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Ending premature ejaculation isn’t as tough as you think.

Having the natural ability to last longer in the bedroom is not an ability that most men possess. Premature ejaculation is considered as one of most common sexual problems for guys across the globe these days and can easily cause significant distress to either the man or his partner. If currently you’re struggling to cope with this rather upsetting issue then make sure you check out the rest of this article to get the lowdown on how to end premature ejaculation in 4 easy steps.

Premature Ejaculation 101

At its simplest, premature ejaculation is basically ejaculating before either partner achieves satisfaction. It is defined by the Diagnostic Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM IV) as reaching the state of orgasm and ejecting semen before a man wants it to occur or too quickly during intercourse to please his partner.

Interestingly, the notion that only a handful of guys suffer from premature ejaculation is a myth. It affects a lot of men at some point in their lives and can happen anywhere from the start of relationships when sexual excitement is for many at its peak to well into long-term relationships.

Quick tips to end premature ejaculation

Sure lasting less than a couple of minutes under the sheets can be quite frustrating and challenging to live with, however, there are ways on how you can effectively curb premature ejaculation. Here are four of the easiest methods you can use to last longer in the bedroom without a hitch:

  • Have the proper mindset. Thinking that you won’t last long enough can lead to reaching orgasm and ejaculating quicker. Instead of worrying about this, just think about satisfying your partner while doing the deed and you’re good to go.
  • Distract yourself. Ejaculating prematurely is your body’s reaction when your arousal level is off the charts. When you feel you’re about to climax quicker than usual, breathe deeply and think about something very drab and uninteresting to take your mind off the edge. You can carry on as soon as you feel your arousal level coming back to a more manageable level.
  • Know your limits. Did you know that having an idea of how much stimulation your penis can take before ejaculating can help you prevent premature ejaculation? You can use the stop-start technique to achieve this. Stimulate your penis to the point that you feel you’re about to reach orgasm and abruptly stop. Repeat as necessary until you’re able to sync your thrusts with the urge to ejaculate.
  • Go solo the first round. As the old maxim goes, practice makes perfect. Masturbating an hour or two before having sexual intercourse can delay orgasm and premature ejaculation. Gaining confidence about not coming too quickly is as easy as knowing your sexual responses and feelings. Just remember not to overdo it though to avoid painful sores and blisters that can ultimately ruin the urge to engage in sexual activity.

Knowing how to stimulate the clitoris properly guarantees sexual satisfaction each and every time.

What’s a mere square inch in size but can give a woman the ultimate sexual satisfaction each time you get her under the sheets? Well, as you’ve probably guessed from the title, the right answer would be the clitoris – and this article is all about demystifying this rather obscure part of the female anatomy and more.

Clitoris 101

The clitoris is basically a bud-like formation that is located at the very top of the vagina. It is packed with very sensitive nerve endings and has the capability to drive a woman wild with sexual ecstasy if stimulated correctly. While the clitoris is unique only to females, it actually shares a few similar characteristics with the penis, the most prominent of which is becoming engorged during sexual arousal.

As you may already know the clitoris is often said to be a gateway to sexual fulfillment among women but there are a few important things that you should know to harness its full power. Give these techniques a try the next time you get intimate with your lady and go beyond average clitoral stimulation:

  • Start slow and easy. Contrary to popular belief, the clitoris isn’t a launch button that immediately sends a woman to coital cloud nine when stroked, touched or kissed. Akin to other erogenous zones found in the female body, the clitoris needs to be stimulated gently and slowly to do its thing. Taking it too fast can lead to over-stimulation, a rather uncomfortable sensation that could ruin your romp in the sack in a snap.
  • Ask her what gets her off. Keeping an open line of communication with your partner during intercourse can help you maximize the pleasuring capabilities of the clitoris. Make sure you ask her if she wants her clitoris touched directly or indirectly, since some women find the former quite painful, and take note of what her preferences are when clitoral stimulation is concerned so that you can always hit the sweet spot each time you get into action.
  • Be unpredictable. Spontaneity is an attribute you’ll need in your arsenal to properly work your partner up to clitoral bliss. Don’t hesitate to give her the full treatment when you’re doing the deed. You can use your tongue, fingers, penis as well as a few specific sex toys to stimulate the clitoris. Make sure you mix it up every few minutes to keep her on the edge and wanting more.
  • Don’t let it dry out. Adequate lubrication is key when stimulating the clitoris and it’s your job to keep it as moist as can be to avoid wrecking the whole experience. Whether you’re using saliva or a commercial lube, always remember not to directly breathe on the clitoris since this causes the glans to become dry and puffy, as well as a potential end to your rather short-lived roll in the hay.
  • Don’t blow your load too soon. The proper stimulation of the clitoris often leads to the dampening of the vagina – and when that happens, penetration almost always ensues. If you know how to avoid premature ejaculation, you’re already guaranteed to finish the job with flying colors. If not, then be sure to track down my other articles on premature ejaculation for help with that too.

If you’ve ever felt flustered, inadequate and simply not up to par when the opportunity for intercourse presents itself, then you have definitely experienced sexual performance anxiety. If you’re dreading the thought of going through it again there’s no need to worry just yet. You’ll get the complete lowdown on how to eliminate sexual performance anxiety as soon as you finish giving this article a thorough read-through.

There are natural ways that you can use to easily eliminate sexual performance anxiety.

What really is sexual performance anxiety?

Sexual performance anxiety is basically a form of negative emotion in which a person thinks that the consequences of a sexual encounter are going to be disastrous. The most common example among men is the thought that they may have an insufficient penile length and girth or sexual stamina that won’t possibly satisfy a willing partner and as for women, the lack of performance under the sheets that could lead to the displeasure of the opposite sex.

There is no specific gender, personality type, age, race and educational attainment when sexual performance anxiety is concerned. Those who are struggling to cope with this disorder are generally afraid of losing the affection and respect that they receive from their partners due to their supposed shortcomings in the bedroom. If not addressed right away, it can lead to even more severe sexual issues sooner or later.

How to eliminate sexual performance anxiety

Although it may not sound as dramatic as other anxiety disorders, sexual performance anxiety can cause a variety of problems ranging from the development of low self-esteem, the deterioration of romantic relationships, coital dysfunction like premature ejaculation, lack of desire for sex and difficulty maintaining an erection, as well the fear of having future sexual experiences.

Now that may sound a bit scary but there are ways you can easily eliminate sexual performance anxiety. Here are just some of the most practical methods you can use to bring back your sexual vigor and confidence:

  • Assess your life outside the bedroom. Have you recently reflected whether or not you are living a stressful life? Stress can come in different forms, particularly in the guise of too much work, too much caffeine, too much tobacco and too much alcohol. Moreover, stress can warp your mindset when it comes to sexual pleasure and you might just view it as another item on your day’s to-do list. Try to remove as much stress factors in your life and you’ll be soon seeing positive changes.
  • Get more exercise. Did you know that exercising regularly not only makes you healthier but also promotes a significant lessening of tension in your body, including sexual performance anxiety? Make it a point to start an exercise routine that suits you as soon as possible to get the results you’ve always wanted. As a bonus, if you’re single you’ll increase your chances with the opposite sex as soon as they see your sexy new physique.
  • Think positive. The human mind is so awesome that you can program it to make your future sexual experiences either award-winning or rather horrible. If you pre-condition your mind that you’re going to perform poorly the next time you get intimate with your partner in the bedroom, chances are you’re going to do just that. Just remember to relax and think positive when doing the deed and you’re sure to take sexual pleasure up a notch.

Getting your wife under the sheets as often as you’d like to is not as complicated as you’ve previously thought.

If you have heard your wife say she’s got a headache or not in the mood more times than you’d care to mention when you try to get intimate with her in the bedroom, this article is definitely for you.

I’ll let you in on a few secrets that won’t just get your partner psyched for sex but also make her want to get it happening under the sheets as much as you do. Here are the things you need to take note of when you’d like to make her hot and actually get some without a fuss:

  • Look and smell the part. Women are very much sensitive to certain stimuli, particularly visual and nasal cues, when sexual arousal is concerned. Unless you’re Johnny Depp, make sure you shave off that rather unkempt beard, keep your oral hygiene in check and take showers more often to increase your chances of getting your wife in the mood for love.
  • Treat her like a lady. Avoid groping her like some sexual object the next time your libido gets off the charts. Seducing your wife takes more than just a cheap swipe at her butt, breasts or genitals. Instead of getting her hot for a round in the sack, you’ll only end up making her upset in the process. Start by making her feel she’s the sexiest and the most attractive woman in the world and you’re guaranteed to be in for great things to come (pun intended).
  • Build sexual tension. Don’t believe what you see in porn flicks. Your wife won’t want to have sex with you just because you kissed her sloppily on the lips for 10 seconds or so. Always give her the (true) impression that you are all for her sexual satisfaction. Take time to seduce your wife. Kiss her gently. Hug her tight. Tease her erogenous zones. Next thing you know, you’re in the bedroom doing the deed.
  • Mix things up. Doing the same things over and over again can be very boring, especially when it comes to sex. Make it a point to regularly integrate fresh sexual elements in your playbook like new positions to try as well as unique ways to stimulate your partner to keep your wife looking forward to your next lovemaking session.
  • Learn how to last longer in bed. Giving your wife the kind of sex she wants is perhaps the best way to make her crave for more time getting under the sheets. Interestingly, you cannot do that if you can’t last long enough in bed to provide your wife with the sexual pleasure and satisfaction she needs. Make sure you learn how to stop premature ejaculation as soon as possible and you’re definitely on the right track.