November 2010 Archives

Being good at foreplay can mean the difference between getting your woman to orgasm within minutes of sex and having her NEVER orgasm.  Here’s how to get your woman super-horny before you start having sex…

Firstly you’ve got to realize how women work differently.  As this article called Sex Tips: Know More About Foreplay puts it, women and men are totally different when it comes to arousal.

Men are like light bulbs and women are like irons.  We can be turned on and off instantly, but women need to be turned on gradually over time.

So how can you use this to your advantage?

Well firstly, take a moment to get into her shoes.  Imagine how you would view sex if it wasn’t a yes or no decision, but rather something that happened over time.

The first thing you’d realize is that you’d have to be in the mood to want to go ahead with it…

Sound familiar?

Because if a woman is not in the mood for sex… She is not in the mood for sex, and no amount of verbal persuasion can change that.

As men we’ve all been there, wanting sex, but our woman doesn’t want it, because she doesn’t feel like it.

It can be frustrating to us because it’s difficult to understand how she feels because we can get turned on in an instant.

But there’s also a flip side to this…

If we understand what women are like we can learn from it.

And the first thing to realize is that since you’ve got to turn her on over time… Why not start earlier?

Why not start teasing and flirting with her during the day?

Say little sexual comments to her throughout the day.

Slowly build up her anticipation for sex.

This way when it finally comes to physical foreplay she’ll already be incredibly excited and you’ll be much less likely to run into the roadblock of “I’m not in the mood”.

You’ll be amazed at the difference this little trick has on your sex life.

And what’s even better is that if she’s really horny she’ll orgasm a lot faster so you have to worry less about how long you last.

But if you are still interested in lasting longer then you’ll want to check out this article on How To Last Long In Bed… This article combined with incredible foreplay is like dynamite for your bedroom skills.

A recent article I read inspired me to write this post.  For anyone thinking of dabbling in sex with an ex here’s my take on the essential precautions you must take…

The first thing I’d recommend if you’re considering “rekindling the flame” with an ex is to read this article called 5 Tips for Sex with the Ex.

It’s a great article, and it’s what inspired me to write this post.

The thing that struck me while reading it was that I noticed an underlying theme that I’ve come across many times before when it comes to dating, relationships, sex, etc.

And that underlying theme is to just take things easy.

Play it cool.

Don’t get overexcited and stress too much too soon.

Don’t make mountains out of molehills.

For example in the article I was just talking about the second tip is “Sex does not equal love”.

What this means is if you go back to have sex with an ex, don’t instantly assume that you’ve suddenly fallen in love again and now you’re going to spend the rest of your lives together.

This is the exact OPPOSITE of playing it cool.

If you were to react like that then you’d probably push your ex away FAST.

Whereas if you play it cool then you probably wouldn’t scare them away and then if you wanted to you could always slowly develop your relationship to take things more seriously again if you wanted to.

Although this is a blog mainly focussed on helping men last longer in bed, I wanted to talk about this because every little thing you do spills over to other areas of your life.

Which means that if you don’t play it cool when you go to have sex with your ex then the chances are that you don’t play it cool when you have sex full stop.

And if you don’t play it cool when you have sex then you’re much more likely to experience premature ejaculation, because being tense and nervous are MASSIVE triggers for premature ejaculation.

The bottom line is play it cool in your relationships and sex, at least at the start (because you can always get more intense later on), and you will be rewarded.

And if you’re looking for some more “tangible” tips for lasting longer in bed, in other words, actual strategies and techniques you can use then you’ll want to check out this article on Premature Ejaculation Cures.

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In case you’ve ever wondered… Condoms definitely DO have an effect on how long you can expect to last during sex.  And here’s how you can use that to your advantage…

But before I get into that let me just cover the fundamentals.

Firstly, if you don’t know how to put on a condom properly then read this article now called Sunday Sex Ed Tips: Condoms.

Secondly, whether or not you practise safe sex is totally down to you.  I am not here to tell you how to live your life or claim that I am a doctor who is making any medical recommendations, but my personal opinion is that you should always wear a condom for health and safety purposes if you are not 100% certain of the person you are with or if you don’t want to risk pregnancy.

With that stuff said… Let me get to the point of this post

The way in which wearing condoms effects premature ejaculation is as follows…

One of the main causes of premature ejaculation is “over-stimulation”.

In other words, when you experience more stimulation than you can handle in a very short period of time that’s when premature ejaculation happens.

So if you can reduce the stimulation you experience down to a more controllable level then naturally you can last longer.

Side note:  I am in NO way saying you should take the pleasure out of sex.  I am just saying that if you orgasm early because of overwhelming pleasure then there’s no harm in reducing the stimulation you experience slightly so you can have the LONG-TERM satisfaction of long-lasting sex, rather than less than a minute’s worth of super-intense pleasure.

And how does this “over-stimulation” concept relate to condoms?

Well when you wear a condom the overall stimulation you experience is reduced.

This is why some men prefer sex without a condom, because they feel more.

But if you struggle with premature ejaculation then wearing a condom can work in your favour.  Since by wearing a condom you reduce the stimulation you experience it’s easier to last longer.

So there you have it.

Not only do condoms keep you safe from disease and unwanted pregnancy, they also help you last longer in bed.

And if you want to last even longer then you can get some thicker condoms to reduce the sensation even more.

But you’ll want to be sure to find the balance between lasting longer and how much pleasure you get, because the goal is not to make it so you feel nothing during sex, but you do want to take your pleasure levels down to a controllable level so you can at least enjoy long-lasting sex.

Alternatively, if you don’t want to use condoms as a “crutch” for lasting longer then you can learn some 100% natural techniques like the ones in this article on How Can I Last Longer In Bed?

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Want to know what women REALLY think about sex and premature ejaculation?  Then check this out…

A mistake that almost ALL men make when it comes to sex is that on some level they forget to really think about what’s going on the woman’s head.

I’m not pointing fingers, because I do this too.

And the reason this happens is because it’s natural to think about everything from your own perspective…  It’s just how we humans work.

But of course thinking from our own perspective doesn’t always lead to ideal outcomes when it comes to stuff like pleasing someone else.

In order to please someone else, aka a woman in bed, you’ve got to understand what they feel and what they enjoy about sex.

And you can’t do this when you’re running on autopilot and going about your business as usual.

You actually have to stop everything you’re doing and focus solely on getting into the mind of the woman you’re going to make love to.

When you stop and take just 5 minutes to solely focus on imagining BEING her, you’ll be amazed at the stuff you’ll discover.

I don’t even have to tell you any magic techniques or tricks, because just by doing this one exercise you’ll discover things you NEVER realized about her.

You’ll discover interesting new ways of pleasuring her and what kind of things she would like you to do in bed, but would probably never tell you.

And on top of that you’ll also probably have this breakthrough…

That women have insecurities too.

And during all that time you spend worrying about premature ejaculation she’s probably worrying about her own stuff.

Articles like this one on Some Of The Sex Mistakes Women Make prove that women are worrying way more about themselves during sex than you could probably ever have thought they were before.

And when you realize this you’ll massively take the pressure off yourself and you’ll find because of taking this pressure off that lasting longer in bed is a lot easier.

Now after you take 5 minutes to get into the mind of the woman you’re going to sleep with go check out my special 3 step method on How To Last Longer In Bed.  Armed with the knowledge of how your woman works you’ll be able to use the techniques needed for lasting longer in bed with 10x more effectiveness.