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So she's always like this when you want to have anal sex...

So she’s always like this when you want to have anal sex…

If you’re a guy reading this, chances are anal sex is in your bucket list of stuff to do in the bedroom with your lover.

However, you’re just noticing that your partner is not that hot on doing it in the backdoor when things get steamy between the sheets. There’s no need to worry just yet though.

You’re just probably making the following simple mistakes…

You’re not asking her nicely about it.

One of the biggest reasons why a lot of women don’t like the idea of having anal sex with their lovers is guys don’t ask them nicely about it. They tend to “accidentally” penetrate their partners sexually in the anus during lovemaking instead.

Come to think of it. If you put yourself in your lover’s place when that happens, would that move work? Well, you know what the answer would be. So it’s either you discuss it with her intently beforehand or don’t ever try to pull that off again.

Make it a point to discuss anal sex with her when you two still aren’t getting busy in bed. Tell her you’d like to try it once during lovemaking. If you play your cards right, she might even be game for it right then and there.

You’re not using the right lubricant.

There is a chance that you’ve already convinced your partner to have anal sex with you, but you blew it by not keeping one very important thing in mind…

The lubricant you are using is not the ideal one that is perfectly appropriate for anal sex. Rather than using a water-based one that keeps the skin moisturized and lubricated at the same time, you are going for an oil-based lubricant that easily promotes dryness.

And as an additional effect, it can irritate the skin and trigger a case of rash and similar issues. Make it a point to grab the right lubricant and you’re definitely good to go. Get a couple of bottles of it, too, since you are going to need a lot if you want the whole thing to be as smooth as possible.

You’re going too fast.

Anal sex is supposed to be slow and easy. It’s not something shown in porn movies that’s wild and crazy as soon as the action happens. Compared to the vagina, the anus needs more time to ease up during sex and it will only lead to disaster if you go at it fast and furious as soon as you get your chance.

Keep in mind that slow and easy does it all the time.

These mistakes can prevent you from getting that second date...

These mistakes can prevent you from getting that second date…

I’m pretty sure that scoring a second date is on top of your checklist when you’re taking out a woman you like for the very first time.

And unlike what a lot of so-called “dating gurus” are saying, there are no magic techniques that ensure that you’re going to do just that instantly.

However, apart from making sure that you look and smell good, I learned a few useful tips during my extensive research into the female psychology that may just help you boost your chances of convincing your date to go out with you again if you play your cards right.

Make sure you read on to learn what they are…

Don’t take the small details of your date for granted.

A successful date doesn’t just happen because you’re really lucky. A bit of planning goes a very long way to achieve this. It is really smart to take care of key details like the venue, knowing if she’s allergic to stuff as well as what her favorite foods and drinks are.

Come to think of it. Just winging the whole thing all the way will only lead to disaster sooner or later. Remember not to make it too fancy though to avoid giving her the notion that you are trying too hard to impress her.

Don’t go for serious topics when you have a conversation.

One of the things a lot of guys mistakenly believe is talking about something intellectual during a first date makes them look smart to a woman. Well, I don’t mean to burst your bubble, but it only does the opposite.

Keep in mind that picking trivial things to break the ice is the best option. Ask her about her favorite book or what her favorite movie is. Ask what her favorite dessert is or perhaps what her favorite activities during summer are.

Sure this may sound surprising, but simple things go a very long way during a first date conversation. In my opinion, the woman you’re taking out for the first time will gladly talk about stuff she is really familiar with than stuff you only think can earn you brownie points.

Don’t make her feel she bores you.

Listening to your date is very important if you’d like to convince her to go out with you again because it sets off a process in her body that makes her more comfortable with you. When she feels you are listening to her intently, her brain releases positive hormones.

These hormones take away her anxiety and nervousness about the whole thing. And when that happens, she will be more open and game with you, which easily means your chances of a second date have just become higher.

Here are some cool reasons why you should start an exercise regimen as soon as you can...

Here are some cool reasons why you should start an exercise regimen as soon as you can…

I received a very interesting email the other day from Alvin, a regular HowToLastLongInBed.com reader and he asks if exercise is important if he wants to satisfy his lover each time they get busy between the sheets.

Alvin adds that although he doesn’t sweat it out regularly, he thinks he’s still giving his partner the sexual pleasure she needs.

Now while I don’t mean to scare you, not having daily exercise in your schedule can lead to problems in bed sooner or later. Make sure you read on why you should start having an exercise regimen as soon as you can.

It strengthens your heart.

The heart is a vital organ that is very important when making love is concerned. This is because it supplies the erectile tissues in the penis with the sufficient amount of blood it needs to get a stable erection going.

And if these erectile tissues don’t get the blood they need, it’s either you will end up with a weak erection or perhaps stay soft the whole time. There is even a chance that you’re going to suddenly become limp in the middle of your sex session when this happens.

How’s that for disappointing for you and your lover?

You don’t have to start doing extreme workouts to keep your heart in great shape through exercise though. Kicking things off with slow jogging, brisk walking or perhaps biking already does the trick.

It improves circulation in your body.

As I have stressed earlier, blood is an important factor when it comes to getting and keeping a strong erection. This means keeping your body’s circulation is ideal if you’re looking to always satisfy your lover as soon as things get steamy in bed.

Exercising regularly optimizes blood flow in the system because it helps the channels where blood flows through like the blood vessels, veins and arteries stay naturally flexible. They usually become stiff over time, especially when you live a sedentary lifestyle.

Apart from keeping these blood channels supple and flexible, exercise also ensures that you won’t have to worry about high bad cholesterol levels that promote the development of plaque in them that can lead to stroke and cardiovascular problems in the long run.

It helps you last long in bed.

Come to think of it. Exercise basically helps you prevent yourself from getting too tired during sex before you really please your partner in bed. How would your lover feel if you suddenly run out of juice in the middle of your sex session?

Be sure to keep these anal sex tips in mind...

Be sure to keep these anal sex tips in mind…

So you were able to finally convince your lover to have anal sex with you…

However, there are a few very important things to keep in mind before you start getting busy to make sure that the experience is going to be as pleasurable for her as it is for you. Make sure you follow along to find out more.

Make her feel as relaxed as possible.

Relaxation is a key factor when it comes to making anal sex pleasurable for your partner. This is because she won’t be able to loosen her anus sufficiently so you can sexually penetrate it properly.

And things won’t go as they’re supposed to when this happens.

Apart from keeping your bedroom spic and span as well as maintaining ideal hygiene, you should also avoid sounding too bossy when you’re trying to get her fired up between the sheets or else things will only lead to disaster even before you got the action started.

Have a lot of lube ready.

Unlike the vagina that can produce its own lubrication, the anus needs a bit of help when doing just that. This is why you need to get your hands on a lot of lube before you start getting frisky to really make the experience pleasurable for her.

Keep in mind not to crimp up on the stuff as well. Apply the whole thing generously before and during your anal sex session. Make it a point to lube up every time you feel that things are not as smooth and slippery when you began.

Neglecting to do this can make her feel rather tender while at it. And you don’t want that to happen during anal sex since this raises the chances that she won’t be having backdoor action in her list of bedroom activities sooner or later.

Moreover, go for water-based lubricants instead of oil-based ones that can easily make the anus feel dry and sore with prolonged use.

Take things slow and easy.

When anal sex is concerned, going as slow and easy as you can is the way to go. This is because you are putting your lover at risk of having minute muscular rips in and around her anus, particularly in her sphincter muscle when you go fast and furious during the experience.

Make sure you ask your lover if you can take the speed and rhythm up a notch before doing so to ensure she won’t get hurt even a bit when doing it.