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I was reading a very interesting blog post today on female orgasm secrets that covered what to do if you do orgasm too early (as well as a bunch of cool stuff on how to give a woman an intense orgasm).

As men we’ve all been in that situation where despite our best efforts there’s nothing we can do to prevent premature ejaculation and we’ve just got to accept that it can’t be prevented in that particular situation.

Now most men when something like this happens just give up, go to sleep or beat themselves up about it.

But the truth is this stuff doesn’t and won’t make things better.

So what can you do in this type of situation instead?

Well like was suggested in the blog post I mentioned earlier, a man should instead refocus all his energy and attention back on the woman.

It’s so easy to as soon as you orgasm to lose all your focus and excitement, drift off to sleep and want to take your attention elsewhere…

But this is the time when your woman needs you most.

Your woman needs that connection and love from you…

Especially if you’ve just orgasmed earlier than expected.

And by reinvesting that focus and attention in her not only will you get a positive reaction from her even if you orgasmed early (don’t forget how important connection and love is to a woman) but you’ll find that you’ll regain your erection much quicker than if you just drift off to sleep, start watching TV or forget about her altogether.

All round it’s a very powerful method for recovering from premature ejaculation and being able to give her a powerful orgasm…

And to be honest it’s kinda similar to the “how to last longer in bed naturally” methods I’ve talked about before, because the fact is that a lot of premature ejaculation problems are all in your head.

But what do YOU think about all this stuff?

Do you really think it’s all in your head?

Drop me a comment below with your answer…

So how much of this premature ejaculation “stuff” do you think is all in your head?

Let me tell you what I think…

Firstly, I’m never going to agree with someone who says that learning how to last longer in bed is 100% in your head.

Sometimes a new technique or thing you do physically during sex can really help you last longer in bed.

But that does NOT mean that things like your beliefs and attitude when it comes to sex don’t have an effect on how long you last.

I’ve just finished reading a very interesting blog post called 10 Ways Not to Suck in Bed and although it includes a whole bunch of actions of what to do to become better in bed, the underlying theme was to “just play it cool”…

Essentially it was saying don’t mess things up by getting too serious too fast or doing weird things you think will impress her…

Just play it cool.

Which when it comes down to it is really an ATTITUDE NOT ACTION.

And just as that article gave some attitudes needed to not suck in bed, if you want to last longer in bed you’ll need some attitudes to help you as well.

Because the truth is I can give you a whole list of “techniques” to use to last longer in bed (and of course I do give those away in many of my articles), but if your head isn’t in the right place then even if I give you the best technique in the world it probably still wouldn’t help you.

So to come full-circle you really need a combination of techniques and solid mental attitude to both last long in bed and be a great a lover.

Let me finish with a tip to help out with each…

1. To improve your mental attitude towards sex spend every day for the next month reading some positive information (like on this blog) about what to do to improve in bed.  This alone will slowly transform your subconscious mind and get it to focus on what really matter when it comes to sex and as a result make you a much better lover.

2. Practice getting really good at using one particular technique per week.  Doing something once is not enough to make a permanent change, you’ve got to do it a few times until it becomes internal. And you shouldn’t move on to trying a different techniques until the first one you’ve tried becomes internal.  So focus on one new technique at a time and get it in your brain.

If you’re wondering what some techniques are that you can use to last longer in bed then check out this article that includes 3 premature ejaculation cures.

But while you’re here…

SHOW ME YOU’RE ALIVE…

By posting a comment below.

I look forward to reading it

Have you ever thought about what the LONG-TERM impact of watching porn is on your sex life?

Well this may shock you…

Because watching porn can have some pretty serious consequences on your ability to please a woman.

And I’m not the first one to notice this either, this article on 10 ways men can screw up in bed, describes one of the top 10 errors made by men in bed as using porn as an instructional guide.

And the reason I believe porn can have a negative effect on your sex skills is because when you watch porn you’re subconsciously feeding your mind information about how to act during sex.

Now this would be no problem if porn was designed to show the best way to make love to a woman so she experiences multiple orgasms…

But the fact is that porn is designed (99% of the time) strictly for viewing pleasure of men.

This means that most of the time the women in porn aren’t really enjoying sex and probably aren’t experiencing orgasms at the intensity that is possible (and that’s if they even experience any at all).

Now of course there will be some porn actresses that do really enjoy sex while being filmed, but my betting is that most of the women enjoy sex a lot more when it’s intimate, with someone they care about and who knows what he’s doing.

The point I’m trying to make is that don’t assume that what you see in porn is what women like and makes them satisfied in bed.

Porn is designed for the viewing pleasure of men, not for teaching men how to be unforgettable lovers.

What I’m not saying is don’t watch porn…

What I’m saying is start becoming aware of anything you learn from porn and think twice before you go ahead and assume that the things you see in porn are what women like.

The other things you should be aware of is that watching porn can also make you last less long in bed…

As strange as that might sound, it’s true and if you’d like to find out why this is and what you can do about it then check out my article on how to prevent premature ejaculation.

In the mean time drop me a comment below to let me know your thoughts on watching porn and its effects on your sex life…

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If you’ve ever wanted to know the real definition of premature ejaculation you’ll find this pretty interesting…

There’s a lot of debate over the real definition of premature ejaculation.

One article I was reading recently said “If you spend the whole time during sex thinking about not ejaculating, that’s PE”.

Although the article was interesting, I disagree with the statement.

Personally I believe there is one definition of PE that can’t be beaten, and that is…

Premature ejaculation is any time you orgasm during sex earlier than you would like to.

Simple really.

And isn’t it true?

If you’re not lasting for as long as you want then you’ve got premature ejaculation.

You are orgasming earlier than you would like to.

Another interesting way to look at it is to say that premature ejaculation is any time you orgasm during sex before your woman does.

This means you could orgasm within 1 minute of sex, but it wouldn’t matter if she does too (which is more than possible with the right skills, by the way).

What I’m really trying to get across here is that there is no fixed time definition of PE.

Lasting 10 minutes in bed is one man’s victory, while another man’s failure.

It’s really all down to your experience of sex.

And it’s something interesting to think about.

Now in this post I really just wanted to discuss the definitions of premature ejaculation, but if you’d like to find out what causes it and what to do about it then you’ll want to check out this article on premature ejaculation.