s just going to feel anxious and uncomfortable around you.
You hog the discussion.
Getting your date to exchange meaningful ideas with you is important when it comes to making her feel more relaxed around you.
Make it a point to listen to her intently when she’s giving her inputs or else she will think that you’re monopolizing the discussion and will have a surge of negative hormones in her body.
This just means that she will clam up and you’ll have a tricky time turning the situation around in your favor.
You get too touchy-feely.
Now while it’s alright to use gestures to emphasize a point you’re making when you talk, overdoing the whole thing will just give your date the notion that you’re getting too frisky.
Remember to keep your hands to yourself and you’re good to go.