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So you're not getting as hard as usual these days...

So you’re not getting as hard as usual these days…

If you’re anything like most men, chances are getting a strong erection when things get steamy between the sheets is a top priority in your sexual checklist.

However, the problem is you just find yourself not getting hard as usual when you and your lover are at it in the bedroom these days. And here are a few possible reasons why you’re going through it:

You have a bad tooth.

When it comes to keeping clear from weak erections, making sure you take good care of your oral health should be on your daily list of activities. Now while this may sound crazy, but having tooth decay and gum problems can affect your ability to get hard during sexual arousal.

Having oral health issues allows bad bacteria in the mouth to breach the blood vessels in the oral region and can disrupt the normal flow of blood in them, even preventing it from reaching the erectile tissues in the penis.

And when this happens, you can expect to only have a weak erection no matter how hard you try. Or worse, not have an erection at all. Brushing and flossing daily as well as visiting the dentist regularly helps you stave off oral problems without a fuss.

You are overstressed.

Although it is quite normal to feel stress in your life, going through excessive amounts of it at once can easily affect your ability to get rock hard on demand when you and your lover get frisky in the bedroom.

This is because the positive hormones that trigger key changes in your body, particularly oxytocin and serotonin, are nullified by their negative counterparts, namely cortisol and adrenaline.

Just to give you an idea what these negative hormones can do, adrenaline and cortisol basically make you feel anxious and restless instead of getting ready for lovemaking when things get hot in bed. How horrible is that?

You are eating too much junk food.

Sure enjoying your favorite brand of chips and similar edibles from time to time is perfectly fine, making them a part of your regular diet can lead to an increase in sodium, bad cholesterol as well as a number of harmful toxins from artificial ingredients and preservatives that can wreak havoc on your erections in the long run.

Make it a habit to have as much fruits and vegetables in your diet. Avoid too much oily and sugar foods and beverages while you are at it, too.

Here are a few reasons why she's not getting really wet during sex these days.

Here are a few reasons why she’s not getting wet enough during sex these days.

Now while I don’t mean this as something offensive, there is a very big chance that your lover is already finding it tough to get sufficiently lubricated when you are at it between the sheets no matter how hard you try.

So if you’re noticing that she’s not that wet down there as usual when you’re heating things up in the bedroom, here are a few possible reasons why you’re having trouble pulling it off these days:

You’re not making her feel fully relaxed.

Let’s kick things off with the most common reason why she’s having a tricky time getting wet: she is not completely relaxed during lovemaking. Unless she is fully so, chances are her body won’t be able to trigger the hormonal reaction needed to get her sufficiently lubricated down there.

See, the brain stimulates the endocrine system to produce and release particular hormones that set off key changes in a woman’s body during sexual arousal. And one of these is making her wet enough for action in the bedroom.

If she’s feeling rushed, distracted or perhaps having a notion that you’re pressuring her to get into it, your lover is just going to stay dry and no sex session will be happening anytime soon.

You’re doing the same things every time.

Sure you may have already pinpointed the techniques and erogenous zones that make your lover ready for a sex session, but simply going for the same things over and over can be rather bland for her sooner or later.

This is something called desensitization in which even the most pleasurable sensations tend to be cancelled out by the body because it became quite immune to these feelings over time. No matter how hard you try getting your partner wet, you won’t pull it off because she won’t experience them like she used to.

Always keep in mind that you should focus on the hot spots that you usually don’t concentrate on when you’re trying to heat things up between the sheets. Remember to mix up your techniques while at it to really get her gushing in no time at all.

You’re not paying attention to your hygiene.

Although I don’t mean any offense with this one, not giving your hygiene the attention it really needs can be quite off-putting to your partner, especially when it comes to making her wet down there during sex.

Make it a point to take regular showers, put on deodorant and just make sure you look and smell nice and you’re good to go. Plus, paying close attention to your hygiene can also help boost your confidence in the process so it’s a win-win situation.

Here are a few tips to ensure that your erections are going to stay rock hard.

Here are a few tips to ensure that your erections are going to stay rock hard.

Sure this may sound surprising, but your strong erections can get rather weak if you don’t take note of a few things that can easily affect their intensity in the long run.

Just imagine how disappointing that would be when you and your lover are getting at it and you’re simply finding yourself unable to achieve a stable erection as usual.

So if you’re looking to keep getting as hard as you can when things get steamy between the sheets, here are some important tips to remember:

Get rid of excessive stress.

Although going through bouts of stress is a normal part of a man’s life, experiencing lots and lots of it constantly can take a toll on your ability to get strong erections sooner or later. This is because too much stress promotes the release of negative hormones that block the key changes in the body during sexual arousal.

If not given the proper amount of attention, exposure to too much stress not only leads to weakening erections, but also to other problems in the bedroom like premature ejaculation and even erectile dysfunction.

Starting a hobby or perhaps finding an interesting activity to do during your downtime are just two simple ways to help you with this.

Keep your heart in the pink.

Your ability to get strong erections greatly depends on how healthy your heart is. See, the heart basically oversees that there is enough blood pumped to the erectile tissues in the penis to make sure that you will really get rock hard.

And if the heart gets sick, it won’t be able to function properly and erection problems will ensue. Examples of health problems that can affect the heart are hypertension, high bad cholesterol as well as soaring blood sugar levels.

Keep your ticker as hale and hearty as possible and you’re always good to go when strong erections are concerned. Kicking off a regular exercise regimen and eating right, particularly keeping clear from too much oily and salty foods, are two ways to ensure optimum heart health.

Masturbate in a regular basis.

Did you know that going solo frequently helps train your body to get rock hard on demand? This is because you are basically “teaching” your brain that it needs to get an erection going with the least effort.

Come to think of it. How cool would that be when you and your lover get frisky in the bedroom and you instantly have a strong erection without a hitch?

There are actually signs that help you determine if she's really enjoying your first date.

There are actually signs that help you determine if she’s really enjoying your first date.

So you’re on a first date with a woman you’ve got your eye on for a long time now and you’d like to ace the whole thing…

The only problem is there’s no such thing as making a woman fall for you as soon as you take her out on a date like a number of so-called “dating gurus” are saying. Sure there are factors that can help you pull it off, but there’s no secret technique that gets the job done like magic.

However, there are a few signs that you can keep an eye out on to determine if she is really enjoying herself during your date. And if you’re looking to boost your chances the next time you’re taking a woman out, make sure you read on…

She’s not checking her phone every couple of minutes.

A woman who’s paying more attention to her phone instead of having a meaningful conversation with you during your first date is rather bored. This means that you need to spice things up fast or else you will blow your chances of acing that date sooner than you think.

It’s either you need to look for another topic to discuss about or perhaps change the mood of the date to a lighter one by telling a joke or sharing an amusing anecdote. Make her feel that you’re fun to be with and it’ll be easier to keep her attention.

She is talking in an animated way.

You know you’re doing a good job during your first date when she is not talking in an awkward way, as if she’s conversing in a reserved manner. This just means that she’s out of her comfort zone and is willing to mingle with you more.

Apart from listening to her intently to gather a few ideas you can use to dazzle her even more, make sure you add meaningful ideas yourself during your discussion. Avoid topics that can be rather sensitive like religion, politics and other subjects that are not appropriate to talk about during a first date.

She is not worried about the time.

A woman who isn’t concerned about stretching the time when it comes to your first date is definitely enjoying the whole thing. When you don’t hear her say “it’s late” or perhaps “I’ve got to get up early tomorrow” constantly, then it’s a sign she’s willing to be with you for a longer time.

Remember to maintain her interest by keeping the mood light and easy and she won’t find it tough to decide that you need to have a second date soon.