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Finding it tricky to get her ready for lovemaking these days? Check this out.

Finding it tricky to get her ready for lovemaking these days? Check this out.

If you’re anything like most men, chances are you can get ready for sex at the drop of a hat. However, women don’t get sexually aroused that way. They need to be eased into it or else things won’t get steamy in bed no matter how hard you try.

There’s no need to worry just yet if she’s not that receptive to your moves as usual these days. So if you’re looking to really get your lover going between the sheets, here are a few simple tricks that can easily make her want to get in action with you in the bedroom:

Spruce up your bedroom.

Now while this may sound surprising, not giving your bedroom the cleaning and organizing it truly deserves can prevent your partner from getting sexually aroused. As it turns out, women can find it tricky to fully relax if they think the place they’re in is quite messy.

Sure you may be wondering right now what relaxation has to do with sexual arousal, but her brain won’t be able to produce and release the right mood-altering hormones if she’s feeling distracted, anxious or tense.

This just means that if she thinks your bedroom needs a meticulous organizing or vacuuming, chances are she won’t be able to get ready for sexual action anytime soon. Make it a point to keep your bedroom spic and span and you’re definitely good to go.

Send her naughty messages.

Believe it or not, sending your lover a kinky text message or a saucy email can help boost your chances of making her sexually aroused. I’ve learned during my extensive research into the female psychology that women usually get ready for sex mentally and not visually like guys do.

It’s not that tricky to pull off, too. Simply send her messages that describe the things you’ll do to her, like the oral sex techniques you will use or perhaps the erogenous zones you will concentrate on, when you two get alone together.

Keep in mind to make them as graphic and vivid as you can to really get the job done. Don’t be afraid to really get your freak on when making them as well.

Give her chocolates.

Remarkably, chocolates contain compounds that help a woman’s brain churn out oxytocin and similar positive hormones that help her get in the mood for love easier and faster. If you want to heat her up for sex, make it a point to integrate chocolate into the meal you’re having. Munching on it for dessert is a smart option as well.

Here are a few tips to help you score a second date.

Here are a few tips to help you score a second date.

I’m sure that scoring a second date is your top priority when you take out a woman for the first time. However, unlike what so-called “dating gurus” say, there isn’t a magic bullet that can ensure the whole thing off in an instant.

Interestingly, there are actually simple tips you should keep in mind that can help you boost your chances of doing so. No need to do ridiculous things like “peacocking” and other silly stuff. Make sure you read on to find out more.

Take a long shower.

Sure this may sound rather simplistic, but there’s a more scientific reason why you should have a meticulous shower before showing up on a first date. As it turns out, it also stimulated the brain to release positive hormones that made you feel more confident, comfortable to mingle and happier.

And since women are also critical with a guy’s appearance and smell during a first date, this tip is sure to help you get on the right track in no time at all. Make sure you take it up a notch by putting on deodorant, picking a smart outfit as well as getting rid of excess facial hair.

Now while it’s perfectly fine to accessorize, like wearing a watch or jewelry, just remember not to overdo it or else you will look trying too hard to impress her.

Have the right conversation topics.

Engaging your date in a conversation is a key factor when it comes to establishing an emotional connection with her. And the first thing to remember when talking with her is to choose the right topics, since picking out the wrong ones can prematurely end your conversation sooner than you’d like to.

Go for trivial things like her favorite books, movies and cartoon characters. Although these topics may be trivial, they can easily get her talking and be more comfortable sharing personal information with you. (Plus, you can also learn a few things that you can use to dazzle her even more during your date if you just listen to her closely.)

Drink moderately.

Making it a point to keep an eye on the booze you’re downing during your first date is a priority to steer clear of any untoward incidents that can take place if you’ve had one too many. Apart from inadvertently saying or doing something you don’t really mean to.

And when that takes place, it’s definitely going to be game over with your date, which is something you don’t want to happen, do you?

Here are a few tips to know if she is really ready for lovemaking...

Here are a few tips to know if she is really ready for lovemaking…

If you’re a guy reading this, chances are you find it tricky to determine if your lover is really ready for action between the sheets from time to time.

(Come to think of it, you only have to zero in on a single body part to know if a man is prepped up for sex.)

And quite interestingly, it’s not that sexy for a woman when you immediately make a beeline for her genitals just to see if she’s already in the mood for lovemaking.

However, there are some tell-tale signs that can easily give you an idea if your partner is truly fired up for lovemaking. Make sure you read on to learn what they are and figure out without a hitch if she’s really up for a sex session in no time.

Her skin becomes redder and more sensitive.

During sexual arousal, the brain stimulates the endocrine glands to pump out certain hormones that cause key changes in the human body. One of these major changes is making the skin more sensitive to the touch because these hormones intensify the sensations it can perceive several times more than usual.

Moreover, blood flow is also increased in her system, which results to her skin taking on a more reddish tinge. Some women can also have scattered red spots in and around their erogenous zones like the neck, breasts and back of the neck.

Her breathing gets faster and shallower.

Because of the surge of mood-altering hormones let loose in her system, your partner’s breathing changes when she is genuinely sexually aroused. Perhaps the best way to describe it is she seems to be in the middle of a low-impact workout like a slow jog or a moderate spin on a bike.

This happens because the body experiences a spike in heart rate, which sends a more than usual amount of blood in the body, resulting to an increase in oxygen intake. This normally becomes faster and shallower as you two go along getting at it in the bedroom, too.

The change in breathing pattern also has a more sensual purpose. It picks up the pace on the sending of neural messages that are translated into pleasurable sensations the moment they reach the brain.

Her nipples become erect.

Due to the increased flow of blood in your lover’s system, her nipples tend to become firm and erect when she is really sexually aroused. They get harder than usual and will feel more resilient when stimulated.

There is also a similar effect to the clitoris when this takes place. The head of the clitoris becomes swollen and feels firmer than it normally is.

Now we’ve got that covered, you should eat this if you want to become a better lover.

Last longer in bed naturally with these simple pointers...

Last longer in bed naturally with these simple pointers…

So you’re looking to extend your bedroom playing time when things get hot between the sheets…

Unlike what a lot of men mistakenly think, doing just that isn’t that tricky at all. And you don’t need to get your hands on creams, pills and other artificial means to last long in bed.

Make sure you read on to find out a few simple ways to pull it off using natural methods and without a fuss as well.

Stop worrying about coming too soon.

Now while this may sound rather surprising, being too anxious about prematurely ejaculating during sex will raise your chances coming sooner than you’d like to. This is because worrying too much promotes the release of stress hormones that disrupt the whole sexual arousal process.

Apart from making it a bit tricky for blood to flow to the erectile tissues in the penis to firm it up, stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline also distort the sending of neural messages to the brain, which can either speed up orgasm or perhaps make your erection fizzle out in the middle of the action.

Make sure you relax and just enjoy the whole thing when you and your lover are at it or else you’ll simply find yourself blasting off in no time at all. Or go through the dreaded softie syndrome.

Take things slow and easy.

Sure this may sound simplistic, but toning things down when you and your partner are getting down and dirty in bed is one of the simplest ways to prevent coming too quickly. The brain basically stimulates the reproductive system to get an orgasm going by the transfer of pleasure signals it receives during sex.

The moment it detects that the pleasure signals are off the charts, the brain stimulates the reproductive system to trigger an orgasm, which is followed by ejaculation. The thing is the slower you thrust, the slower these pleasure signals are transmitted to the brain, prolonging your sex session while at it.

Plus, this also means you’ll give your partner the sexual satisfaction she wants since women need a longer time to get in the zone, unlike men that can do it at the drop of a hat.

Don’t forget oral sex.

Pleasuring her orally is one way that you can give her sexual satisfaction without risking that you’ll go off unexpectedly. Keep in mind to shift from thrusting to oral sex every few minutes or so. Apart from prolonging your lovemaking session, it’s also not that tough to give her mind-blowing orgasms in the process.