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Looking to ace a first date? Check this out.

Looking to ace a first date? Check this out.

Now here’s the situation…

You have finally convinced the woman you’ve got your eye on to say yes to go on a first date with you.

However, you think you need a bit of brushing up with the essentials to do to pull the whole thing off with flying colors.

Instead of believing the stuff so-called “dating gurus” tell people like wearing loud clothes to look alpha male and using racy pickup lines, here are a few realistic and practical pointers you need to keep in mind to make the experience awesome for you and your date…

Plan your date.

A nice date doesn’t just happen out of the blue like you see in the movies. It actually needs considerable planning to pull off and you’re sure in for disaster sooner or later if you leave everything to chance.

Apart from carefully choosing the venue of your first date so you’ll make her feel comfy and relaxed, going the extra mile and making it a point to know details like her food and drink preferences gives you extra advantage as well.

Switch off your phone.

You need to have all of your attention on the woman you’re out with on a date the whole time. Unless you do this, she might feel you’re not interested in her at all or you’re simply a lousy date.

Make sure you save the texts, emails, tweets and status updates for later.

Keep an eye on your hygiene.

How you look and smell during a first date is basically one of the biggest factors if a woman will go out with you again or not.

Keep in mind that not smelling good and looking your best already gives her the notion that you’re not such an ideal date right off the bat. So make sure you take a meticulous shower and pick nice clothes before your date.

It’s also smart to give your teeth and gums TLC as well as making your shoes spic and span while at it. Now while this may sound surprising, women are very particular with footwear and she might have the wrong impression if your shoes need a bit of cleaning when you arrive.

Save the alcohol for later.

No matter how much you’re tempted to enjoy your favorite brew on a first date, keep your hands off the stuff.

Sure a lot of guys mistakenly believe that a few shots can steady their nerves and make them feel more confident, but it actually affects the way you interact with your date in a negative way.

Premature ejaculation affecting your sex life? Check this out.

Premature ejaculation affecting your sex life? Check this out.

A long-time HowToLastLongInBed.com reader emailed me this morning asking why he seems to be coming too quickly whenever he and his lover get busy between the sheets these days.

He shares that he didn’t have this problem earlier and besides being rather embarrassing for his partner, it is also quite frustrating for the both of them since he couldn’t seem to give her the sexual satisfaction she wants.

The sender also added that he is on the brink of getting his hands on creams, pills and other stuff that claim to fix the problem.

However, there’s no need to grab those things that will most likely result to more negative effects than positive ones sooner or later. Let me key you in on a few simple (and very natural) pointers that can help you keep clear of premature ejaculation…

Relax!

I know this sounds rather simplistic, but making it a point to relax as much as you can when you and your partner are already getting frisky in the bedroom is one technique that can help you extend your bedroom playing time.

Overdoing it on the whole sexual excitement only forces your brain to churn out mood-altering hormones in the body. And when this happens, the entire sexual process speeds up and you’ll just find yourself reaching the point of no return much earlier than expected.

Have foreplay breaks.

Keeping in mind to have a foreplay break from time to time when you’re already in action is one way to prevent coming too quickly during lovemaking. It’s a simple as pausing to tease her with a bit of foreplay after a few thrusts.

You can either go down on your lover or stimulate her erogenous zones with tickles, kisses and caresses. It’s totally up to you which technique you’ll go for.

This gives your body a chance to “reset” the process that is in motion when you’re already sexually penetrating your partner, which easily means you won’t be in for a case of premature ejaculation out of the blue.

Keep a close eye on your sexual peak.

Your body is naturally wired to kick off orgasm and make you ejaculate as soon as your sexual peak reaches its limit. If you just have a way of controlling your sexual peak, then it won’t be that tough to steer clear from premature ejaculation.

And one easy method to pull off this one is to focus on your partner’s pleasure as you go along. Allowing yourself to simply get carried away and let your sexual peak go through the roof will surely lead to disaster sooner or later.

So she's not that excited for action in bed anymore...

So she’s not that excited for action in bed anymore…

So here’s the situation…

You’re simply noticing that your lover isn’t that excited for action between the sheets these days.

Apart from finding it tricky to warm her up in bed, you also observe that it’s taking longer for her to reach the Big O even if you’re already putting your sexual A-game in action.

Sure this may look rather alarming, but there’s still no need to worry just yet. Chances are you’re simply neglecting a few lovemaking essentials that are disrupting with your partner’s sexual arousal.

Make sure you follow along to find out more…

You’re not keeping a close eye on your hygiene.

At its simplest, looking after your personal hygiene is a key factor when it comes to making your partner excited for a bout of action in the bedroom.

This is because her body won’t produce the feel-good hormones needed to get her sexually aroused. Regardless of what your sexual strategy is, you will only end up making her feel anxious and impatient if you push on with your techniques.

Apart from making sure you get rid of any excessive and unwanted facial hair, you should keep in mind to take regular showers, splashing on deodorant as well as giving your teeth and gums that care they need to pull this off.

Your bedroom is a complete mess.

I know this sounds a bit odd, but not making your bedroom as spic and span as you can lead to problems when it comes to getting your partner hot and ready in the bedroom.

See, a woman’s body has to be totally relaxed for it to become adequately sexually aroused.

If your lover is distracted or annoyed when you’re trying to heat things up between the sheets, chances are she will take very long to feel sexy or perhaps find it extremely difficult to get in the mood at all.

Your sexual techniques are repetitive.

A woman’s brain is highly active even during sex.

Interestingly, it keeps tracks of all the things that the body experiences in the process. If it thinks that the sensations the system is going through are rather redundant, it reduces the amount of pleasure they give sooner or later.

Make it a point to mix things up when you’re getting busy with your lover in the bedroom. Never focus on the same erogenous zones or perhaps stick to the same techniques when you’re at it.

Keep in mind to surprise her with new moves each time you two get frisky and you’ll just be surprised with the results.

So you'd like to make anal sex more pleasurable for her...

So you’d like to make anal sex more pleasurable for her…

And you’ve finally convinced your lover to give anal sex a try…

The thing is your partner doesn’t find it as pleasurable as she expected and there’s a chance she will drop anal sex from your lovemaking checklist completely if you don’t fix the whole thing fast.

Luckily, you’ve come to the right place and I’ll share a few useful pointers on how to do just that without a hitch when you follow along…

Prep up your bedroom meticulously.

Sure this may sound surprising, but really giving your lover the anal sex pleasure she’s always wanted starts with the way you prep up your bedroom.

See, the state of your bedroom means a great deal to your partner since it is plays a key role in her sexual arousal. If she thinks your bedroom is clean and organized, you won’t find it tricky to get her in the mood for anal action and make her enjoy it.

If she thinks the whole thing is messy…well, you’re definitely going to have a difficult time getting things on the right track. A bit of cleaning and organizing in a regular basis will go a very long way.

Don’t be pushy.

Unlike regular vaginal sex, anal sex is something that may be rather new to your lover. So the idea of getting it on with her in the backdoor may take a bit of getting used to for her part.

Never sound bossy or pushy while you’re at it or else she won’t warm up to the whole thing no matter how hard you try. Be very patient and don’t rush your partner if she’s still not up to it. Better yet, let her call all the shots the whole time to pick up the pace on her sexual arousal.

Stock up on a lot of lube.

You can’t have anal sex without the appropriate lubrication. And don’t just settle for a handful or two. If you’re looking to really make your lover enjoy anal sex more, grab twice the amount than you think you’ll need.

And go for the water-based variety to keep clear from feeling rather sticky while you’re at it.

Take things slow and easy.

No matter what you do, keep in mind that taking things slow and easy is the way to go when it comes to anal sex.  Going full speed ahead will simply ruin the mood for her in almost no time.

So unless she tells you to pick up the pace, better stick to slow and easy.