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When it comes to oral sex, here are a few things to keep in mind...

When it comes to oral sex, here are a few things to keep in mind…

Unlike what a lot of guys mistakenly think, giving your lover an unforgettable time when you are giving her oral sex isn’t just about making a beeline for her genitals and stimulating them as fast as possible.

There are actually a few key things to keep in mind to really make the experience amazing for your partner. So if you’re looking to really wow her the next time you get down to business, here are some tips to help you pull off just that easily…

Get her in the mood first.

Sure stimulating her nether regions may be one of the most pleasurable experiences a woman can go through when things get hot in the bedroom, but you won’t be able to give her just that during oral sex if she isn’t totally in the mood for lovemaking.

Getting in the mood means her brain is ideally producing and releasing mood-altering hormones her body needs to prep up for lovemaking. These hormones basically set off the changes in her system to make sex pleasurable for her.

This can be achieved by kissing her passionately, stimulating her erogenous zones and using mental images like sending her naughty messages on her email or cellphone to make her feel sexy. Play your cards right and she will be in the mood sooner than you think.

Easy does it.

Now while the female body is really responsive when it comes to sexual arousal, a woman’s erogenous zones, particularly the clitoris, need time to get ready before they can be stimulated and produce pleasurable sensations.

If you stimulate these erogenous zones before they are completely ready, they will just feel tender and raw, which goes to say that she won’t be feeling good anytime soon when you do this.

Here’s a cool tip though. You can easily know if the clitoris is ready for stimulation if it swells up noticeably. As for the vagina, you’ll know it’s good to go if it’s already moist. Remember to take things slow and easy and you’re on your way to giving your lover an amazing oral sex session.

Listen to her.

A lot of guys think that they are already very familiar with their lovers’ sexual preferences that they don’t listen to them anymore. Interestingly, it’s only your partner who can really ascertain if she’s having a great time during oral sex or not.

Make it a point to listen to your lover if she wants things to go faster or slower. Ask her how she wants it as you go along, too.

A few first date tips you should keep in mind...

Here are a few first date tips you should keep in mind…

If you’re anything like most guys, chances are you’d like to score a lot of brownie points with the woman you’re out with during a first date. However, you won’t be able to pull off just that if you don’t get her to like you first.

Unlike what so-called “dating gurus” say though, there isn’t a magic word or mode of dressing that you can use to instantly establish an emotional connection with your date. However, I picked up a few useful tips during my extensive research into the female sexuality that can help you.

Pay close attention to how your shoes look.

Sure you may already know that making sure that you look and smell nice during a first date is perhaps the first thing on your checklist, but there’s one key factor that you should take into consideration when taking a woman out.

And this is women have a soft spot for footwear. Now while you don’t have to be very technical with the shoes you wear on your date, you just have to keep them as clean and presentable as you can.

Clean and presentable footwear gives a woman the notion that you’re not just keeping an eye on your hygiene, but also make her feel that you are responsible. How’s that for starting things off nicely?

Switch off your mobile phone.

A simple mistake a lot of guys make when it comes to first dates is checking their mobile phones every so often. A woman expects to have your full attention during a date and if you’re not doing that, she will feel that you just showed up there without really without having a genuine interest to meet with her.

Make it a point to switch off your mobile phone or any other gadget you have with you to fully concentrate on her. Save those tweets and posts for later. Apart from being able to communicate with her more efficiently, you will also make her feel that you are really interested in her.

(Here’s why you should listen to your date intently as well.)

Avoid crossing your arms across your chest.

In the perspective of a woman, seeing her date with his arms across his chest either means he is really bored or perhaps not liking the way things are going. When she sees this, chances are she’ll have stress hormones running in her body.

And when this happens, she’ll have trouble liking or getting close to you, which is really a big problem.

Want to get her going in bed faster? Check this out.

Want to get her going in bed faster? Check this out.

Compared to guys who can get ready for lovemaking at the drop of a hat, women need to be eased into it bit by bit or else they won’t be that eager to get in action between the sheets.

Now while there isn’t a technique that you can use to transform your partner into a sex-starved woman in an instant like what a lot of so-called “lovemaking gurus” say, there are simple ways to help you pick up the pace on her sexual arousal.

Make sure you read on to find out more…

Give your bedroom a meticulous cleaning.

Getting a woman relaxed is a priority if you’d like to make her sexually aroused. And one of the pet peeves that can easily make a woman feel stressed in almost no time is a messy bedroom. Your lover is going to have a spike in her stress hormone levels if she sees a more than usual amount of dust, clothes strewn around and disorderliness in your bedroom.

Make it a point to give your bedroom the cleaning and organizing it deserves regularly to really get your lover going in the bedroom. You can start by making your bed daily and adding a few items on your checklist as you go.

Do something exciting with her.

During my extensive research into the female psychology, I learned that the brain’s ability to produce and release mood-altering hormones that play a key role in getting her sexually aroused can be improved in a few simple techniques.

One of these techniques involve “conditioning” her brain to release ample amounts of mood-altering hormones by doing activities where they can be let loose easily like watching a scary movie or perhaps riding a Ferris wheel with her.

Once the brain optimizes its ability to get these hormones out, you’ll notice that she will get ready for sex faster than before.

Have her eat more fiber-rich foods in her regular diet.

Blood plays a key role in a woman’s sexual arousal. She won’t be able to get sufficiently lubricated down there or perhaps fully feel the pleasurable sensations when her erogenous zones are stimulated. So it’s important to keep blood flow optimal if you’re looking to really get her sexually aroused fast.

This can be easily done by loading up on a lot of foods that are rich in fiber like oatmeal, cabbage, cauliflower, berries, celery, squash, beans, mushrooms and oranges.

Here's a first date checklist you should give a once over...

Here’s a first date checklist you should give a once over…

I’m sure you’d like to impress the woman you’re out with on a first date. However, pulling off just that can be very tricky, no matter what a lot of self-proclaimed “dating gurus” say.

During my extensive research into the female psychology though, I managed to make a list of useful things to keep in mind that may help you boost your chances of dazzling a woman on your first date.

Read on to learn more…

Your hygiene is key.

First things first.

How you look and smell is a very important factor when it comes to impressing the woman you are out with. Not paying close attention to your hygiene gives her the notion that you’re irresponsible, which can lead to feelings of doubt if she should be dating you.

Just remember to take a meticulous shower, use deodorant, brush your teeth carefully, get rid of excessive facial hair as well as keep your fingernails short and clean. A spritz or two of a nice smelling yet gentle cologne or perfume also helps a lot.

Keep the discussion light and trivial.

A lot of guys mistakenly think that talking about intellectual stuff during a first date is a surefire technique to impress a woman. It will only give your date the notion that you are pretentious.

The best way to break the ice with the woman you are out with? Ask your date what her favorite book or movie is and she will start to open up. Steer clear from sensitive topics like politics and religion while you’re at it as well.

(You have to listen to her intently while you’re at it, too.)

Pick the right outfit.

I’m sure you’ve heard about the “peacocking” technique popularized by a “dating guru” that involves wearing outrageous and loud clothing to attract a woman’s attention. Well, that’s pretty ridiculous and you’ll only end up embarrassing your date.

Instead, choose an outfit that is carefully planned, but not over the top. Have it properly ironed as well to give yourself a snappy appearance. Now while it’s alright to put on jewelry and accessories, make it minimalist like a watch and cuff link combo to avoid looking that you’re simply trying too hard.

Don’t be late.

Being tardy even for a few minutes during a first date can make a woman feel that you’re not just into her or you think of her as someone dull and boring. Make sure you arrive earlier at the venue to keep things in check instead.