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Want to last longer during lovemaking? Check out these simple tips.

Want to last longer during lovemaking? Check out these simple tips.

When it comes to lovemaking, I’m pretty sure that lasting long in bed is the top item on your sexual to-do list.

Apart from making sure that you’ve pleasured your partner like she’s always wanted when you two get the action going between the sheets, it’s also a nice way to make the most out of the sensations you’ll receive while doing so.

Unlike what a lot of men mistakenly think though, lasting long during sex isn’t something complicated. It also doesn’t require any artificial means to pull off like creams, pills and similar products that can possibly do more harm than good when used.

If you’re looking to extend your bedroom playing time when you and your lover get frisky, here are a few useful (and natural) tips to keep in mind…


At its simplest, sexual arousal is the result of a rush of mood-altering hormones in the body. These hormones basically control everything from getting a strong erection to giving you an orgasm to top the whole thing off with a blast.

However, something happens when you become too anxious during sex. The brain stimulates the endocrine glands to let loose stress hormones that speed up the sexual arousal process, which means you’ll have an orgasm and ejaculate quicker than you’re supposed to.

The next time you and your partner get busy between the sheets, remember to relax and take it easy and you’ll be fine.

Focus on her pleasure.

Concentrating on your partner’s pleasure makes you think more of how you can give her a mind-blowing sexual experience. Simply thinking about your own pleasure while at it makes you more conscious of the sensations you’re experiencing and you’ll tend to go off the least you expect it.

Now while I don’t mean to scare you, overlooking to focus on her pleasure can even lead to her having difficulty reaching the Big O during sex.

And since all of your attention is on her sexual pleasure, chances are your lover will surely have an orgasm when you do this. You can even do it lots of times if you play your cards right. How’s that for a win-win situation?

Slow down.

Speed is a key factor when it comes to premature ejaculation. See, orgasm is reached when the number of hormones in the body reaches its peak. This sends a message to the brain that you’re already in the clear for an orgasm.

If you sexually penetrate your partner at a moderate pace, you can be able to control how much stimulation your penis gets and avert any risks at ejaculating prematurely. When you get fast and furious while at it…

Well, you already know where it is going. Keep things slow and easy and you’re going to last longer when the action starts.

Contrary to popular belief, it IS really easy to be more confident around women.

Contrary to popular belief, it IS really easy to be more confident around women.

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are you’d like to give women the notion that you’re a very confident man because confidence is pure sexy to them.

However, unlike what a lot of men mistakenly believe, doing just that isn’t something complicated at all. And you shouldn’t believe the things a lot of “dating gurus” say like wearing loud outfits as well as saying certain words can help you pull this off without a hitch.

I discovered a few interesting pointers that can help you feel and act more confident during my extensive research into the male psychology though. So make sure you read on to find out what these are…

Hygiene comes first.

Sure this may sound rather cliché, but keeping a close eye on your hygiene is a very important factor when it comes to boosting your confidence levels. As it turns out, making hygiene a priority sets off something amazing inside your body.

See, when you smell and look great, the brain spikes up the number of feel-good hormones in the system. Apart from making you feel livelier, it also makes you more receptive and friendlier during social interactions.

This is because you won’t be as anxious and worrisome when being around women or perhaps going out with a woman you’ve got your eye on for a very long time. So make it a habit to make yourself look and smell good as much as you can and you’re on the right track.

Pick comfortable clothes and shoes you’d like to wear.

It is not true that there are only certain outfits that help you feel confident around women. Interestingly, anything that is decent and comfortable can be worn to help you do just that. You don’t have to follow the advice of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” that will only make you look ridiculous.

There are some so-called gurus who recommend wearing the loudest, most eye-catching apparel during social interactions since they make you appear strong and a go-getter, much like the alpha male of the pack. Well, I think that’s simply silly.

Make it a point to keep accessories at a minimal, too. A watch and cuff link combo should do the trick. Don’t forget to give your shoes a meticulous cleaning before you meet and greet women as well since they can easily make or break a date.

Put on a smile.

Did you know that the simple act of smiling is the most effective ice breaker ever? Make it a habit to flash your pearly whites when socializing with women and you’ll give them the notion that you are an OK guy to hang out with.

Stop worrying about your upcoming first date and read this.

Stop worrying about your upcoming first date and read this.

Going on a first date is something a lot of guys dread because they mistakenly think that they’ll blow it because it’s something really complicated.

Now while I am not saying that acing a first date is a breeze, you can easily raise your chances of pulling it off if you know a few mistakes that can hinder you from doing just that. Make sure you follow along to learn more…

Don’t wing it.

Unlike what a lot of guys believe, having a fantastic first date isn’t about luck. It’s actually about how much planning you put into it. Relying purely on chance easily puts the outcome of your first date at risk of becoming a disaster sooner or later.

Make it a point to get the details of your first date straightened out before the big night (or day, depending on when you’ll have it). Take care of the venue, the food you’ll have and the activities you’ll do while at it.

You will also show your date that you’re not just responsible and trustworthy, which are strong attributes women love, but also decisive. How’s that for starting things off with a bang?

Don’t be too submissive.

Sure you’d like to give the woman you’re out with the notion that you are agreeable to start building an emotional connection with her, but overdoing the whole thing can make her feel that you’re just manipulating her so you’d appear likable.

From another point of view, there is also a possibility that she will see you as a guy who can’t stand up for yourself, which is easily a no-no in a woman’s dating book.

Remember that it’s alright to express your ideas when engaging in a conversation with your date even if they’re conflicting with hers. Just keep things light and fun while at it though and you’ll be okay.

Don’t be too generous with your compliments.

Although it’s not a secret that women like to be complimented, overdoing it can be rather annoying to your date. See, once a woman feels that your compliments are piling up like crazy, her brain immediately sends out messages to the endocrine glands to release stress hormones.

And when this happens, your date will become more anxious and rather uncomfortable being with you.

Always remember to keep your compliments genuine and just mention the ones that you really like, too. There’s no point complimenting your date about something you don’t really like about her, right?

Here are a few good reasons why you should not abuse alcohol...

Here are a few good reasons why you should not abuse alcohol…

If you’ve been following HowToLastLongInBed.com for a while now, you’ve probably come across my posts about moderately consuming alcohol as a rather tasty way to boost heart health and improve your sexual performance.

However, making it a habit to drink one too many servings of your favorite brew can easily lead to problems between the sheets. Make sure you follow along to learn the negative effects of excessive alcohol consumption that can be a hassle during lovemaking.

Alcohol can sap your sex drive.

Now while having a serving or two of your booze of choice when you’d like to unwind won’t lead to sexual issues immediately, consuming a lot of it at one time sets off a very common result that you may have had experienced once or twice already.

And this effect is called a hangover.

Apart from making you feel very weak and sick, a hangover also causes terrible bouts of headache and tired muscles. If you’re feeling like this, would you still have the drive to get things hot and steamy in bed with your lover?

Alcohol can prevent you from enjoying sex altogether.

During my extensive research into the male sexuality, I’ve discovered that having too much to drink lots of times can stop particular parts of the nervous system from functioning ideally. And what’s scary about this is these parts of the nervous system that control sexual function.

Again, this effect only surfaces over time, which can suddenly manifest the least you expect it. This isn’t something that happens instantly. Isn’t that frightening when you go through this when you and your partner start to get busy between the sheets?

You can easily miss out on key sexual functions from getting a stable erection to experiencing the pleasurable sensations during lovemaking. Just remember to keep the portions you’re drinking moderate and you’ll be fine.

Alcohol can limit the flow of blood in the body.

Blood plays a key role when it comes to sexual function. Apart from helping you get rock hard and keep you that way until orgasm is achieved, it also helps take the sensitivity of the erogenous zones up a notch so you will enjoy every second of it.

Consuming lots of alcohol in one sitting stimulates your kidneys and bladder to release a substantial amount of water, which is needed by the blood vessels to stay flexible and stretchy to do their jobs properly.

When these blood vessels lose their flexibility, blood won’t be able to flow ideally to where they are supposed to go, particularly during sexual arousal. And when that happens, your erections could be at risk of fizzling out sooner than you’d like.